Have you ever had to tell a friend some thing they didn't want to hear?!
Question: i just did and i know i've hurt her feeling a bit but if i didn't tell her it would have been a lot worst
Answers: i just did and i know i've hurt her feeling a bit but if i didn't tell her it would have been a lot worst
yes its not always a pleasn't job
No, not that i can remember anyway. What did you have to tell her?
Yes, I have and I hated it. But I told her and I said I'm only doing this because I care about you. She told me she needed some time to think and she'd call me when she was ready. She couldn't help being mad at me even though I was only telling her to wake up and get her life right. We got better after that though.
I did and i lost my friend because of it. She wouldnt accept what i told her, she must regret not listening to me now. Good for you for telling your friend, that's what good friends do.
Depends on what you've told her and whether she really needed to hear it or not. You need to give friends reality checks every now and again, but if you've been sleeping with her man (I'm not saying you have) then that's another story.
I had to actually testify in court against my best friend because she had a terrible meth habit (note, I wrote "habit" not "addiction") and she was harming her 5 year old via neglect and such. I testified on behalf of her ex who was a very good parent.
My husband and I tried over and over before that to help her and she flat out said she had no problem (classic denial) and she wanted nothing to do with people who thought that about her.
Her son was taken away from her (Thank GOD!) and he is doing very, very well with his dad.
She died of an OD last summer (on my birthday, in fact) and never resolved anything in her life or with me.
Too bad.
I did the RIGHT thing and I know that if the tables were turned, she would have done it for my kids.
The end.
Yes and i hated every minute of it.....it took a while but eventually she realised i was trying to help and it actually made our frienship stronger xx
Yea i once had to tell my best mate her so called boyfriend had made a pass at me, he twisted everything and blamed it all on me!! needless to say she believed him and fell out with me forever!!!!
i never tell my friends bad things-ignorance is bliss u know and u always have to question what you yourself are getting out of telling him /her
******SIMON D -THIS HAPPENED TO ME ONCE only i kept quiet for that reason and ye they did the dirty on me too-i couldnt win either way
yes i have
yes...i had to tell my best friend that her marriage was definitely over...she was having none of it and was still trying to get back with her ex, he's moved on, he's with another lady now and he has a child with her, he didn't cheat on my friend, but their marriage failed and they both went their separate ways, she still has it in her head that they are going to get back together, but i know for a fact that it's not gonna work, her ex is happy in another relationship, but she still thinks theres a chance...so i had to sit her down and tell her that it's finished, over, zilch and she has to get used to it...she didn't want to hear it but she had to be told...
Yes I have and I know she would tell me something she had to even if it hurt me, hope your friend understands some things just have to be said.
yes it was hard but it was for her own good,she didn't listen and we fell out i'm just hoping one day she will realise why i told her!!!
sometimes...but isn't that part of being a true friend? The only thing is you have to REALLY weigh up beforehand Why you have to say what you have to say...and then...you only know afterwards if it was the right thing to do...
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Yes! My friend is having an affair with a married man and i could no longer hide my feelings about it!!
not that i can remember ????