Who's the wierdo here? Do tell? (details inside)?!


Question: My BFF just invited me to watch the season premiere of Lost with her. I have a 10 year old son, who has a 9 oclock bedtime, she has a 2 year old son who has an 8 oclock bedtime. She has a hubby, I am a widow. The show is on from 8-10. I told her, I didn't have anyone to stay home with my kid, and invited her to come watch it at my house "well the point was to have my hubby and my kid at home with me, and have you come to my house"

and this is helpful to ME how?

Pardon the rant, but this seems to be a common trend with my friends. All of them have thier baby daddy's around, but i'm the one expected to accommodate their needs....

GRRRRRR


Answers: My BFF just invited me to watch the season premiere of Lost with her. I have a 10 year old son, who has a 9 oclock bedtime, she has a 2 year old son who has an 8 oclock bedtime. She has a hubby, I am a widow. The show is on from 8-10. I told her, I didn't have anyone to stay home with my kid, and invited her to come watch it at my house "well the point was to have my hubby and my kid at home with me, and have you come to my house"

and this is helpful to ME how?

Pardon the rant, but this seems to be a common trend with my friends. All of them have thier baby daddy's around, but i'm the one expected to accommodate their needs....

GRRRRRR

You are what alot of people take for granted. You are the "friend that's always there no matter what" and I can guaruntee they'll be the ones feeling "hurt" or "let down" when you leave them alone and don't bother with them when You find BETTER friends.

I'm always there for people who's not there for me unless there's a reward for them or they have nothing better to do. So I'm getting them out of my life because it's only hurting me and obviously not them. I even had a "friend" that never called or anything, yet one day she calls to get a phone number of a person I have nothing to do with?? No "hey, how's it going, I'd love to hang out sometime..." so I never called her back and I erased her number off of my phone...

Just find someone who DOES care about you because that's not friendship. That's just them treating you like a convenient thing because they think the world revolves around them.

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  • I am stuck on the widow part? Did you whack your husband last night?

    baby, you need a real man, like me, sweet thing.
    I'll do anything you tell me to do.
    You are so hot, my shorts are melting.
    Dammmm!

    Just say "thanks for the invite, but I will have to stay home"

    Plus, you dont want to watch LOST with someone, they will probably talk the whole time! LOST needs to be watched, not talked over. Enjoy the show, I CANT WAIT!

    she is just being lazy and doesnt want to drive home after

    honestly they should be more sensitive to your situation
    its not easy for a single mom to go around whenever they feel like it, especially a RESPONSIBLE mom

    her actions speak for themselves.

    Don't go, how selfish can she be?!

    What what??? calm down lady and explain a bit more.

    Im all confused between whos hubby and what your friend wants :S


    Oh ok. She just seems very selfish. Her hubby will be fine at home ... the lad will find something to do.She should just come to yours have a good night with her mate and let the kids have some fun too.
    Sorry, but you have to be a stricter about this to your friend :)

    Sounds to me like she should be coming to your place. Just tell her that. You can't leave because your son needs you at home! So if it's a problem for her to go to your place, you just can't watch it with her.

    your friends are lame and selfish

    It seems that it would have been easier for her to leave her child with her husband and come to your house. I know what it's like raising a kid on your own - mine is 6 and we are divorced but my mom is always going out since my dad died and it's hard to find anyone to watch your child. I sometimes go places and he will fall asleep but I hate waking him up to get him in the house when I get home.

    just say "whateva!"

    your friends suck they should be accommodating you

    i don't understand that at all. if i was her i would love to go over to your place and get away from the husband and kid for a couple hours.

    Sweetie...pardon me for being blunt but it sounds like you need more compassionate friends.

    If anything your friend is being selfish and isn't willing to meet your demands at all. You should just decline her offer and tell her why you are declining as well.

    She thinks her family is more important than yours.

    that's not fair to you, it's really selfish on her part... if she wants to watch it with her husband, she should just call you on the commercials to discuss what's going on. & if this is a pattern, start re-examining your friendships!!!

    She should come to your house - end of story. Her hubby could take care of their baby (who will be in bed - right?) and you two could have a cocktail and watch the show and your sweet boy would be home for his bedtime. Sounds like time to cut her loose honey.

    she is being selfish. I was a single mom for years & my friends did that crap to me. Just stay home & watch it by yourself & then you don't have to share your wine.

    I AM!! Oh there was more to the question than that...

    I have a friend who's wife is sort of that way. She insists on him staying home to be around her and the kids instead of going out. The idea being she wants to be around him to. Then she goes off to do all sorts of things and sometimes pretends we aren't there at all. It may be an insecurity thing. I can't pretend to understand that at all.

    Ross is right on the money. Just say no. Maybe even tell her your side of the situation and then if she can't understand or won't compromise then do what you have to do for you and your own kid. I don't necessarily think its a friendship breaker but if she can't understand your view at all then it may well head in that direction.

    The way this person is treating you, is not the way true friends act.
    Remember, if a friend ceases to be a friend, they never were a friend in the first place.
    So, in fact, you've lost nothing, just gained a little more experience about life.
    Good luck and happy contentment!!

    I haven't read any of the answers yet , but I'm wonderin. . . . . I'm wonderin if anyone else has told you that your real problem is thinking an episode of 'Lost' or any other television show is worth this type of angst ?
    Cause it's not .
    But if you think it is, then you would serve yourself well to get other interests .



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