Women, why do we scrutinize our bodies so much?!
Question: I am usually a very confident person but lately I find myself scrutinizing every little flaw my body has because I am concerned about what a certain person is going to think. How do you stop the madness??? :o)
Answers: I am usually a very confident person but lately I find myself scrutinizing every little flaw my body has because I am concerned about what a certain person is going to think. How do you stop the madness??? :o)
I think all the excuses and scapegoating we like to do (ie:media pressure, male expectation) is just crap. We do it to ourselves and to other women. We just expect more from our bodies then men do. We want functionality, resilience and of course an esthetically pleasing form. What so many of us fail to see is how close we get to that ideal. Instead of feeling good about being healthy and strong, and celebrating all the amazing things the female body is capable of (like nurturing new life and multiples), we tend focus on the negative, like cramps and those pounds we wish we didn't have. When I'm in a self critical slump, I try to refocus on the stuff I do like. It can be hard to remember what those are sometimes but every woman is so much more that the sum of her parts. And any man that just doesn't get that isn't worth the time of day.
Ha. Good question, if you find an answer...let me know!
its impossible. its our human nature to. and not just women.
EDIT: to the girl below me, you'd be surprised how much more you scrutinize your body than we scrutinize your body.
Because men do.
Jeff: Blah!
don't count me in the WE, sister
It is the womans curse isn't it. I wish every woman (especially myself) could see themselves as they really are, because I bet we are better than we percieve ourselves.
Why do YOU scrutinize your bodies?!
I would be happy to provide scrutinization services and flood you with compliments.
because there are so many 'perfect' women all over- tv, magazines, movies and such, and as much as our partners deny it, they think these women are hot :( i'm short, curvy, don't have any of the features those goddesses have, but if i'm so pretty then why am i not on a magazine cover? i had a cashier at the grocery store tell me i have the face of an angel- her opinion- but still.... there are women like america ferrera and tyra banks who aren't cookie cutter girls and they're hot and gorgeous too!
CUZ YALL WANNA LOOK LIKE ME ! :)
I go through stages. Sometimes I'm a perfect sex godess and other times I'm scum. Maybe it's hormones!!!
We do it because there is so much pressure to have the perfect body! Noone is perfect though we just have to love our body for what it is!
I know a girl who scrutinizes her face more than anything..but she looks normal..i wouldnt say its just the body! girls are obsesed with everything but i dont blame them with all the tv ads and magazines featuring models and etc
i honestly don't know u just have to stop caring about what others may think of you or if someone finds you attractive. cuz honestly that isn't whats important. u should just be proud of who you are and everything about urself. Confidence is the key!
society and magazines lead us to believe that skinny and beautiful is the only way to be, not every one is so blessed and it's hard not to scrutinize yourself constantly
I find that the more I use my body (work, exercise, hobbies, etc.), the less I obsess about what it looks like. Focus on the great things that your body can do, rather than just what it looks like.
Because we have to live up to our own expectations of what we think we should look like and what other people see is not often what we see and we can be quite hard on ourselves
i don't even look at my body at all
that's a really good question. i'm always concerned about my body. i don't have an answer but i guess it differs from person to person. no ones perfect and everyone has a flaw no matter how big or small you're gonna be concerned about it.
Keep your clothes on. :-D
Or, in my case, take the glasses off. It's easy to look good nekked when you're half-blind.
I think its b/c we see men looking at a certain type of women and we want them to look at us like that so we try and look like that. I was upset last night and my boyfriend finally told me that I was too skinny when we met and he almost didn't want to go out with me b/c he thougth I was sick or anorexic ( i had just gone through a divorse best diet in the world next to the flu) and he told me that I filled out beutifuly and I look healthy now. So I still think I'm fat but its nice that he said it so nicely. LOL
women complain all the time about their bodies. i wish they wouldnt. 80 percent of the women that are complaining have nothing to complain about. it gets annoying after awhile. just accept who you are and be confident. its way more attractive when a woman can just chill and be herself rather than moaning about how she doesnt look like a supermodel.
i think the media, movies, TV, and fashion magazines, etc. give us the idea that we have to be perfect. in every way.
Do you know that in movies they frequently use hand ( or feet) models because the hands or feet of the real actor doesn't look perfect enough?
Because "SOCIETY" glamour mags, tv ads, hollywood starlets, have brained washed you poor weak minded easily led fools.....so sorry to say so
you cant; its what we do.
Always think you are in perfect shape as u must be,,,
It's the media and this messed up world! Women are BEAUTIFUL the way they are and they need to stop trying to cut and form and mold their bodies/faces into unnatural barbie-like figures!
I feel like it is more acceptable for guys to just have normal bodies, but girls have to be perfect. Everyone can't have the perfect body. Those who don't pick it apart.
Keep telling yourself that if that person's not gonna like you for your flaws then you're going to have a big problem even after you get married.
Don't obsess on it. Just do whatever you like to do to keep your mind off of it
because there is always someone else, that we think looks better than us in some way, you just have to come to terms withyourself, and be who you are! me, theres no hope, ill be chasing after the next thing i would like to change about myself after the next! i try to just accept myself, but then a commercial comes on and its all over!
Economics.
Just remember guys are not nearly as critical as women are towards women. Guys basically only look at the parts they like.
because basically women are shallow