When people "brag" about a "happy marriage", after 10 years,!
Question: Bologna as BS ??
I am married since 8 years, we have two kids, but although you "love", you also "keep it "alive". There is no such thing as a happy marriage I think. To argue , is normal, to have fights, is too ! You give more than you take , you still love, but it's just so far from "perfect" ! Haven't you ever said , during a fight, out of the blue, "I want a divorce"? You know you don't mean it, but you just so happen to say it out loud !!!!!
Answers: Bologna as BS ??
I am married since 8 years, we have two kids, but although you "love", you also "keep it "alive". There is no such thing as a happy marriage I think. To argue , is normal, to have fights, is too ! You give more than you take , you still love, but it's just so far from "perfect" ! Haven't you ever said , during a fight, out of the blue, "I want a divorce"? You know you don't mean it, but you just so happen to say it out loud !!!!!
Sorry Clo I have to disagree with you.
My husband and I have been married for 13 years and yes we have our little tiffs,but that does not mean we dont have a happy marriage.
We do have a Happy marriage.We get along so well and respect each other which makes us happy.It's way better now then when we first got married (the getting to know one another stage).lol
Happy = still together
Unhappy = divorced
Just because you may fight sometimes doesn't mean that it's impossible to have a happy marriage.
lol,,, actually i do have a happy marriage of 13 years
though your right,, i sometimes get the urge to want to kill him,,,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hehehe
You said 'happy' though, not perfect. think it's totally possible to have a happy marriage for as long as you live, as long as you never expect it to be perfect!
try 25 mate - and here you get outta jail free for murder after 20!
AND......I agree with ya!
No I don't think it's bologna. I've been happily married for 30 years. No one's life is perfect - - but a good partner can make even the bad times better.
I know lotsa ppl who are happily married and have been so for years and years...
no, i do i think there is such a thing as a happy marriage,the ups and downs will only bring you closer,otherwise maybe you do need a divorce
lies all lies
no i have never said "i want a divorce" i hope your kids arent hearing these arguments
i dont think that sounds like a healthy relationship
my husbands first priority is my happiness and well-being
he would never say some thing so hurtful to me unless of course he truly wanted a divorce.
married seven years and yes i am happy no bs about it
I have been married almost 25 years. I have a Happy Marriage. But, I don't go around bragging about it unless someone asks how long have I been married. Being married takes a lot of hard work. I agree with you.
yes your exactly right there is no perfect marriage & some people think that there is perfect love out there. it just does not happen. i was married for six years we had kids,good times, & arguments. she decided to end the marriage for someone else which she thought was going to be perfect love. after 2 years with this guy she is not happy at all & regrets her decision.
they are lying if they say their marriage is perfect.saying things that you don't mean when you argue is normal also,but,the d-word-when that starts getting used,well its pretty much the truth coming out,it may take a little while but will happen.especially if its being said almost consistently.
I agree with you because marriage is like an elementary school friendship. One day you're best friends, and the next you're enemies because one of you wants to play baseball and the other wants to play house at recess. But then you decide it's not worth losing a friendship over and you stay friends again, after you decide what you can do to please both of you. I suppose that you could even go your seperate ways for a while... but chances are you will want to be friends again sometime. Like a friendship, marriage truly can't b perfect unless you're a robot or zombie. The reason being:
Humans aren't perfect!!! =]
Nope I've been married for almost 11 years and sure we argue sometimes but thats just part of life. Your not always going to agree and your not going to always get along but you still love each other completely.
NO marriage is perfect and after twenty plus years I can tell you it's all about compromise!!! You give to get and if both don't give you better plan to move on :) If your happy then you and the hubby must be doing something right!
this is the second time for me the first marriage i wasn't happy at all and it last ten years!!!!! the second one i have been married for 12 and yes I'm happy but you know everyone has their up and downs in a marriage,,,,,,,,,
I think happiness needn't be always be perfect, calm and quiet. It can be noisy, rough and tiring. But whatever it is, if at the end of the day you are happy, we can call it a happy marriage.
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To some degree I will agree with you. I have been married for 11 years and yes I also have a few arguments. And what you're saying is true, but I also say I am happily married. So I guess I fall into the category you're speaking of. LOL
I am married and I don't think a happy marriage is bolonga. I think there is a certain line you do not cross including mentioning the D word; divorce. We have not been married that long but have been together for a very long time. The entire time that we have known each other we never call each other out of their name. The worst that we say is "shut up." We say hardheaded, goofball or things like that. Even when you are angry certain things you can never take back. My husband makes me angry. I make him angry. Even in anger, this is the father of my children, the man that I have loved most of my life. If you never thought it when you were not angry, you would never say it when you were. We only argue now and again. Most of the time we have a good time together, laughing and spending time with our kids. When I am 80, I hope we will be the same way. Walking a little slower, but still holding hands.
Well no I don't think it's a lot of bologna as you say. I don't think that these people don't fight, but I think they love as hard as they fight. Just because they say or as you call it brag that they are happy that doesn't mean that they don't have hard times it just means they are still happy in spite of those hard times, that they still want to be together in spite of those hard times and blow out arguments. If you are unhappy in your marriage then you need to evaluate whether you WANT to be married to your spouse and WHETHER you WANT to be happy, because it is a choice like being oh I don't know. . . . jealous. And no I have never heard my grandparents, aunts or uncles who have been married for years scream I want a divorce, I have never heard anyone I know scream that in a fight. I have seen them in some knock down drag out's (all verbal of course). To me you just sound jealous.
Yes..all marriages have their ups and downs....One of my favorite song's sung by Sarah Vaughn is "Sometimes I'm Happy"...she says "I say I hate you because I love you"....I am going to see if I can find the lyrics and come back and post them here for you.
Edit:..yes check it out...it's a beautiful number
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gMA8EGtgD...
Bonus Track:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7T80eFnd...
it takes constant compassion, understanding, and most of all effort.
I find that the ones who brag have the most to lose
i am glad to say that as a newlywed of 8 months we are normal and have our fits over usually nothing in particular and that's what keeps me going..happy marriage? i LOVE MY HUSBAND AND HE LOVES ME..but my happiness comes from within..