Ever since my mom passed, i have a huge fear/problem with people's?!
Question: breathing. she died in her sleep, she never could breathe right in her sleep, it was like she could barely get air in, and her heart finally couldnt take the strain. she was only 44. but now my bf smokes and he breathes soo loud sometimes ike he is wheezing for breath and i hate it. he says he doesnt even hear it, but i guess its cause he's used to it. also my ex bf has gained a lil more weight (we only hang out like once a month or less) and he breathes soo loud now like its hard for him to breathe. i want them to be healthy but one wont quit smoking and other wont quit eating mcdonalds! it is making me sad that they dont care enough to do anything about it, they just think im a controlling health nut who think s shes right about everything(whic may be true) how do i get them to listen? i even told them a lil about my mom.....
Answers: breathing. she died in her sleep, she never could breathe right in her sleep, it was like she could barely get air in, and her heart finally couldnt take the strain. she was only 44. but now my bf smokes and he breathes soo loud sometimes ike he is wheezing for breath and i hate it. he says he doesnt even hear it, but i guess its cause he's used to it. also my ex bf has gained a lil more weight (we only hang out like once a month or less) and he breathes soo loud now like its hard for him to breathe. i want them to be healthy but one wont quit smoking and other wont quit eating mcdonalds! it is making me sad that they dont care enough to do anything about it, they just think im a controlling health nut who think s shes right about everything(whic may be true) how do i get them to listen? i even told them a lil about my mom.....
I understand my mother died in her sleep ...stopped breathing. Three years ago . I am not what you would say a maam's boy but I cry some even now.It was a sad day when she died.She was a good woman..I was blessed with good folks.I to have the same lung troubles my mother has and I guess one day they will find me that way too
I am so sorry for your loss.
what kind of problem did you mom have? was she overweight? she had sleep apnea ?
I won't quit smoking or eating mcdonalds either but you didn't mention me in your rambling dissertation.
tell them exactyly how u feel and if they loved you then they would change
THEY don't need to do anything. YOU need to get into short term therapy to get over your control issues.
Dont make people live the life you want them to live. Let them live their lifes how they choose. Im sure each knows that smoking is bad for you and eating foods high in fat is not good either.
Too many people want others to live their lifes differently when the most important aspect if having fun with life.
oh, i'm so sorry..
well start crakin down on them..and show'em who's boss!
So sorry to hear about your mom...seems like you already tried hard enough to get them both to quit but they are not so it seems like something is going to have to happen to them or for them to see and then maybe they'll get more serious about it. Keep talking to them about it but I had a friend like that and he had to see for his uncle to die from lung cancer from smoking so much for him to shape up.
Sorry to here, maybe you need some counseling
Unfortunately, as the old adage goes, you can’t help someone until they truly want to be helped themselves. I have loved ones that smoke also and have tried several ways to motivate them but it worked to no avail.
What you can do is to lead a life that is an example. Don’t preach to them because that will only make it worse. Just lead a good life yourself and remember that by taking good care of yourself, you will feel better about your loved ones.
Sorry for the loss of your mom.
Also sorry for your choice in boy friends.
Sorry to hear that.