How do you deal with highly defensive people?!
Question: You know, the type that are sometimes too sensitive, and it's hard to know what to say around them, so you don't upset them.
Answers: You know, the type that are sometimes too sensitive, and it's hard to know what to say around them, so you don't upset them.
I usually try to figure out what makes them sensitive. It can help a lot, past experieces can sometimes hurt us so much that people can think that what you are saying is a stab at them. Also, always step back and think about what you say, re-evaluate it, make sure that you wouldn't be offended if someone said it to you. There are so many things that someone can be sensitive to- bad events on the news, political or racial jokes, or something said about their personaility or lifestyle for starters. The person's oversensitivity to something might be annoying to you, but it's usually almost always rooted in something from their past and it can be good to be sensitive yourself.
i dont talk to them alot
I'm a frank person regardless.
I try to avoid people like that. I'm the sort of person who likes to joke around sarcastically. If someone can't take my sarcasm, then I can't take them as friends.
you probably can say what you mean but if you are constantly saying things they don't want to hear, lay off because what you are telling them they are most likely telling themselves already.
Stop talking to them. a simple " hello" is enough.
Kill 'em with kindness.
speak your mind and if they don't like it so be it. you have a right to say what you want to.
understand them, see what they dislike and avoid saying things that could hurt them.
generally, such people open out beautifully and will at a later stage, accept whatever you say.
its only the initial stages that you have to be careful about
Don't worry about their feelings. People need to learn to chill out and stop taking everything like it's a personal attack. Be yourself and it this person can't handle it then tough. You can't modify who you are or how you communicate just as to not offend every tom, dick and harry. Some people just like having something to b!tch about you can't please everyone. You'll exhaust yourself if you try.
they may have a personality disorder. very sensitive people sometimes have borderline personalities. not really good for long term relationships. my advice is stay away. sorry.
It's difficult to do this alone. I think is a group task. The group must not pay him/her a lot of attention when he/she upsets too
easy. That way, he/she will be forced to act normally.