Young people (20 and under) opinion.?!

Young people (20 and under) opinion.?

My friend is 30 and has always seemed like a very intelligent, levelheaded and responcible person to me. However the past few months many odd things have happened.

She lost her job five months ago and has failed to look for a new job, she has even been offered jobs (she's very good in her field) and refused them.

She met a guy about 4 months ago. He is 19. They are now engaged to be married in less than a month. They have also decided not to use any form of birth control.

I just dont get it. She is now a completely different person from what I knew before.

What is going on and why would a 19 year old want to marry a 30 year old with no job with in 5 months of meeting her?

She must've been extremely discouraged, and possibly even questioned her own abilities in the work she does (even though you say she's very proficient). It is normal for one to get discouraged, but they should be willing to pick themselves up and get back to work. She has completely lost hope in her skills, which explains why she never looked for another job, and turned down the ones she was offered. She needs help getting back her confidence within herself.

Young men have some sort of fixation for older women. Myself included. There are many reasons why young guys like older women, to each their own. But this guy is only 19. He is still young and naive to the world, in spite of what he thinks he might know. He's being warped around by your friend, and thinks he's in love with her. He has got a lot to learn, and personally, I don't think he should be marrying this woman....not yet anyway. He's got to experience the world. See what life has got to offer him. He's got many possibilities out there for him, and he's going to be tossing a lot of them away by getting married. And once children come into the picture, he can simply forget about even having a life anymore.

As for your friend, I believe that the loss of her job was a turning point in her life. It has changed her into a new person, perhaps maybe she sees the world in a whole new (and most likely, negative) perspective since she got fired. And with this young buck crossing her path, he seems to be her last beacon of hope. Plus, she's 30 years old. Unlike her young beau, her biological clock is ticking, so she's trying to put a rush on things, which is very bad for him. The age difference is too great for this relationship to be completely functional: one needs to hurry up while the other needs to take it slow. And without a job on her part, it has an even stronger chance of failing. She's got a lot more life and job experience, so she must be doing the work to support each other, especially if they're engaged. He's 19. He hasn't even gotten in any college schooling, and so the best he can do it flip burgers or join the military. They both need to get their acts together and realize that this relationship is not going to last if they continue on the paths they're on.