Do you ever ask yourself,"what have I done to derserve this"?!


Question: Well I have alot lately, It started last October when my youngest son was arrested for being at the worng place, worng time. We had to hire a lawyer and he still got probation for 1 year.
A few weeks later, my oldest son (20) cut his forearm ( on porpose) Lots of stictches there.
About 10 days before Thanksgiving, my Father passed away from cancer.
December 13th, I broke my femur and was out of work until the end of January.
Last Night, again the youngest son (19 BTW) Also tried to commit suicide. (He just got out of the hospital and is resting comfortably.) Now I get the news that My Father's sister has also passed away.
I know that the bible says God doesn't not give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much.
I wonder if anyone else had had such a string of crap happening. I feel like my nerves are so tight that I could break.


Answers: Well I have alot lately, It started last October when my youngest son was arrested for being at the worng place, worng time. We had to hire a lawyer and he still got probation for 1 year.
A few weeks later, my oldest son (20) cut his forearm ( on porpose) Lots of stictches there.
About 10 days before Thanksgiving, my Father passed away from cancer.
December 13th, I broke my femur and was out of work until the end of January.
Last Night, again the youngest son (19 BTW) Also tried to commit suicide. (He just got out of the hospital and is resting comfortably.) Now I get the news that My Father's sister has also passed away.
I know that the bible says God doesn't not give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much.
I wonder if anyone else had had such a string of crap happening. I feel like my nerves are so tight that I could break.

Libby you are so not alone. My mother passed away 2 yrs. ago. I was devastated. At the same time my husband became so ill from diabetes he lost his job. All responsability was on me. His care & finances. Eventually he had his leg amputated. We lost all health coverage,all our money including his retirement fund.Hes on tons of meds with no way to pay for it.My father has been ill & needs family to care for him. So all of this is on my schoulders.I have to pysically care for everyone & pay the bills. We are often broke & hungry. The system has turned its back on us after years of hard work I feel like my life is down the drain. So yes life can be really difficult & nobody has been there for me.But if I can make you feel better then maybe my pain isnt for nothiing.Im so sorry for what youre going tru especially with your boys. I believe in prayer & I'll be prayring for you all tonite. It will get better.My Mom always said.....No matter what happens, it happens for a reason. At the hardest times of my life I think of this & know its true.You are not alone.

I say that a lot

Wow.....sorry to hear about all this........it does seem that it all happens at once, doesn't it?

And yes, I have felt the same way before. Life is definitely not fair, as I see good people suffering and evil people profiting.........

I'll keep you in my thoughts ; )

many times

oh i feel so bad for you!! i hope things start getting better!! things haven't been that bad for me before but i definitely know what you're talking about

i will not tell you my crap life so you dont think i want to compete or be worse then you but trust me. i know what it is like. i keep waiting and waiting that it will get better someday but it seems like i will always have bad sh*t when other people get to be so happy. it is not fair. i hope both of us win the lottery!!!

A few times but I mainly say what did I do in a past life to deserve this crappy one.

yes yes yes!!! you have no idea
don't worry, "this too, shall pass", hopefully, good luck
try to sort things out

There's your problem - they fact you think you deserve or do not deserve things. Things happen...I think the best thing is to tackle things head on...and realise lightening in reality often strikes in the same place twice within a short amount of time...

oh and read 'The God Delusion' by Richard Dawkins...Good luck!

God bless you. I hope you are utilizing your support systems, church friends, work friends, neighbors and us at answers! Your plate is very full now, but this will pass. I hope your sons are getting the help that they need. You take care of you!

My string of crap finely broke. The only thing I can say is keep your chin up it will get better!

Oh you poor thing.

I always find myself thinking that, and i have a good cry over it too :(

Lately no-one cares, so its just me alone fighting my battles.

Itl get better for both of us one day :)

God bless.

xx

Wow..I wish I could give you a hug. Hang in there, true the bible does say that God knows that you are a strong person to endure so many challenges, think of this as well "the Storm will pass" I know how you feel though. And personally I do believe that some people actually have it harder than others. I try my best to take it one day at a time, I know its hard but try to be positive about one thing, even if its just the simple fact of living (living hurts at times ...true) but "this storm shall pass"

Sometimes it just seems like bad things pile up one after the other. It isn't a test, some that you love made bad choices and will learn and grow from them and make you proud and they will always be grateful you were there. It is sad when people pass away, but that is part of the cycle of life. That you had a chance to know and love them can give you strength when you miss them. I wish you much strength and happiness

Oh most definately, there've been times when I've thought to myself that God said He won't give us more then we can handle but I felt as if He had... but I'm alive & survived so I must have been able to handle it. I personally believe the reason bad things happen to good people is because of the poor choices we make in our lives. Then it's up to God to straighten out our mess.

