When your burden is too heavy to carry alone, do you ALLOW others who WANT to he!
Question: When your burden is too heavy to carry alone, do you ALLOW others who WANT to help, carry it for you!?
just wondering why so many people hesitate to do so!.!.!.!.and choose to carry it alone!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
Yeah I see it a lot!. I think it is the I am a rough tough loner (often an American) response!.
I read the story of this solider in the paper today who ended up dead because he was huffing aerosol rather then admit to his broken ness and looking for help!.
It is sad!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I read the story of this solider in the paper today who ended up dead because he was huffing aerosol rather then admit to his broken ness and looking for help!.
It is sad!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I'm open to someone else helping to carry the load a little and I do have some who are wonderful in that way, but my experience has mostly been that I'm the one helping others !. Those that have been there the most are those that I don't need to ask!. When they know something is wrong, or sense it, they actively do something that says " I care, I'm here" and I never have to be put in a position to" ask"!. My closest friend is a perfect example of that!. She's never failed me yet, and she knows instinctively how I feel!. Another reason might be that you need to trust the person you are sharing with!.If they are a blabber mouth and will repeat your confidences, I've learned that is not the person you want to confide in or it will just add to your hurt!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Fear!.
Fear of being 'betrayed' once more, fear of being seen as a failure, fear of feeling helpless, fear of being ashamed, fear of allowing someone that close, fear of false hope, fear of losing what little you have!.!.!.
Need I go on!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Fear of being 'betrayed' once more, fear of being seen as a failure, fear of feeling helpless, fear of being ashamed, fear of allowing someone that close, fear of false hope, fear of losing what little you have!.!.!.
Need I go on!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
No, I always carry my burdens alone!. Sometimes I let people know how heavy they are, but I refuse to ask for help for myself in any way!. I just cant take help that is offered, it makes me feel weak or lacking in some way!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
My pride stands in my way!.!.!.
I have had someone offer me help!.!.!.
*and I need it*
BUT
I turned it down flat!.!.!.!.
It is getting a bit heavy!.!.!.!.!.
and
My shoulders are getting really tired!.!.!.
and
I am trying to think should I suck it up
and
Ask!.!.!.!.I know the answer will be of course!.!.!.!.!.
But
I do so hate to admit "I may possibly have been wrong"
Peace!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I have had someone offer me help!.!.!.
*and I need it*
BUT
I turned it down flat!.!.!.!.
It is getting a bit heavy!.!.!.!.!.
and
My shoulders are getting really tired!.!.!.
and
I am trying to think should I suck it up
and
Ask!.!.!.!.I know the answer will be of course!.!.!.!.!.
But
I do so hate to admit "I may possibly have been wrong"
Peace!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
i carry it alone!. (but i will take a helping hand if i've fallen and need help getting up)
unless venting is considered help in carrying the burden!. i have done that!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
unless venting is considered help in carrying the burden!. i have done that!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I sometimes wish I could ask more than I do!.!.!.and like another said here, have found it easier to ask friends here to listen and help me when I have needed it!. Reaching out here has made me some really good friends now!.!.!.so worked for me!Www@Enter-QA@Com
No even though i have folks around sometimes i choose to have outsiders to help me through bad times!. Seems i can relate better with those whom dont know me that well!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
well, it depends on what it is!.!.but i have learned over the years that i HAVE to have help!.!. i think i am better at knowing my limits!.!Www@Enter-QA@Com
i guess i would!. but i have very broad shoulders to carry mine as well as others burdens!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I wish I had someone to ask for help!. I'd gladly accept a little support with these heavy burdens!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
BennBJ Bear said it all for me too!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
yes i will and have asked for helpWww@Enter-QA@Com
i won't ask for help, even if it's offered!. i have to stumble on my pride!. before I'll accept helpWww@Enter-QA@Com
she aint heavy she!.s my lover!.!.!.!.!.!.!.BosunWww@Enter-QA@Com