Do you ask your spouses permission to buy something before hand that costs aroun!
Question: My 7 yr old son was having problems at school & I told him if he did his best w/o crying about it for at least 3 weeks then I would buy him this toy he's really been wanting. He's done pretty well & now the time has come & money is a LITTLE short & my husband thinks I should not buy him the toy. We have enough money to pay the bills & buy groceries & still have some left over. I don't see why I shouldn't? My husband thinks nothing of spending $30-$40 every week on pool & about $60 a month on other things. I think I should keep my promise to my son? What do you think? And I shouldn't have to have permission should I?
Answers: My 7 yr old son was having problems at school & I told him if he did his best w/o crying about it for at least 3 weeks then I would buy him this toy he's really been wanting. He's done pretty well & now the time has come & money is a LITTLE short & my husband thinks I should not buy him the toy. We have enough money to pay the bills & buy groceries & still have some left over. I don't see why I shouldn't? My husband thinks nothing of spending $30-$40 every week on pool & about $60 a month on other things. I think I should keep my promise to my son? What do you think? And I shouldn't have to have permission should I?
Sounds Like Your Husband Is A Dooche Bag on this issue
hell no
Why would you need his permission? And why wouldn't he want to reward his son for good behavior? Poor kid......
No, you shouldnt have to have permission.
You don't need persimmon. If money is really that short, tell your husband to cut back on playing pool and "other" stuff. I mean, that's $180-$220 right off the bat (30x4+60=180 or 40x4+60=220).
Permission? No. Knowledge of, of course. But when it comes right down to it..the kids always came first. We would go without for a short while..and sorry, but once a promise is made..it should be kept.
Pool...or teaching your child a lesson about promises. hmmm....tough choice. NOT.
I don't ask permission before spending money on my daughter. I am an adult and I work to make that money. If I want to buy something for my daughter I will. By the way my husband has never told me I can't buy something for her. You promised your son something and you should follow through. He will not trust you if you make promises and don't keep them.
The child should have the toy. He did his part of the bargain, now it is time for you to pay up. You don't want to send him the wrong message...that you aren't true to your word. Good luck. Parenting is the toughest job you'll ever have.
I never have to ask permission to do anything,he's my husband but he doesn't own me.If you promised your son and he has really tried you should buy him his toy and tell your husband to grow up! I don't believe in bribing a child to do well and you should explain to your son that this isn't going to be a regular thing as you can't afford it.
Why do you need permission? You are not a child.
i don't ask anybody's permission for anything!!i work and i'll spend whatever i want to spend,esp,if it's a promise to a child!your husband sounds like a spoiled brat!you should tell him that HE[your husband]gets his "toys"every week!
i just can't believe that your husband would say that!!he should have told you to go buy the child what was promised!!
a promise is a promise,and you don't go back on promises,otherwise your child will grow up,not respecting what the word"promise"means!
go buy that toy,babe!
no you made him a promise go get it /
My husband and I almost always discuss purchases like that even when the money's coming in just fine. That's just us though. I don't think you should NOT buy the toy. A person is only as good as his/her word. Your son held up his end of the bargain, so it's only fair that you should too. It sounds like you should talk with your husband more about the way your family deals with finances. He's obviously spending money you're not comfy with (nor should you be, in my opinion), so it's time to sit down and discuss what's okay and what's not. :)
As a Mom and as an adult you should do what is best for you and for your family.
You're not a child and you do not need permission from anyone. A husband supports, protects, helps out, etc, but never a dominant master!
I only would "discuss" the issue with my spouse if I want to spend money on something frivolous or for something we don't really need, but attention: I Would Discuss it, and Not Asking For Permission.
Asking permission to our spouses means throwing to the garbage the trust and the love a marriage should be founded upon.
That was your child's incentive to do his best. If anybody should do without, your husband can do without pool for a week. I guarantee he will live. lol
If you take away the promise for your child to do better, you lose his trust and he won't believe you the next time you try to give him an incentive. Also, kids don't forget those things easily... if at all.
Permission... hmmm... when your husband starts asking permission for everything he spends money on, then worry about it. : )
Heck.. no..
a promise to Ur son.. is very important..
more so .. than hanging at a bar or whatever..
Ur son needs to no he can trust u and Ur word..
go get the toy..
even if everyone goes hungry .. it is that important to Ur son.. I am sure..
he earned it..
take care
Just make certain your husband doesn't spend it at the bar or on the corner first. Spend it first before he does, why would you have to ask him?