Is this the most stupid thing you have heard today?!
Question: Sorry ranting but so annoyed
My youngest son is four and autistic, Every two weeks a special needs/pre school teacher visits him.
Today at the end of the visit he was happily sitting on a chair in his own wee place. She insisted he say goodbye which he did grudgingly and them basically forced a hug on him, He has now calmed down after 30 mins approx
god would you not think these professionals would know better
Rant Over,, sorry
Answers: Sorry ranting but so annoyed
My youngest son is four and autistic, Every two weeks a special needs/pre school teacher visits him.
Today at the end of the visit he was happily sitting on a chair in his own wee place. She insisted he say goodbye which he did grudgingly and them basically forced a hug on him, He has now calmed down after 30 mins approx
god would you not think these professionals would know better
Rant Over,, sorry
Having reasons of my own for dealing with health proffessionals with my son it amazes me how some can still be insensitive to the needs of a child.
Rant away!
Dont be sorry, that'd bug me, the stupid thing i've heard today was 'Has the gas man came yet'
Professionals think they have an idea but really their heads are so far up a big black hole they cant see themselves.
They dont know a thing.
No need to apologise.
I think you should ring the teacher now you've calmed down and gently tell her how you feel about her insensitivity.
Yes, totally agree, everytime we visit the in-laws they always make such a fuss for my daughter to kiss them goodbye, she is 6 and she hates it, it so makes me angry, why adults can be so childish, when she refuses they try to bribe her with sweets, I mean come on how desperate can you get???
You would think that a so called proffessional would know whether your son wants to be hugged or not!
I quite agree - you should put in an official complaint against this person, she clearly has no idea about children with autism and their needs
poor kid... I hate people like that...
Yes they should know better. My son is four and is not autistic, but he will not let anyone hug him other than close family members, and he'd have a fit if anyone made him. You would think someone in her position would be a bit more sensible, I don't blame you for being annoyed.
yeah they really should understand that
but I'm sure someone I talk to today will raise the bar of stupidity =P
Why is it, that the "so called" experts, are so good at making people uncomfortable, or upset?
Hope he is calm now. Good luck with the next time.
Rant away love,That sounds awful, it makes you wonder have they ever been around autistic children before , it doesn't sound like it xxx
Next time you see her go and give her a massive hug and invaid her personal space, see how she likes it.
I think some have put nasty answers to this and thats not nice.
This so called professional is totally out of order to force a child whether special needs or not react in a way they did not want to do.
I have a special needs child and i always let him find his own pace.
Good Luck
sorry to hear it...friends kid is autistic and I know what U mean:(...but just woke up and the only thing I heard was that waa waa waaa waaaa waaaa WAAAAAAAAA of my freakin alarm! haha
I agree, they should leave well enough alone ,or better yet ,force the hug at their arrival and them deal with the consequences.
you know what...youre right...these professionals should know better because these little kids will remember what they do forever.
Its not the dumbest thing i heard today btw....the dumbest thing was when my friend told my teacher how drunk she is on sleepyness and he REALLY thought that she was drunk and kept on making questions about alcohol and giving her weird looks. LMAO
I am sorry to say this, but professionals are sometimes not so smart.
I have also found that some professionals have no personal experience with what they are doing. Such as... professionals working with children, have no children of their own and have never had any experience with children. LOL
I wouldn't even want a hug forced on me!
How stupid!!!!
I have worked for about 30 years with people with disabilities of all ages, and THAT was one of the most stupid thing a "professional" working with autistic kids have done. I hope you made sure that special teacher NEVER visit him again.
Even with "ordinary" kids... you must NEVER force a body contact with any of them letalone an autistic one.
Me-thinks you will feel a whole lot better now Mum. Enjoy the rest of your day sweetheart. x
i work in a pre-school...believe me these people have no idea!!! i feel for you cos these 'professionals' are nothing more than trained monkeys!!! Sorry thats my rant over!!
omg! my mum's new bf has 4 autisic kids, an he was a single father till last yr! he has dsone a good job, my mum tries to help out when she can but i understand it to be very stressing, the kids are between 9-15 i think! but as a professional you would think she knew better then that! thats very disrespectul an rude! did you tell her to let him be>?
u cant force them into things especially if they have them screaming fits, where u have to hold them tight an close an rock them till they calm down!
i hope that next time she attends to him as necassary an doesnt force upon him, if he is not comfortable or not ready for something u cant make him, he will do what he wants an is comfortable with!
as with other ppl without disabilities you cant force hugs on them if they dont want it, sure they wont b as upset but still wrong!!
i hope that he is fine now, an this doesnt happen again as i know that it is just stressfull for the parent! an it all could have been avoided!!
hope the rest of your day is good, an your child is good too!!
**its ok you need to get it off your chesy**
we parents understand!!
my son is also 4, VERY hypo, an ppl constantly tell hime to calm down, an that i should do something about it! but he is not a robot he doesnt need to be programmed, he needs to be free an happy, an experiment with things!!
let kids be kids, they will calm eventually when they are ready! i love him just the way he is!!
now i am ranting sorry**
Time to ask for a new helper.
Report her. She should definitely know better.
In never ceases to amaze me just how stupid our teachers truly are. For many years I worked at a job that had me trying to repair things that teachers had done to equipment. Keep in mind that in today's world common sense is frowned upon if not outright ridiculed. You will never find a class on creative thinking or day to day problem solving. I feel for you, and like someone above said, now that you've calmed down, contact the teacher and explain the results of her actions and make sure she understands not to do it again.
my friend has a son who is autistic he is about 9 or 10 i can't remember because he is right between my boys ages, at certain times of the year! anyway he is a fragile little boy, if you say the wrong thing he is set off, before i do or say anything to him, i always say "Caleb your such a handsome boy" if he growls i know its not a good day, and if he giggles and says "i know and Andrea your such a beautiful girl" i know its a day when i can ask for a hug, but it has taken a long time to get to the point where he will actually hug me
and it has been about 3 years and he still tells me that my kids didn't pick up the toys in the back yard, its really funny because, even when my kids aren't around, he tells me they are naughty for not picking them up, and its not like he even had to pick them up his mom did! but he lets me know he is never going to forget that.....lol....
he is so adorable but does have his days!! and i know what your going through, the other day Caleb was set off by being told to go to bed in his own bed, and he is a big boy now, so he threw a kitchen chair at my friend, and proceeded to throw one of his fits, for about an hour! bad thing is he is also epileptic, and has random seizures!
Ffs you'd think they would know being a professional, i dont think half of these people that say they are pros have a clue ya know.
My brother is mentally retard with autistic tendency's, he gets the same way so i completely understand.
It makes you so angry and frustrated sometimes that people are so inconsiderate.
*hugz* xxx
You have a right to rant. But professionals do not always understand each individual case. She, no doubt, as it appears, had good intentions, but you can always educate her about...such unintended accidents.
cheese
fine move on
possibly. I heard someone today say: "ewww, there's oil leaking from my chair... Is that what chairs run on?" -cringe-
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