How BIG a role do your PARENTS play in YOUR LIFE ?!
Question: And how old are you ?
I am curious to know. at what age people lost the main connection between parents and dont depend on them anymore.
If you still do depend on them, on what occasions do you depend on em.
What advice do you take from them.
Feel free to add details.
Answers: And how old are you ?
I am curious to know. at what age people lost the main connection between parents and dont depend on them anymore.
If you still do depend on them, on what occasions do you depend on em.
What advice do you take from them.
Feel free to add details.
I am 40 years old. My mother died in 2000 at the age of 55. My father will be 66 this month.
I moved out of the house 2 weeks after I graduated. I lived away from home for 2 years before joining the military and when my lease was up and the time I went to basic training was 4 months, so I did move back in for those 4 months and worked back home. I haven't lived there since.
I talk to my Dad once or twice a week, even though he lives a couple of hours from me. I still ask him questions. I do miss my mother and sometimes still want to call her just to tell her something that I think she would smile at.
I wouldn't say my family was close growing up. Bad things happened and we all have made mistakes in our lives. I didn't like it when my mother was over protective. I see now why she was to a point. She even wouldn't let us walk to school when we lived 2 houses from it. She thought we would get hit by a car. She loved us and tried to protect us in anyway she thought.
I do think it is so important to have open and honest communication with everyone, especially family.
My Dad use to work on cars, so I will call him sometimes to tell him mechanical things that are happening and he loves to be able to tell me what he thinks is wrong with whatever. He keeps his mind active like that. I have ways of dealing with things myself, and do as I am independent. I, however, will call him just so he feels "needed". He just gives advice.
Before my mother died, we did become closer and I loved going there on weekends to help take care of her. Dad took care of her alone at home with hospice help. She was a caring person who never even complained, even with the pain I know she had to have had. Before her skin cancer took over, I would go home at least once a month to be with my family.
I don't think I have fully lost the connection. I do not want to exclude my father totally from my life. I try to include him. We just don't live together anymore. Since I have a boyfriend, I do not go home and spend a weekend anymore. I will go on a weekend day to see him, usually on a Sunday. My boyfriend has a plane and sometimes we fly to the closest airport and my Dad loves to watch it come in and take us to eat. I have 3 siblings who live within 5 miles from him. I live the fartherst at about 2 hours away.
My father is important in my life in a different way. I worry about him as he has had a heart attack about 3 years ago and doesn't seem to have many friends. I pray for him. He is lonely and still by far no where near ready to date. He won't even just go out and be with someone just as friends. He doesn't understand that you can still go out with a woman just as friends, and not have to date them. He overthinks things ie.... They, the family, may want him to work on thier vehicles etc.... I think they are just excuses. He is his own person and doesn't listen to my advice. He loves going to a store where they know him. He doesn't really need my advice. I still listen to his advice when I need it. He is still my father and I love him and I will always "need" him to an extent.
huge role
I'm 19, and a single mother, for the past 3 years i lived around 2 thousand miles from both my parents and all other family for that matter, i did it completely alone, ive been living out of home since the age of 13. Now just this past month i have moved back to the town my family are in, and i still dont rely on them for anything.
My parents are my oldest and dearest friends. I know I can always depend on them for good advice. I'm 47. I don't think age should have any bearing on feelings of love and respect for your folks. I'm doing things now for them that they are unable to do for themselves. What goes around comes around!
Age 37. Mom is dead. Dad's a jackass and don't have connection with him anymore, so none.
My mother died when I was 15 and my father gave me the boot the day after I turned 18. I was close to my mother and my father and I never had a connection other than his hand across my face., so I was done with him when I left. I'm 28 now and I still miss my mother greatly.
i'm 13 and they try to get into evrything i do. they dont understand ANYTHING
Very important, especially when I was around 6 years old. I can feel the loss of connection however at this age, 14. I'm becoming more independant. I was banned from watching films which contained guns or violence in it. I'm now free to watch whatever program I wish to watch. I think although I'm losing bond, the trust has increased.
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Huge role with me. I don't know what I'd do without them. Dad is 69 last Monday and Mom is going to be 70 in Aug. I think about what life will be like when they are gone and it kills me. They are always there for me and my kids.
I'm 21 and my mother plays a huge role in my life. She is constantly giving me advice and encouragement, and helps me out whenever I need her to. I'm also still living at home as I go to college so she provides financial support as well.
I think good parents will always try to keep their kids from making the same mistakes they made, and not to make the ones they avoided making. Overall, just to find a way to help their kids' lives become as good or better than their experience.
i'm 17years old girl...
my parents not play a BIG role in my life instead my parents are my LIFE...
Hope u understood what i meant..!!!
i depend on my parents all the time. Im 31 and work part time for mental stimulation and my mum has my two girls. I would be lost eithout my mum and dad we have a great relationship
A huge role. I'm almost 20, so I don't really rely on them for much anymore. I was close to them when I was younger, and I still love to go shopping with my mom, or fishing with my dad. My mom and I both hate shopping, but it's really fun to go with her. We both get so irritated at everything, and we always love to people watch. And I'm terrible at fishing, haha but it's always fun to go. =)
well im 11 and my parents punish me for resons i dont always understand, but i know for what ever reaspn they punish me it is for a good reason. im also a guitar frantic and they get me all the stuff i need. i love them and i dont care what they do to me.
I'm 37 and my parents play almost no role in my life anymore. I both love and respect them, they've shaped me as an individual but I don't depend on them for anything other than love at this point in my life. My parents don't really give unsolicited advice, which I appreciate, and I almost never ask for it. That doesn't mean they're not extremely important to me, but it's just a different kind of relationship than when I was younger and more dependant....no emotional blackmail, no head butting and a much easier relationship.
Parents have a huge role in your life, they are older and have experienced every thing you will and when they tell you some thing they just want you to learn from their experiences, young people tend to say they know it all but they don't they haven't been their yet, so listen to your parents and thank God you have them.
I'm 26 and they play no role at all, because they are in heaven!
Although when they were around, I partly stopped relying on them when I was 20 and finished at uni and got a job, although at that time I wasn't paying full rent, only ￡200 a month. And they did still cook for me and do washing so you could still say I was relying on them somewhat!
I stopped relying on them fully when I was 23 and I bought myself a flat, and its been that way ever since. I would always still rely on them for advice.
I think for most people, the dependency fades as they go through their 20s. But it totally depends on the person. I know people approaching 30 who still let"daddy" buy them a brand new car. The parents arent doing their kids any favours doing this. They are just trying to keep the dependancy there. To some parents, if you are not dependant on them, they have been made redundant!
Although dependancy fades with age, the relationship with parents shouldnt. The parental relationship gets better because you can communicate without arguing!
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who are you? i could make your day but i donnot give info to just any body
well me mum cooks me dinner and thats about it and i dont speak to my dad anymore.
just one thing can do it ........its not about what role do parents have in your life.....actually....ITS OUR PARENTS WHO GAVE US LIFE....isn't it?.....
im 12 and my parents and me are very close
You're never too old to need your mum! : )
I'm 38 and I still get on well with my mum but my dad is an ar$e. I've never been close enough to any of them to confide in them and I don't take their advice.
Hitler would have liked my dad! lol
I'm 38...mom gives advice and nags me as if i was a teenager...I seldom listen.
I even came home once to find she had let herself in and moved my furniture around,she left me a note that said "helped myself to tea,hope you like the improvements ive made to your flat"....needless to say it was all moved back within an hour...lol.
i love my mom....but ooooh sometimes i wish i was a orphan..lol
i don't take advice from my parents.
they don't know what crap i go through.