?.?*′`*?If enviroment makes the person who they are then why ....????*′`*?.??!
Question: .....Is it that i was raised in a really uncaring enviroment , two alcoholic parents , I was left to sit 2 younger brothers all week, day and night when i was not at school from the age of 9.
My Mum was a nasty drunk , then i met a violent guy at age 12 which i married and only recently split from......How is it that I havent turned out violent or become an alcoholic or my brothers???
Answers: .....Is it that i was raised in a really uncaring enviroment , two alcoholic parents , I was left to sit 2 younger brothers all week, day and night when i was not at school from the age of 9.
My Mum was a nasty drunk , then i met a violent guy at age 12 which i married and only recently split from......How is it that I havent turned out violent or become an alcoholic or my brothers???
aww tinkz
you paint a very gloomy picture.....
but i under stand were your comming from as my perents were also alcoholics and there drinking destroyed our family...
i won't go into it to much here .... there were 14 in my family and theres only 7 left.....the other 7 all die'd young....
i'm not a violent person and i don't drink ....well maybe ounce a year at the christmas party... because i wouldn't put my family through what i had to put up when i was a child...my perents were sick...they couldn't coupe with what life through at them...i sure they had there reasons why they drank to exsess..i can only guess it was to numb there pain.....
i've had more sadness and pain in the space of a few years in my life that most people wouldn't go through in a life time..
there was a time when i bleamed God ... but do you know what? it was not Gods fault..even though i wished he would stop the the pain...if he had i wouldn't be the person i am to day....i love my perents and i forgive them for there weakness's and i hope if there is a God that he reunite mum dad brothers and sisters at the end of time because i would love to put my arms around them and tell them how much i love them....as i miss them very much even though they die'd 25 years ago....
but you are right tinkz your life experences makes you what you are.......
and it makes me sick when i here violent people or child melesters saying when there caught it happened to them when they were children and thats why they do what they do...what a load of sh1 t thats more the reason why they shouldn't do it to others...it abit like if someone stuck a pin in my arm and it was very pain full ...well i wouldn't go around sticking pins in people because i know how much it would hurt and i woulden't want to hurt anyone...
tinkz i know when i die i won't go to heaven because i haven't lived a good enough life but if there is a hell and i sent there i want to be the one who torments the ones that hurt children in anyway in this life...i tell you this much i'll show them no mercy.
i don't know if you remember gary glitter a few years ago when he got cought with child porn on his computer and he was crying saying how sorry he was..i knew then the only thing he was sorry about was getting cought and a few years later he was cought again....i would love to get my hands on him and the first thing i would do with him the fecker is cut his balls off and lock him up and through away the keys...
anyway thats enough about that....
i think your a beautiful person inside and out tinkz
and the fact that your not a violent or an alcoholic just proves to me that your a very loving and caring person...
and i'm sorry to hear that you split with your husband but if he was violent tord you you did the right thing its his loss not yours....you have to look after yourself tinkz because he dosen't care if he hurts you or your children in any way...he should be thanking God for his blessings YOU and his children......
i hope and wish that things work out for you tinkz......
i know they will......
i wish you and your family a very happy christmas
YOUR a *STAR* hun and don't let anyone tell you different....
Well i could help you if that's what you want to be.
Perhaps you had the willpower to not get into fights and abuse alcohol. Just a suggestion :/
Why did you marry a violent guy you met at age 12?
Jeebus Christ, if women make such horrible decisions, they have only themselves to blame.
diff people act diff ways, you hooked up with someone almost the same as them it sounds, be strong and stay away from him, you can do it!!
Spirit. You kind of throw off that whole nature v. nurture thing. I think when it comes down to it, we're all just guessing and trying to make predictions. What I'd like to know is, why do (you) think you are the way you are?
there are two possibilities.. positive and/ or negative. If at an early age you realized and know what you want, then you will try to change your life from the life you had, with which i presumed happened to you. and that's a very positive effect. keep it up!
The enviornment doesn't make ther person. The person has the power to choose who they are going to be. You can either choose to be strong and not be like everybody that is around you or you can choose to be weak and follow them around like a lost puppy dog and get lost in the drugs and alcohal that you have grown up around.
Well I believe in a combination of nature and nurture. I can't help but wonder how your brothers turned out. I believe you sought the worst guy who sounds like he treated you much like you had been raised and wised up. Why? Well you were given responsibility at a young age and you cared for two young children.
Obviously as well you had another member of your primary group perhaps a teacher that had a great effect on you as well.
Also couldn't one use the very same argument for the nature debate, exactly what are you saying.
If there is no nurture than how can you explain adopted kids or stepkids that turn out very much like their step parent or adoptive parent.
i'd say most people succumb to the situation, but the strong ones can break out of it...
Because you are one of the good ones out there
Because you have felt the pain firsthand you dont want to inflict that on anybody else
maybe your a work still in progress,
the way i figure it the environment shapes us in a way that we love that environment or we hate it....btw do you hate drinking or hate alcoholics
as for an uncaring environment you were in, its possible you learned what caring was when you took care of your brothers
because we learn from our parents mistakes hun, and i bet from an early age you vowed never to turn out like your parents, and you have done it hun, WELL DONE,
star time
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Some of it is nature but I believe alot of it is nurture as well, yes there is an inherent genetic piece to it, but you can change your stars, dear. You are also the some total of your parts, not just the crude matter that you walk around in.
it depends on your internal soul and thoughts
there are many external factors that effect our nature, but if you are strong internally than it is you who directs yourself?.?*′`*?
try to change your life
it is possible
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