How would you handle this?!
Question: My wife's mother and brother want to move in with us. They are from Korea and do not speak a lick of english. Her mom wants to help out with wifey as she is preggers and her mother wants her 27 year old brother to come to america and go to dental school. (he wants to be an interior designer and he is gay but we can't talk about that as it is taboo for koreans to even mention that word)
Her mom is how can I say without being judgemental
She makes Old School people say wow you need to catch up with the times. She has asked my wife if we can sacrafice Hank for the baby. I am Not kidding. Because she says Dog Hair causes cancer. No Joke.
I just need to find a way to NOT let them move in with us without upsetting my pregnant wife.
I am holding out on this being a false alarm and they will not come. But Wifey asked her sister and it seams more and more likely.
How would you handle this?
I have already taken up drinking to sooth the pain.
Answers: My wife's mother and brother want to move in with us. They are from Korea and do not speak a lick of english. Her mom wants to help out with wifey as she is preggers and her mother wants her 27 year old brother to come to america and go to dental school. (he wants to be an interior designer and he is gay but we can't talk about that as it is taboo for koreans to even mention that word)
Her mom is how can I say without being judgemental
She makes Old School people say wow you need to catch up with the times. She has asked my wife if we can sacrafice Hank for the baby. I am Not kidding. Because she says Dog Hair causes cancer. No Joke.
I just need to find a way to NOT let them move in with us without upsetting my pregnant wife.
I am holding out on this being a false alarm and they will not come. But Wifey asked her sister and it seams more and more likely.
How would you handle this?
I have already taken up drinking to sooth the pain.
I remember you asking this a while back. It sounds like a bad idea and it will cause lots of stress on your new family!! They really should just move into their own place somewhere close, so they can come visit and you can lock the doors and not answer if need be!! lol Good luck!!
grow a pair
its your house
and they are obviously stark raving bonkers
move to another town and leave no forwarding address.
I would tell my wife to never make me chose between her and my dogs because she wouldn't like how it would end up. Actually, I said that to her while we were dating. My wife, not yours.
Tell them you spoke with an immigration attorney who says you can get into a lot of trouble for having them live there.
I agree, it is YOUR house too. It should be a decision made together and if you both don't agree, then it can't happen. I think if she moved near you or to the same town it would be better than IN YOUR HOUSE...trust me, I lived with my husband's dad and sister and her kids for a LONG TIME, it was not fun, and I would not suggest it.
you say heck no! and I mean it! my dog, my house, and I'm the man of the house! dog hair does not cause cancer!!!!! I have been around a dog sinve the day I was born. That is your house, dog, and wife and baby. Tell her you are the man of the house and if mommy doent like dogs then she can get her own place and not have a dog. Thell me the scientific proof of dog hair and cancer!!??!?!?!?!?!!?
You need to find a way not to let them move in Hank. You and you wifey are going to be having your *own little family soon. I hate to say it, but if she moves in it will surely be the cause of a lot of strife in your marriage. Moving near you in another house or apartment is best. You really need to express this to wifey. Also millions of children are raised in homes that have pets. That is going a bit to far I think.
lol..your a good guy*
try to tell her how you feel in the nicest way possible and say shes right a lot and try to add in your buts..try your hardest to make "good" points too
yeah i wouldnt go for the brother thing hes too old to be living with yall
The drinking won't help. Tell them this is America and in America only the nuclear family lives together and she'll need to get her own place. The 27 y/o could live in San Francisco.
She doesn't really think the dog causes cancer. She just wants a free meal, Sweet and Sour Hank. bow wow.
whatever happens, hank stays. tell your wife it would strain your marriage. be honest. heck, tell her YOUR family is going to move in and see how she likes that.....
First of all.........dog hair does not cause cancer and I wouldnt get rid of my dog for anyone! hes a family member too!!
2nd of all. its your house too!! Tell your wife you are sorry, but her mother and brother are going to have to get their own place if they want to live in the states and they can come over to your house for visits. PUt your foot down and tell her...sorry....thats the way it is. I think her family being there is going to cause more stress on you therefor causeing more stress on your marriage,,,causing more stress on her.
good luck
OMG...don't get mad at me for this okay? Let them come. Get the brother-in-law through dental school and out, taking his momma with him...by then the baby will be grown and on a good schedule thanks to grandma's constant loving attention. You and wifey have to stand firm on we are keeping Hank but take advantage of a built in helper.
drinking might not be enough here...you might have to mix in some drugs with that....and look at the bright side...while wifey is preggo maybe mom can pick up some of the wife's "other duties"...
find a beautiful home thats still close by but far enough away she cant walk on over. and make sure it has elements and scenary the ml will love.
It would depend on YOUR view of these people. Could you live with them on a 24/7 basis. Think it over carefully. Yes, it could work. On the other hand (and speaking from experience having my MIL come live with us) it could wind up destroying your marriage (it happened to me).
Good luck, there is no easy answer for this one.
Hugs!
What a tricky situation!
I'd find a nice apartment in an area suited to your MIL taste and encourage her to live in it.
But first of all you really need to hold a meeting with your wife, MIL and BIL so you can air your opinion on the whole matter.
Good Luck!
I see who wears the pants in that family ................Good Luck,,,,,,,,&