When is it okay not to forgive someone for hurting your feelings?!
Question: When is it okay not to forgive someone for hurting your feelings!?
Let's just say, hypothetically speaking of course, that the person has known you for several years and it wasn't accidental!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
when they don't care that they did itWww@Enter-QA@Com
No one ever said you have to forgive!. I don't know why that twisted philosophy ever took root!. It is unnatural!.
Especially if it was done on purpose!. Some things are unforgivable!. If you were that hurt by this person; then screw 'em! Write them out of your life, move on, and forget about them!.
But you do not have to forgive! That is a gift, (or favor), that some people do not deserve! And one that they will take advantage of if they get another chance!.
This applies to both a personal situation as well as in a broader arena!. Forgive too much and you will be weak and used!. A patsy for every fast talker who needs a chump!.
Never be anyones' chump!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Especially if it was done on purpose!. Some things are unforgivable!. If you were that hurt by this person; then screw 'em! Write them out of your life, move on, and forget about them!.
But you do not have to forgive! That is a gift, (or favor), that some people do not deserve! And one that they will take advantage of if they get another chance!.
This applies to both a personal situation as well as in a broader arena!. Forgive too much and you will be weak and used!. A patsy for every fast talker who needs a chump!.
Never be anyones' chump!Www@Enter-QA@Com
People can say things accidentally out of anger!.!.!.or say things that they didn't intend the way you took them!.!.!.however if it's a friend!.!.!.they need to apologize!.!.!.!.and when they do, and are sincerely sorry from the bottom of their hearts then the other person needs to forgive them!.!.!.unless it was something really horrible!.!.!.that they need to go to jail for!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
when you've never been anything but nice to that person and they deliberately & knowingly hurt you!. that's not okay and they don't deserve to be forgiven!. that's just being cruel!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I say you never have to forgive anyone for anything!.!.!.its your own life!. but you'll get over it at some point naturally then it is your choice again to forgive at that point or whatever!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
if they've known you for years and did it on purpose!? they don't deserve to be forgiven!.!.!. you can't hurt someone and just expect that everything is just fine!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
When they give you a knock out drug and take out one of your kidneys to sell on the black market!. Maybe I am just being small minded and petty, but this would be where I would draw the line!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes!. That's a personal choice and sometimes it's just not deserved!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
that would be a time not to forgiveWww@Enter-QA@Com
It's your call!. I wouldn't consider someone like that a friend!. It was done on purpose!.!.!.!.!.better off without them!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
maybe a week or soWww@Enter-QA@Com
no one is making you!.Www@Enter-QA@Com