Can you translate this man language please....?!
Question: ...Well I went out last saturday with a guy....and we had a really good time....after that on sunday he didn't call me at all...neither did I....after that today ( on monday ) he was online...we spoke...and I asked him ..." how are you "? and he said " I'm ok but this week I will have a lot of work "....and It was a really confusing message...and I said to him...I guess we aren't ready enough to date...and he was like, what? why?... he said I want to date you...ok well if he wanted why he didn't call me on sunday and why he had the need to tell me that he will be busy all week? According to my book in the begining you should pay more attention to these little thing...and gradually it doesn't matter if you don't go out even 4 days.
What is your opinion about this? Can you translate please, cos I really don't udnerstand it :)
Answers: ...Well I went out last saturday with a guy....and we had a really good time....after that on sunday he didn't call me at all...neither did I....after that today ( on monday ) he was online...we spoke...and I asked him ..." how are you "? and he said " I'm ok but this week I will have a lot of work "....and It was a really confusing message...and I said to him...I guess we aren't ready enough to date...and he was like, what? why?... he said I want to date you...ok well if he wanted why he didn't call me on sunday and why he had the need to tell me that he will be busy all week? According to my book in the begining you should pay more attention to these little thing...and gradually it doesn't matter if you don't go out even 4 days.
What is your opinion about this? Can you translate please, cos I really don't udnerstand it :)
I've actually never had a man call me directly after a date except the man that I love right now. I was so surprised when we met at a club and he took my number and actually called the next day. Okay, here's the thing. Your guy just isn't that into you. If he was, he'd move heaven to give you a call and make that next date. Sorry, but that's what I think. I may be wrong, but it's my experience that if someone really wants your company, they let you know right away.
I don't understand either. He probably failed English class.
Well why should he have to call you immediately the day after? That would scream desperation to most people.
He probably just has a lot of work this week... it really is that simple. What's so hard to understand?
he likes you but he's just playing hard to get.
He must have had sometnig really important to do
Maybe he is goal driven and the things that he has to do are important that doesn't mean he doesn't want to date you
Usually neither person calls the other the very next day, and maybe he is going to have a busy week.
(Believe it or not, some men actually can be honest and this guy may be one of them.)
Maybe he's gotta check what his wife is doing???
i don't usually call a girl the next day, if i know her AIM i might message her. i don't do it because if i had a good date i like to leave a good impression and not ruin it lol. but if he said "what? why?" when you said that, then it sounds like he wants to date you, maybe he means he just can't go out during the week?
He is trying to make you anxious... and see, it's working like a charm!
I would find that weird too...
Maybe because...
- He had a hangover on Sunday
- He didn't want to disturb you
- He doesn't want to seem too keen and scare you
- Or he was wondering why you didn't call him
The other bit....kindof hard, but might simply mean he isn't available and he realises you're probably going to want to get together. He wants to get that in before you ask, he says "sorry no can do" and you think he's not interested.
Or he's not that interested in things going too quickly and maybe has a different idea to you re. relationships and how much time they take up.
People are strange creatures and trying to read too much into them isn't always the best plan. Just go with the flow...
Maybe he is just really busy,and letting you know before you try and make plans,try giving him time to not be busy....If a guy didn't want to date you,I think he would of said otherwise,because it would put him in a more awkward situation...
Guys don't talk much....for instance i can send a text or email with hundreds of words and i get a one word answer!...he possibly thought you had a good time too and that you'd be happy to go out again but you do seem i little intense. do you want to go ot with him? maybe he was testing the ground to see if you were ok with it....you do need to chill out little hunny... and some books can't teach you about life!
OK give him a chance,he does sound like he wants to date you and this might be your Prince.
i think u read 2 much into it .....
He Had a good time; He also had other 'previous' Business to take Care of; let the poor guy 'Breathe',....He'll get back to you....!!
are you serious? how is being busy confusing, the man is BUSY quit tryin to over analyze the situation.
Well I can give you one advise about online conversations, it does not show you the tone of the voice and facial expression and so on. So its always possible to misunderstand the statement, so avoid impotent convo on chat and just call the person.
Well as a previous person said he might have not called you the day after simply because he does not want to sound desperate and he might actually be busy.
Having said that your correct on the matter where initially people tend to give more attention but may wary according to the person.
the problem with you is that you are so aggressive. you had dated with him last saturday. and because he hadn't call you last sunday, it didn't mean also that he didn't like to date you again. in fact, you talked with him online by Monday. the only thing is, he has work and he'll gonna be busy that's why he said he will have a lot of work. in short, it's telling you that he may not be able to contact or talk to you within this week but hoping to date with you again by the weekend. don't be too selfish of your feelings to want all his attention to you!
*i'll tell you: i really love my Buddy but sometimes i need to be alone without any disturbance. i need to do myself what i want like being @ Y/A rather than talking to him online. but this doesn't all mean that i don't like him nor hiding from him. sometimes a person needs their own privacy too. in some cases, it can be boring.
I wouldn't over analyze his words. I would rather go by his future acts and actions. I know you're thinking that he may have said that to make you back off but don't assume anything just yet. Plus his why? what? tells me not to panic. When it comes to relationships we all move at a different pace. His could be much slower than yours.