I think most of us question why things happen to us in multiples, especially when there is no good that comes of it (or so we think). Try to remember something tho. All those things that have happened may have been placed in your life, but they did not happen to you directly. They happened to other people. While all those involved are surrounded in your life and close to you, the events that befell those happened to them...not you. Your son chose to end his life because he is unhappy...not to make you unhappy. Your father passed away from cancer, not to make you sad, but because it was his time. It is never easy to explain to someone who is going thru so many trials and tribulations in life that it is not actually happening to them, but those around them. And no one wants to hear that either. My father died at 48 years old 19 years ago. My mother still asks to this day what she did to deserve that. I try to tell her that she did not do anything. It was he who died...not her. It was his time and I'm sure he knew. Perhaps God is trying to make you stronger, or maybe he feels you are already strong and can handle whatever slings and arrows he throws your way. Thankfully you are strong enough and have not broken. I am sorry for all that is gone wrong for you from your son to your father to your own self. I too, would ask "why me?" Instead of asking God why he is doing this to you, why don't you try to look at the situation objectively. You have an oldest son who cut himself on purpose. You have a younger son who has tried to commit suicide. Do you not see a pattern here? As their mother, why have you not tried to find answers to what is making your sons so unhappy that cutting and dying are the only answers to life? That hun, should be where you focus is at. Not why you...but what can you do to stop the cycle that may ultimately take both of your son's lives. There has to be something going on. People don't cut themselves on purpose for fun. There is something bothering him. People don't try to kill themselves for fun either. There is something gravely wrong in your family and I'd be the first to bet God is trying to open your eyes and see what is happening and show you that something needs to be done to help your boys before it is too late. I would be more inclined to thank him than to question his motives. As for the other things, you cannot prevent death. Your father was sick. If he was ill long, I would imagine it was time for him to go and he thankfully went.

Please try to get to the bottom of what is bothering your sons. That should be your first order of business before you start feeling sorry for yourself. Good luck.

Yes and honestly, I don't feel like i've done anything bad enough to deserve what i've been delt in life. (too personal to get into), and may I add I have been beaten down over and over again (like you)

But I feel for you and understand completely

All I do is continue to think, tomorrow will be a better day, and although I have gotten slapped down by life over and over again, i will NOT give up faith, because someone or something is always there to pick me up again and get me on my feet.

I have thought many times about the bible phrase you mentioned, and thought, this is too much for me to handle (and when will it stop), but I guess the fact that I am here and somewhat sane....proves that I can handle it (I do my best anyway)

They say it makes you stronger, i don't know about that, but they say everything happens for a reason, and I am waiting for the day to come to see what that reason may be. I only hope someday all the tragedy life has brought me, will enable me to help someone else in some way.

Stay strong, (there are many like you), and remember God has a plan for all of us, and although we may not understand right now, someday it will all be clear. For now, focus on trying to help others through your experiences (it does help)

Good luck, and i'll say a prayer for you

May tomorrow be a better day! :)

yes many times

Yes I think a lot of people have. Mine happened over a longer period. My mother-in-law was in the hospital dying, we were on the way, hit by drunk driver, bad accident, his mom dies without ever seeing her baby. He dies 10 days later. 10 months later my father drops dead, his brother dies several months later, I had breast cancer, chemo, my 161/2yr old son decides he wants to live with me.then he and his girlfriend get caught in bed by her father and I spen three weeks in a psychiatric hospital. Yes sometimes we are tried to our last strenght but, we do find more.

Over 10 times a day........after all, LIFE is a test of endurance, God made man "in His image and likeness".......so, we have to live up to that.....I know that a lot of crap is happening to you, but this too, shall pass......TRUST ME ON THIS, I'M A LOT OLDER AND HAVE GOTTEN OVER THIS 'THING' A LOT MORE TIMES THAN I CARE TO COUNT......I know this sounds hard to read, but please let YA here be your sounding board, we're here, and WE CARE!!!! One thing at a time, one day at a time....Peace and keep believing!!

All my best to you......

Christopher c_quicker@yahoo.com



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