Should I help or kick him out? HELP?!
Question: I have a tenant that is on drugs. I want to help him, by paying for him to go to a treatment facility. But everyone says I'll be waisting my money. What should I do?
Answers: I have a tenant that is on drugs. I want to help him, by paying for him to go to a treatment facility. But everyone says I'll be waisting my money. What should I do?
youre the sweetest and the most kindhearted girl ive ever met on this planet since ive walked this earth.
help him, he needs it and prolly wont forget your kindness.
Go with your heart and remember why you did.
its nice that you want to help him but why cant his family help him out???
Kick him out. He is not your responsibility.
he is not your problem....as long as he is paying his rent and is not disturbing the other tenants....let him be.
Kick him out unless he actually asks for help. Drug users don't get better unless they choose to get better.
Kick him out and move me in.
I feel that u can do both.....help him a little by some kind of medical treatments....if he is not able to co-operate...then kick him out
tell him that you feel bad that he is on drugs, but he is on his all alone on this.
you should taunt him with things like i will kiss if you stop s oking or ask the facilaty how
i think its a nice gesture and shows ur a real caring person, but a majority of pple like him mite not be worth ur time and effort and money.
Kick him out, don't waste your money. It isn't your responsibility.
I would find some orginazation that could help him out! Your heart is in the right place!!!
If only there were more NICE people inthe world like you!
kick him out and don't get involved with his life
if hes a good guy,
and really is commited,
and its not financially a problem for you
then help
if he doesnt give a s h it,
and is an asshoole
kick him out of htere.
You should talk to him and maybe a few of his friends to see if he actually WANTS help.
If he doesn't want the program, it probably won't be affective. It works if you work it!
if they arent ready to quit then they wont
so dont waste your money if he dosent want the help
I'm not sure this is just a tenant, but you cannot know if treatment will do the trick. It takes one who wants to be helped to make that work, no matter who pays for it.
I think you would too, better get rid of him b4 the law some how finds out..
Cop: Were you aware of his drug abuse?
You: Looking stupid, that lets the cop know u did...
Help him. You won't be wasting your money by freeing someone from the shackles of drugs.
Pssht. I tried to help my ex husband who was on heroin. How did he repay me? By cheating on me and abusing me. Kick that junkie out. Your heart is in the right place, but those people never change.
See don't pay him b'coz if u give money to him he will purchase drug
if u want to help him u can take him to the doctor..........instead of pay some money to him
Don't kick him out unless he is late on rent.. You could save his life by making him accountable. If you can afford it, u could save his life helping him into treatment. Only he can make that decision though, that is the honest truth. You didn't say what he was on, some drugs are harder to kick than others.
As long as you are prepared to not see any benefit from your investment go ahead and try it. Only you can answer this really, as you can only go on what you know about him.
that is a tuff one. if the treatment facility is one that he has to stay at in till he is better there is a 50/50 chance it could work if its not I don't see how an addict will go and not buy his drugs. FYI the worst I mean the worst thing you can do for him is pay all of his bills that is making him irresponsible don't do that/ good luck
donate to a charity
(tax write off) instead of throwing your money down the drain....
whatch the a & e show called INTERVENTION
look it up online
These people dont appreciate ANY of the help that they get un only get it when their family and friends have burned out ....
Also before you put on your clara barton hat, you might consider that helping him could be dangerous. Once you are viewed as a source of money, you could find that this person wants to come back to your place and clean you out of house, possesions and your dignity
I am a recovered alcoholic with almost 4 years sober. If you have tried helping him, you have done your part and showed him mercy. He HAS to hit bottom, before he will seek help and if he is the real deal, TRUST ME , he will not change unless he hits bottom. You may have to stop helping him beacuse at this point you may be interfering in the Law of Sowing and Reaping. God bless you for trying to help him.
try to find a state program that can help him, i wouldnt spend my own money...however, i am sure there are a lot of resources out there you can research for him!
Thing is.. you want to help.. it is good to want to help. But a junkie will use you soooo badly. If he is really really into wanting to turn it all around and wants to do the work, you could give it a shot. But likely he will try to string you along. Just go in with your eyes open. Junkies can't help it. But sometimes the best love is tough love. If it were me, he would have to be evicted.
WOW, you have a good heart. It may be worth trying once. Drug addictions are tough to beat. You are taking a huge risk, so set some boundaries for yourself dealing with this person. Don't get too involved, you're setting yourself up to be taken advantage of. Please be careful, whatever you decide to do.
You're primary responsibilities are to yourself and your family. I'm sure your heart is in the right place but please remember that there are resources available for people with drug and alcohol problems. Your tenant could research those resources if he wants to get clean. He could start by calling social services. There are clinics available for those with limited income. In fact, you would be doing him a disservice by paying for him to go to a treatment facility. You just cannot make it too easy for him. Please do not bail him out. Do not cut him a break on the rent. It is only when he reaches rock bottom that he will truly try to get clean. I am speaking from personal experience and from the advice that I received from therapists over the years while my daughter battled with these kinds of issues. Believe it or not...it would be kindest to let him reach rock bottom. I know it's hard but I'm telling you the truth. Good luck.