Poll: How many grew up with an alcoholic parent?!
Question: Mother, father, a step-parent or combination? How did it affect you? Did you ever go to ACOA meetings? 12 step group modeled after AA.
Answers: Mother, father, a step-parent or combination? How did it affect you? Did you ever go to ACOA meetings? 12 step group modeled after AA.
Yes I did. I did attend those meetings several times during my adolescent years usually after my father would come out of detox. It helped to know that I was not the only one going through this but outside of that I did not gain anything, I think my young age had a whole lot to do with that. I just didn't have faith because I had watched my father go in and out of treatment since I was 4 and the results were always the same, he always returned to the bottle, sometimes the very day he would come out of treatment. He was never able to beat his addiction and it caused him to lose everything. His wife ,his kids,his job, his home, and in the end it took his very life. I was placed in foster care 3 days after my 13th birthday. My foster parents were the best, I stayed with them until I was 19. I contribute them and one on one counseling for helping me heal.
Yes my dad but he doesn't get abusive when hes drunk he just gets really silly.
No i didnt
I didn't,thank God but my husband did. She did a lot of things she shouldn't have did (drive drunk, etc.). But she's etter now after going to AA.
nope.. none for me...
Sadly, i did
both of my parents:-(
it doesnt affect me though
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to stop them from smoking comes first though
my dad.... he got out of it
Yes my dad. I still am trying to deal with it and I am 29!
my parents did drugs, they still do but i used to it now i dont care. its thier lives. they wanna mess it up thats fine but ill never forgive them for the hellish life they made for me and my sibs.
Yes. It affected me...in a way I don't think I can really put into words. It's hard to explain. I'm sure you understand. I never went to meetings. I just dealt with it by living my own life and thinking that if my dad wants to **** up his life, that's his problem - not mine. I also took up drumming. It helped to beat the **** out of something lol.
At first I thought you were asking if I grew up with a Catholic parent..lol. Sorry my parents are not, but my dad was abusive in many other ways.
nope not me ...there could not be any alcohol in the house...it was against my parents religion..even for cold medicine there couldnt be any...
hmm lets see my mom, my step dad, my real dad (still is one) , my step mom,,
it really sucked i never really spent anytime with them, it seemed as if i wasnt good enough for them and their beer was,,, no i didnt go to any of those..
my dad and ma neva drank!
they tried their best with many jobs to raise my 8 brothas and sistas!
and i don drink eitha!
I grew up with an alcoholic uncle, aunt, grandfather, great- grandfather, brother and father
my father is alcoholic but he doesn't wanna change. he just wants to drink && drink. It affect b/c sometime it feels like he loves the drinking more than he's family.
thankfully, no
I was just thinking about that this morning..how funny.
Yep, dear ol' daddy was.
I went to Ala teen for a while, when I was younger.
I didn't realize it growing up, but I finally came to accept the fact that both my father and step mother were alcoholics. I think the reason I didn't "see" it then would be that they were "happy" drunks who became more loving and easier to talk to when drinking. They were total lovebirds and spent every night my dad was home drinking glass after glass of wine. Once I got older and I read that anyone who drinks more than 3 alcoholic beverages a day is an alcoholic I finally had to admit the truth.
It hurt me because I was worried about the affect it had on their health more than anything. My dad was a Vietnam Vet and my step mom was very shy so I think they relied on alcohol to give them the courage to open up and actually be able to share themselves and be more loving. I am sad it took that, but in a way I am glad because they seemed so much happier.
I just lost my dad in September to cancer at only 61 years of age. It was sadly due to smoking mainly ... but he also had it in his liver so I can't help but to think the alcohol may have worsened the problem. I will miss my Dad everyday for the rest of my life and so I try and take better care of myself so that my son will have me around. I think this is the main way his drinking affected me. I like to drink on occasion ... but now I am really cautious because of that role model I had while growing up.
Peace to you ...
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my father was. i never went to ACOA meetings. i'm not sure they had that back then.
there was never any love shown when i was growing up. it is very hard for me to show or even feel it now.
I did as my mom was one and married a man and he was one also,They would fight punch scream and he used to drag her all over the house by her hair.I would try to help my mom"and would get thrown across the room by my step daddies as she had 4 of them.I never drink around my son" and if i do have a beer i drink to relax and play pool maybe 4 times a year' out of the house.
Very good question. My parents weren't alcoholic but my Mother's father was...
It is a very interesting and intriguing story, long but true.
I won't say any more for now but thanks for asking. You are very kind.
Both parents
My father was and I did attend Ala-teen for awhile. It helped a little.
I think it was one of the main reasons my parents ran away from the reservation when they were in their teen. It was nothing to do with their parents, but the rampant alcoholism on the reservation then, and still quite true now. This weighs on me to my decision to stay here and keep teaching, because the children see me as a positive roll model, but having to deal with this problem in the community. I have not been threatened yet, but it has happened for others in the recent past.
My grandmother, I still loved her, no Love, honey
Hell, I thought everyones dad brought a case of beer home from work everyday. I thought it was the norm.
Father was a violent drunk. I have memories of being thrown into a wall so hard as a young boy that the wall tiles were knocked out. Happened twice.
Last good memories of my father were when I was 5 years old. He died when I was 39. I loved him, but did not like him.
I went to ACOA meetings for 8 years, helped me a lot too. I highly recommend them.
that would be me. no meetings, thought i would do my own research became an alcoholic myself and then went to meetings. still dry today at 5:19pm.