Is chivalry dead in America?!
Question: LADIES: Do you have a man that opens the door for you, etc?
GENTS: Do you pull out the chair, etc. for your woman?
I'm one of the lucky few (from what I hear) that has a fiance that doesn't skip a beat when it comes to those things. But man, when we go out I see faces practically getting slammed by doors.
I also heard southern men are more chivalrous then city men, is that true??
Answers: LADIES: Do you have a man that opens the door for you, etc?
GENTS: Do you pull out the chair, etc. for your woman?
I'm one of the lucky few (from what I hear) that has a fiance that doesn't skip a beat when it comes to those things. But man, when we go out I see faces practically getting slammed by doors.
I also heard southern men are more chivalrous then city men, is that true??
It's not dead...just not "popular" nowadays I guess. I personally uphold "the code of the rose" every day. At least I know that it is not dead as long as I practice it.
idk but some are killing it..
Women killed chivalry when they opted for meat head frat-holes over nice guys.
i do all that stuff all the time. i thought all guys do it
Actually my boyfriend does everything he can to make me comfortable. He's a perfect gentleman.
And its not dead, just dying.
P.S. I dont think its a matter of where you're from. My bf is from D.C....
yeah i do that for women
It is not dead, but it is hanging on by a thread.... -_-
My husbnd treasts me like a man should treat a lady. Problem is that most people have pushed the equal rights thing and womens lib so far that men don't want to treat a lady proper.
My boyfriend is not a southern man, but he always opens the door for me...takes my plate after dinner...gets me something to drink...offers me his jacket when i'm chilly...and generally acts like a gentlman--it's one of the many many reasons why I love him so much!
I think it's a matter of manners. I'll hold the door open for the person behind me man or woman. So many times people just let it slam.
The women's lib movement killed any chivalry that was left in America. It only takes one woman to state that she can open a door herself to keep a man from doing it again.
I open the door for my lady and pull out her chair.
i remember once pulling out the chair for my girlfriend. unfortunately she was on her way to sit on it. Thump, right on her ***. ha
I don't think it's dead. I think it's just hibernating someplace.
Chivalry, whats that. Wait till you get married and see how nice he is.
Ahem....Have you been talking to Hillary?
My boyfriend does it for me all the time and you know what it kind of gets on my nerves. I can open my own car door thank you very much.
Honestly I think it's more about what kind of day a person's having than about whether or not he's chivalrous.
If a guy's in a hurry to make it to a class or engrossed in conversation with a friend and he doesn't hold a door for me, I don't take it to mean that he isn't chivalrous..he's just busy or his mind is on other things. I appreciate help when my hands are full or something, but it isn't really a dude's job to be my door caddy.
I'm dating an Englishman and he's very chivalrous. I really like it when men hold the door open for me or pull out the chair when dining. It's just manners really, isn't' it?
Well it really depends from person to person. Personally I don't like having someone constantly do things for me that I am fully capable of doing, every once and awhile is nice but not all the time.
My bf holds the door when he gets there first, but sometimes I beat him to it. If it's a special occasion he'll open the car door, but mainly I do it myself. I feel fully capable of opening my own doors, every once and while it is nice but to much make me feel like I'm incapable of doing it myself.
Now whenever I need him to pick me up or take me somewhere he'll do it, even if it's 1 am. That's what I consider a good bf, willing to help you whenever you do need a hand.
Chivalry is dangerous in modern society. During the period of the ultrafeminist movement, any act that degraded a woman to "weaker" or "lesser" got the courtly man a swift talking to. Thankfully, things are becoming more reasonable. However, you won't catch me holding a door for members of the militant N.O.W.
I believe that men should hold doors, pull out a chair, defer to politeness in conversation, and even stand when a lady enters a formal room. I even believe in tipping a hat to a lady. Remember now, that not all women are ladies...
JL
Well when you don't think about yourself all the time, It is easy to do.
I open the door and hold it for people and will help people in the small ways when I see the opportunity, it is called curtesy or as you put it, Chivalry.
Not many people are very curteous these days :/
I am 70... Born and raised in the State of Maine have and now live in Hershey Pennsylvania.... I have always been that way (chivalrous) and I give all my goodness to my mother since back when I can remember.. I dont know about southern or northern.. I just know you dont learn it over night...
My husband does it all, as far as the more gentlemanly things. Pulls my chair out for me, opens doors..etc. Come to think of it, I hold doors for people all the time too. But I think that is just good manners. Chivalry is different.
The men still open doors for me and I be sure to say thank you everytime.
I even do the same for men, older people, kids...it just shows respect.
I live in a big city, so I think chivalry is still alive anywhere.
I think there are plenty of men out there who are chivalrous. I think there are a lot of women who settle for less. Not saying that women should be pampered, but chivalry is something good to do on every date and to practice with anyone. i hold doors open for men if they are behind me and I am leaving a store or something. I think it's just good to be curtious to everyone. Sad that some people are manner less. Glad you have respect for yourself and chose a man who has manners and treats you with them. Isn't it sad when you see someone being rude.
Well personally I don't have a guy that opens doors for me or anything like that but about the southern men vs. city men that's kind of prejudice, that's like saying that all girls with blue eyes are rude or all girls that have big feet will go to jail.
I am a southern man. I do think that here in northeast America chivalry for the most part is dead. Dead because I've been shouted at for opening a door for what I thought was a lady.
For the most part it is not the fault of the man, it is the fault of the "politically correct" which looks down upon true gentlemen and make them feel ashamed of doing what is right.
If we are out somewhere and my husband forgets, I just walk in front of him and wait by the door until he opens it. When I lived in Texas, I heard men complaining that women don't sit wait ing for them to walk around the car to open the door. If chivalry is dead, it's because both sexes have made it happen.
get over it
Oh hon,
It was never even in America to begin with......