My first serious question: how can you love again when you've been betrayed?!
Question: ok here goes, Platy's first serious question: how do you love again when your last love betrayed you? It eats me up a little bit every day.
thanks everyone :)
always,
Platy
Answers: ok here goes, Platy's first serious question: how do you love again when your last love betrayed you? It eats me up a little bit every day.
thanks everyone :)
always,
Platy
Ahhhhh my Precious Platy. CuppyCake knows exactly where you're coming from. You are far too young and beautiful to have anything negative eating at you every day though. I wish I could have five minutes alone with the @ssclown that has done this to your self esteem. You stay positive and you guard your precious heart. You don't let that betrayal rob you of the joy of falling in love again. You are beautiful on the outside darlin - but your inside is pure goodness. I love you honey. Time, distance from the idiot who hurt you and support from the ones who truly love you are going to get you through. **huggles you tight** ?
u simply can't!!
I had the same thing happen to me. It will get better. You will love again, but it will be different. The hardest thing will be learning to trust someone again. It can happen, it just takes time. I wish you the best.
Well you just have to remember every man/woman is not the same. Even though its probly more bad one then there is good ones out there, remember there is always good ones. Just be careful. It would be wrong to treat someone else bad just b/c you got hurt b/for. Dont dwell on the past too much, learn from it and move on. You'll find your match one day.
I always tell ppl this................ it takes time to get over the hurt but you take things slow and don't push! You will know when you're ready to get out there again, trust me! Been there.................
be careful who you date, and just remember that not every guy/girl is the same
its not easy at all,but lucky I found a guy thats willing to stand by me,and love me for me
first, love yourself.
second,forgive,no matter how much it hurts.
third,have a 5 minute cry and then for the next 23 hours and 55 minutes you smile,laugh,and say to yourself "I WILL LOVE AGAIN".
and one more thing,just know that karma is a bi*** and what they did to you will be done to them.
You have to love like you've never been hurt.
First and foremost, you have to forgive the previous love for what they have done to betray/hurt you.
Forgiveness is the key.
Then you have to come to the realization that not everyone is out to hurt you. There are actually some great and honest girls still left in the world.
You can't judge future relationships by past experiences.
You have to make a choice:
You have to decide if you're going to let your past relationship dictate all of your future relationships or are you going to decide to make all future relationships different than the last one. It will continue to eat you up if you don't forgive her. I assure you of this.
just keep your guard up.
I know it's cliched, but it gets better. My first love, my ex-wife cheated on me, and moved to CA to be with him. I swore that was it, eternal bachelorhood. But time passed, I found out things about her past, a pattern behavior with her. Put myself back out there, opened myself up, and have met some great women. Not another love yet, but I know I can handle it. I realized it wasn't my fault. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Sorry, more cliches.
Honey, it's like this. Either you can let yourself become embittered, and let it raise your blood pressure, put you at risk of stroke and heart attack and other health issues- or you can let go of the hurt and hope for better.
Ask me sometime what I been through, and I'm still loving. I feel like giving up-a lot-but I'm still loving.
When you meet someone you want to love, you'll get over it.
:o)
all things get better with time. they might not heal completely but they will get better i promise. you will never be able to love like that again. there isnt a way to love two people in the same way. you just have to have the courage to leave yourself open enough to allow another person to love YOU. and when you are ready, open your heart enough to love back. it sucks and its far from easy. but it is possible. surround yourself with people who care. you will know when its time to move on. there is nothing wrong with staying stagnant as long as it feels safe. personally i always did better with a 'rebound' but everybody is not like that. good luck and msg me if you want to talk.
you will love again, but it will take time for TRUST
i'm going through the same thing myself :( it sucks i still feel absolutely heart broken...and we've been done for over a year now and i haven't been able to move on. hopefully in time it will happen
That happened to me seven years ago. What a devestating shock it was. The SOB had gone on a month long business trip to Thailand and fell for his hotel 'ho, even brought her back some months later and married her. It helps me most to just learn some lessons about human behavior, what to watch out for, to learn to be able to judge who is trustworthy and who is not. Best thing is to just trust yourself and know that you are a great person! Love yourself first, know that you are worthy. The rest will follow in time.
Be happy. Life's too short. Get back on that bicycle and start lovin' again. (I'm here!?!? ;-)
Well I could tell you, you can't treat that person wrong cause of the other people that hurt you, you have to give that person a chance it's not their fault that you were hurt before. When you fall you just get up and try again and someday you will find the right person.
Youve got to take the chance. If not, you'll never have love again. My husband had been burned real bad by his ex, and him and I have been together for 23 yrs now. *
Trust me it is a day by day thing. You will have bad and good days. But it gets better with time. Surround yourself with friends and family who love you and know when to have days alone to go through the grieving process. You do have one. Just know that it is not your fault and that you are still a great person. Hugs Platy XOXOXO