Why do people allow others to walk on them?!
Question: When someone does something that bothers me and i ask anyone the pat answer seems to be let it go. OK so you let it go and then no one learns that certain rudenesses, bad attitudes and general bad manners are not acceptable. To me there is turning the other cheek and then there is laying down and being a doormat. And it sure looks to me like more and more people are taking on the role of doormat. Why? When did it become more important to be a doormat than to expect some form of manners? Especially from people who work with the public.
Answers: When someone does something that bothers me and i ask anyone the pat answer seems to be let it go. OK so you let it go and then no one learns that certain rudenesses, bad attitudes and general bad manners are not acceptable. To me there is turning the other cheek and then there is laying down and being a doormat. And it sure looks to me like more and more people are taking on the role of doormat. Why? When did it become more important to be a doormat than to expect some form of manners? Especially from people who work with the public.
you need to turn the other cheek and tell them to kiss it
What you say is correct. I'm not sure why fewer people use less manners today. What's wrong with a little courtesy once in a while?
I think nowadays, people are just more concerned with other things than to deal with people who bother them, so they just become doormats. But where I live, in New York, people will do anything BUT lay down and take crap from others! They'll duke it out, if they have to!
people are crazy.......
You are right that is wrong.
People who use others as doormats don't care if they get called out about it...so rather than wasting my breath bitching about it, I just take myself out of the equation.
I think when you work with the public it is expected that you would let them walk on you, the customer is always right. that is one of the reasons I quit my last job, could not take the rudeness and not allowed to say anything back.
These boots are made for walking, one of these days these boots are gunna walk all over YOU! (Sorry I had to do it)
I will try and turn my cheek, but when I get angry I will not let people walk on me. I ignor people who don't talk to me nicely. (Or try too.)
I geuss its just the way people are. There are passive people, and Agressive people and Passive agressive people. I am passive agressive. And sometimes petty....
I think the answer is:
A.) Low self asteam
B.) Too dam kind hearted
C.) No backbone
D.) Rather see others please, more so theirself
E.) Have to take so much before the inner feeling take over,
before telling one off.
Sadly, but this was me at one time, All of the above.
Revenge is pitiful entertainment for the small minded. Customer service people work with a couple hundred ungrateful, ignorant, power starved people per day. Someone's boss yells at them, they are angry, who's better to yell at then some customer service person that made a simple mistake...?
Give em a break. They make $5.15 per hour.
I mean, if they throw your food at you- jump over the counter and attack em. But if they were just snotty giving you your change- does it really matter that much that you weren't treated like the super special individual you should've been?
out of habit.
One can't take a back seat and allow rudness to simply happen,otherwise there is no end to it.No matter what,when it comes to others who are rude and make people feel like an idiot,I will say something,no matter if it's even very subtle,at least to try to get my point across and let them know that they have to get over themselves sooner or later.Thats a great question and in no way does anyone earn the right to make others feel like a doormat...xxx
I know that everyone has their bad days now and again,but I worked with the public all my life and being rude to customers never gave me any satisfaction,a smile always made the day better!
Ill keep it short, maybe the world needs more to be happy with, than the **** its being served. Im definitly not a hater or a doormat, but can see where people can get it from. I'd rather just keep the smile on my face and hope one day the world could smile back.
you make a good point. to many people would just let sleeping dogs lie then make waves. in this day and age if you correct someone hell you might have more holes in you then you wanted, so its better to just let some asshole think he or she has the upper hand then take a chance of confronting someone and they pull a gun on you.
This is a "bone of contention" with me too! ... In personal relationships it is some times more understandable than in the public setting. In personal relationships there are many things to consider...nothing that makes it OK, mind you but at least more understandable. Often I think families put up with things that no one else would, out of understanding one another really well & understanding situations. But when it comes to public settings... I have a hard time with that. I work for the public & feel that you have to put on your"game face" & be as polite as possible. Manners have begun to take a back seat.....to self indulgence. Many people today wouldn't even hold the door open for a person with crutches anymore! So many are hung up with appearance & being better than anyone else that it's just sad! I was raised to respect my elders & to be polite to others thinking that one day I would get those things in return.....More often than not ....I'm still waiting!
some need affection SO bad that they will put up with anything. i know this first hand my sister marred four scrubs before she found her man.