Do People/Do you feel that...?!
Question: 1)Do people consider you a poser for not "looking" the way you're supposed to dress for fashion to listen to a specific type of music, even if you listen to it and know more music about that specific genre than they do?
Example - If you know a lot of Underground Metal but do not dress like one but have friends that only know mainstream Metal and no underground but are only into the fashion and trend mostly but consider you a poser.
2)Do you feel that most people who listen to a specific type of genre are only into the fashion instead of the music?
Ex - They spend all their money just on the clothes,and trying to look "cool" but could care less about the music
I was just wondering. Its just because I look like a very normal looking person in real life 9.5/10 of the time without a band t shirt the majority of the time and my friends who only into mainstream Metal consider me a poser for not looking like a "Metal Head" yet I know more music than them.
Your thoughts?
Answers: 1)Do people consider you a poser for not "looking" the way you're supposed to dress for fashion to listen to a specific type of music, even if you listen to it and know more music about that specific genre than they do?
Example - If you know a lot of Underground Metal but do not dress like one but have friends that only know mainstream Metal and no underground but are only into the fashion and trend mostly but consider you a poser.
2)Do you feel that most people who listen to a specific type of genre are only into the fashion instead of the music?
Ex - They spend all their money just on the clothes,and trying to look "cool" but could care less about the music
I was just wondering. Its just because I look like a very normal looking person in real life 9.5/10 of the time without a band t shirt the majority of the time and my friends who only into mainstream Metal consider me a poser for not looking like a "Metal Head" yet I know more music than them.
Your thoughts?
1) Most definitely. I don't have the typical rocker look at all also the fact that I'm a really small innocent looking Asian girl makes a lot of people believe I'm joking when I say I'm a fan of say Opeth or Dream Theater. No one around me (excluding people I've met on answers) takes my music suggestions seriously cause they think I'm some stupid poser chick who has no idea who Pink Floyd is. I have several Pink Floyd T- Shirts and this one guy laughed at me and said "Why do you pretend to like Pink Floyd, I bet you don't even know their first album". Funny thing was he said Dark Side of the Moon was their first album. Moron.
2) I've found that a lot of people see fashion as an important part of music (mostly teens) but I try to ignore them. Those are usually people who don't care about music that much anyway and just want the image.
Sorry for the rant :0 )
EDIT: Yea... I hate it when people assume that I only listen to pop and classical, am great at math and can do Kungfu cause I'm Asian. And I SUCK at math :0D
Ever get called twinkie? (aka yellow on the outside, white on the inside)? I get that a lot.
It's nice to find someone who relates :O)
That's a fact. The same goes here.
1) Yeah, I agree with what you said. People consider you a poser for not looking the right way, dressing in the right fashion or maybe because they like a certain style.
2) I wouldn't say most people.. I know the whole "emo" or "scene" fashion is going around, but it's really weird because you don't see that happening with other genres of music outside of Rock.
Answer to 1) No, I think it shows that they're more into the music then the image that comes with it 2)Yeah I guess so, maybe because they see their favorite artists dress that then thats what they should wear.
I don't necesarrily dress like a metahead, I don't have long hair, although I shave my head and have a long goattee,
1)? no i dont think that i mean i like fall out boy and people think there emo(THERE NOT BY THE WAY) but i dress the way i want not because of the way the band is........2)?sometimes yes they just want to fit in with there friends......i hope i gave u the answer u were looking for
1. I don't know if they consider me a poser but I don't really fit in with the visual cliche stereotype of someone who listens to metal music. I don't wear band tees or all black or chains or dark makeup but I do like listening to rock and metal music. Most people are a little shocked when I tell them the music I'm into but that just goes to show how often people base judgements on looks
2.I'm sure some people like the fashion behind the music and do not really like the music itself but I think that's really in middle and high school, you know cliques and peer pressure, I mean it's normal kids are just trying to figure out what works for them so it doesn't really bother me.
Despite the fact that I do not look like a rocker chick I do love the music and support the bands and that's all that matters.
I will so go a metal show wearing a shirt with little pink stars on it, and jeans. I dont feel the need to prove myself to anyone. I know I like the music, or I wouldnt be there. I do have metal shirts, of bands I greatly like, but I rarely wear them anywhere besides around my house or to friends houses. Dont worry, if you like the music, F*ck 'em. Most "Metal Heads" dont take me seriously anyhow. God Forbid a girl know more about metal then they do.
I don't give a sh*t what people think. I like fashion and I like the music I listen to. I spend most of my money on shows and some on clothes too. I like to have my hair the way I want it. I listen to tons of different types of music so no one can say I just listen to the flavor of the month just to be cool. The end.
Edit: Yeah, I get what you say. But people think I'm just in it for the fashion and its frustrating. Its cool you understand though.
1. They might consider me to be a poser. I'm a 32-year-old Deftones fan who wears suits to meetings and lives in jeans and t-shirts when I'm out of the office...which is very different than how their fans typically dress. A large part of their fan base is younger, so they might start dressing differently when they get full-time jobs and responsibilities. And if they want to consider me to be a poser because I don't look like them, that's fine...it doesn't diminish how I feel about the band itself.
