(survey of opinions) Am I making this more than it is?!
Question: I am attracted to this guy’s intellect. I am not attracted to him physically at all. I probably shouldn’t broadcast this, but I haven’t really been into anyone romantically since high school. So, I don’t even remember what that feels like! I don’t fall for men very easily, but this guy had me thinking about him constantly after a few conversations. I am so perplexed… I’m not sure if I like him or if I just like the things he says. Our conversations have been about society, politics and ethics. These aren’t the most personal of topics, however you can tell a lot about a person through their political beliefs. What do you think? Do I like him as more than a fellow social critic or am I just being swept up in his demagoguery?
I just feel like we clicked. Our ideals are both pretty unconventional, and I haven't met anyone who has agreed with me like this.
Answers: I am attracted to this guy’s intellect. I am not attracted to him physically at all. I probably shouldn’t broadcast this, but I haven’t really been into anyone romantically since high school. So, I don’t even remember what that feels like! I don’t fall for men very easily, but this guy had me thinking about him constantly after a few conversations. I am so perplexed… I’m not sure if I like him or if I just like the things he says. Our conversations have been about society, politics and ethics. These aren’t the most personal of topics, however you can tell a lot about a person through their political beliefs. What do you think? Do I like him as more than a fellow social critic or am I just being swept up in his demagoguery?
I just feel like we clicked. Our ideals are both pretty unconventional, and I haven't met anyone who has agreed with me like this.
Nothing ventured nothing gained. Companionship can come first but not often Go for it!
yeah you guys are pretty much made for each other
awesome. that's important.
There's only one way to know for sure if you like him or simply his ideas and that's of course getting to know him better and spending more time with him. I've had similar situations. I'm primarily attracted to a guy for his intellect. If he is well-spoken, eloquent, well read and cultured, those are all big turn ons for me. So, I would maybe do some thinking on whether you feel you could ever become physically attracted to him. The fact that you're wondering in the first place indicates that there may be a chance. However, giving it time is probably the best and most secure route to take at this point.
Go for it, lust isn't all it's cracked up to be. It can make you do stupid things. Go with your instincts and your rationality.
MARRY HIM!
Well it's very difficult to tell based on what you've provided. It seems that you do like him perhaps in a way more than friends, simply because it has bothered you enough to post it.
But then again we all like people who placate us and agree with what we say. For this reason, there doesn't really seem to be a strong foundation for a relationship...but I think you should go for it for the experience.
I think you should ask him out on a date and just see how it goes, you may be pleasently surprised. It sounds like you two have a lot in common, so why not just dive in? Good luck with everything, keep us posted!
careful of brain washing
You won't always be strongly physically attracted to someone if you are at all! It is better to like someone for the mental balance they have with what you feel and think than just an attraction that is easily cured in one night. If you like what he has to say and he likes what you have to say, there must be a definate connection. Some people are not open with what they feel where as what they think. So just because your conversations have not gone past politics and ethics doesn't mean there is'nt something there besides the mental connection. Someone just needs to step and say hey I really like you...I think your smart and I would really enjoy going out some time:D Its easier said than done I know , but if I were you I would defineately tell him how I felt. You never know he might be waiting for you to make the first move:D
You could simply be starved for intellectual and stimulating conversation, but maybe not.
Next time you are around him, really look at him. Then think to yourself, "If he kissed me right now, would I like that?"
Does he give you any sign that he is interested in you more than to talk with? Does he lean toward you as he's listening, touch your arm or shoulder, call you out of the blue? Do you do these same things to him?
Do remember that sex appeal and looks fade over time. It sounds like you and he have an excellent base to build a future on. You must have like interests and beliefs to have a long and happy relationship. Look a little deeper, and see what you can see.
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I think I know exactly what you're talking about. Something similar happened (and is kinda still happening) to me.
I sort of clicked with a guy... we feel the same way about a lot of things. He's not a pretty guy, definitely not the guy I'd go for, but he's not ugly so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. And we share a lot of points of views. So one day he asks me out and we had a good time. We had a nice chat but to me.... there was nothing there. No attraction, no tension, no chemistry, no nothing. And that's essential in a couple... no matter what anyone says. Attraction is a must.
If there's no attraction you'll have a weak relationship that will fall with the first storm.
Mind you, attraction it's not only about looks...