2. To certain genres, yes. *Some* of the more recent types of music that have entered the scene are all flash and no substance, and their fans seem to follow suit.
1) I've never considered myself to belong to any specific genre of music so I have no idea how I'd be dressing for it anyway. Throughout my life I've had a large variation of friends who I was able to look through such trivial differences and form strong bonds with although our tastes might have been different. My tastes include indie and punk, hip hop, jazz, R&B and classic country amongst others and I'm still getting into more styles as my friends' ages range from 25 to 55 (I'm 36) and I'm continually finding out more from them. And honestly, I find fashion to be a waste of my time. Until I moved up north where it's cold, I was strictly a T-shirt and shorts kind of guy. Now instead it's usually a pair of cargo pants and a hoodie. If they don't like it, f*** 'em.
2) The older I get, not so much, although there was a bit of a difference at a younger age, particularly in high school. Growing up in a smaller town (about 25,000) you had the jocks with hair metal, the preps with goth and new wave, and the country fans, as well as a smattering of different groups. It didn't seem to me as if there was that big of a difference. Or maybe I just didn't care enough to notice.
Sookie's right though, with a kid in middle school, I even notice that there is more of a difference between groups than 18 years ago. It's funny, he comes home now and says "so-and so" is emo now and all I can do is shake my head and think how pathetic.
1. Nobody I know has ever called me a poser for not looking like the bands I listen to. Once you get out of the plastic confines of high school, most people don't think in those terms. I listen to a lot of punk, industrial, Goth and metal. Yet, I have no tattoos, piercings or long hair. Oh, my! Does this mean I've broken some sort of sacred code that one must look like what they listen to? Sorry, that's silliness. I hope you don't buy into that.
2. Again, I can't speak for everyone but I don't believe that either. Most people choose their music based on what they like to listen to. I would have to assume that anyone who would pick their music based strictly on fashion would be a youngster merely trying to fit in. That's code for "emo."
Yeah, I've grown up around the Grateful Dead but aside from the long hair I don't do the things that most people seem to think Deadheads do. I generally find that these people don't know what they're talking about. I've had people try to score from me simply because they see me wearing a Dead T shirt. "Well you're wearing a Dead t-shirt so you must have something on you" and "I know how Deadheads are".
I'm sorry that you and Sarah have had problems because of you ethnicity. I look Caucasian but I'm mixed and have had people treat me bad when they've found out my heritage.
1. i don't really have this problem, as i really think i am fortunate enough to where my friends judge me on who i am and not how i look or am supposed to look, but from an objective point of view i'd say that i don't really look like someone who's into classic rock and things like that...i'm of asian descent and have noticed that a lot of asian americans seem to be into rap/hip hop and dress accordingly
2. i don't think so, i think that holds true for some people more than others(i would say teenagers more than younger children or adults, because of the need to "fit in" in a high school environment for most), for some genres of music more than others(and for this rap has to be the perfect example, the "gangsta" style for dressing)...but overall, i would say that most people really do enjoy the music, otherwise they wouldn't have wasted their time buying the clothes
Yeah. They do at times, but I feel the word poser is often misused. Just because you listen to a genre it doesn't necessarily mean you should dress the part. I listen to "emo music" and don't dress like an emo. Or the way people expect me to dress. I think people just find things to pick at, their merely grasping for straws.
Those that are only into the "fashion" instead of the music, are completely lame beyond description. It's not about what you wear, at the end of the day it's about the music, nothing more and nothing less. People are always trying to prove something when they make comparisons like these ones.
It really makes me wonder why they even invest all the time, if all they're going to do is bash others because they don't look the way they're "suppose too".
dark, man frankly i'm way a bit old to pay attention when and what people think of me LOL. seriously, i don't give a flying goose. I do wear what I want, and listen to musicv i love with passion :). of course I do wear suit when i do work and so on. but off business: jeans t-shirt, or plain cloth, no pircing, no tattoes LOL.
you would be surpise but I wear dress pants and tie :) @ work because I work as a system admin
ignorance gives birth to stereotyping, :)
About the first one, yes I get what you mean! You're supposed to dress the part, otherwise people don't think you have any cred haha. Like you need a T-shirt to prove something. It also happens if you're a young female -males especially tend to assume you like Mariah Carey or something "girly" (as opposed to Indie music & 80s metal etc)
I was out one night playing pool after a black tie event (ie I had a nice dress on) & I actually got into a debate with this guy who thought he was some big expert just because he just came from a music festival. This d*ck actually challenged me to name the next song to be played on the juke box "before the vocals" and 2 seconds into the song I told him it what it was (Enema by Tool) & you should have seen his face. He shut up & changed the conversation. It was one of those glorious moments that hardly ever happens to me...and I thought I bet if I had a nose ring/blue hair/whatever this conversation would not have taken place...
It's actually gotten to the stage where I'm almost scared to wear my Ramones T-shirt, just in case truly cool people assume I'M some stupid poseur who's trying to impress everyone haha
Excuse the essay there.......in conclusion (!) don't worry about people like that, you know you're the real deal :)