If people hurt you, do you let them know?!
Question: If people hurt you, do you let them know!?
whats your sign!?
im mostly refering to people you are close with or you trust!?
what do you do when you make effort to be nice to them and it seems they dont appreciate it!?
sometiems i feel stupid for feeling offended cos i realise im heaps sensitive (cancer)
whats your mars, moon and sun!?
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im mostly refering to people you are close with or you trust!?
what do you do when you make effort to be nice to them and it seems they dont appreciate it!?
sometiems i feel stupid for feeling offended cos i realise im heaps sensitive (cancer)
whats your mars, moon and sun!?
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Answers:
Be true to you sweet K!
I have come to appreciate that how a person feels is often times more important to them then anyone else!. I had some people do some Gah awful things to me and I thought the few people who actually knew the truth would feel for me and not want to stay close friends with the people responsible for causing me heart wrenching pain but they didn't!. You know why!? because it didn't happen to them!. They understood that it was awful and told me and they were there to listen but that was it!.
They were my feelings and so they were most important to me!
Now this doesn't mean that this is a license for people to mow you over or treat your feelings as unimportant just understand that they might not be and may never be as important as they are to you!.
You know you are a wee bit sensitive (more than some might be) so again, that is something you'll have to always keep in mind so that you can maintain a balanced view!.
I've had friends who it seemed like everything was always about their feelings----->which of course misses the aspect of my feelings too right!?
Balance balance and then balance again!.
You tell them for sure the "real" hurtful things, but don't hold on to it!. Say it and let it go!. Be consistent with the really important things so they can see it is important to you!. If they want to stay a friend of yours they will respect those feelings whether they agree with them or not!.
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I have come to appreciate that how a person feels is often times more important to them then anyone else!. I had some people do some Gah awful things to me and I thought the few people who actually knew the truth would feel for me and not want to stay close friends with the people responsible for causing me heart wrenching pain but they didn't!. You know why!? because it didn't happen to them!. They understood that it was awful and told me and they were there to listen but that was it!.
They were my feelings and so they were most important to me!
Now this doesn't mean that this is a license for people to mow you over or treat your feelings as unimportant just understand that they might not be and may never be as important as they are to you!.
You know you are a wee bit sensitive (more than some might be) so again, that is something you'll have to always keep in mind so that you can maintain a balanced view!.
I've had friends who it seemed like everything was always about their feelings----->which of course misses the aspect of my feelings too right!?
Balance balance and then balance again!.
You tell them for sure the "real" hurtful things, but don't hold on to it!. Say it and let it go!. Be consistent with the really important things so they can see it is important to you!. If they want to stay a friend of yours they will respect those feelings whether they agree with them or not!.
Good luck Kristy!!!! :-)Www@Enter-QA@Com
I'm horrible about telling people when they hurt me!.
I usually tell myself to let it go, but I can't help but hold onto those sad, angry feelings!. I am very capable of acting the same as ever, being cheerful and happy-go-lucky even when I'm pissed off or depressed inside!. Sometimes, I even delude myself into thinking I actually don't care that I was hurt!. I also hate conflict and do everything I can do avoid it!.
And though I respect and expect honesty out of others, I hide my emotions from those closest to me!. It's a rather lonely habit that I just can't seem to break!.
Sometimes, my anger and hurt comes out passive aggressively (in high school, I'd let my grades drop when my mother lashed out at me to scare her, but was kind and respectful to her face)!.
However, I wouldn't describe myself as sensitive or easily offended!. It takes a lot to get to me, but once someone does, it's hard for me to let it go!.
Most of the people around me have no idea I do that!. They just see me as the eternal optimist, oblivious and goofy!.
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I usually tell myself to let it go, but I can't help but hold onto those sad, angry feelings!. I am very capable of acting the same as ever, being cheerful and happy-go-lucky even when I'm pissed off or depressed inside!. Sometimes, I even delude myself into thinking I actually don't care that I was hurt!. I also hate conflict and do everything I can do avoid it!.
And though I respect and expect honesty out of others, I hide my emotions from those closest to me!. It's a rather lonely habit that I just can't seem to break!.
Sometimes, my anger and hurt comes out passive aggressively (in high school, I'd let my grades drop when my mother lashed out at me to scare her, but was kind and respectful to her face)!.
However, I wouldn't describe myself as sensitive or easily offended!. It takes a lot to get to me, but once someone does, it's hard for me to let it go!.
Most of the people around me have no idea I do that!. They just see me as the eternal optimist, oblivious and goofy!.
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My sign is Leo!.
Lots of pride here, leads to easily feeling insulted!.
I think it takes maturity to appreciate the effort a close loved one makes to be nice!. Hear me out!.!.!.!.many people take for granted the fact that they're close to you, and so they don't feel the showing of appreciation is needed!. This is wrong, and usually leads to a degrading of the relationship and one person feeling bitter towards the other!.
Honesty is what's called for, but it is usually too powerful a force, others respond to such openness with negativity!.
Usually when I'm in a situation like this, I just leave them alone until they show some appreciation!. People always know when they've hurt you with something, most of the time there's no doubt that they know!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
Lots of pride here, leads to easily feeling insulted!.
I think it takes maturity to appreciate the effort a close loved one makes to be nice!. Hear me out!.!.!.!.many people take for granted the fact that they're close to you, and so they don't feel the showing of appreciation is needed!. This is wrong, and usually leads to a degrading of the relationship and one person feeling bitter towards the other!.
Honesty is what's called for, but it is usually too powerful a force, others respond to such openness with negativity!.
Usually when I'm in a situation like this, I just leave them alone until they show some appreciation!. People always know when they've hurt you with something, most of the time there's no doubt that they know!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
im pretty secretive when it comes to my feelings unless its happiness or (sometimes) anger
well when someone who is close hurts my feelings, i become sad and hurt , but i always forgive and forget and it might get to the point where it has gone too far and i will have negative thoughts and suspicions about their actions (for a period of time)
i hate being sensitive all the time because even the slightest sense of constructive criticism can really feel like a personal Attack
i usually dont tell them if im hurt because i dont really open up about my feelings but for some strange reason im really willing to listen to other people feelings and problems!
when i try to be nice and they dont appreciate it goes 2 ways
1 way is ignore and put a smile on
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Well, yes and no!. I get angry instead of telling them they hurt me!. I know anger is a secondary emotion, but I choose to show it first so that I won't be so vulnerable!. I've got this huge deal that letting someone know they got in makes me seem weak, even if that's not the case!. So I'll usually get angry first and then after I've calmed down I'll tell them what really hurt me and usually apologize for being so mean!. That's with people that I trust or that I'm close to!.
If it's someone that I don't know all that well I'll just ignore them or I will tell them that they hurt my feelings because if I'm not close to them then I don't have to deal with them as much so I don't care if they know that they made me sad or disappointed or whatever the emotion is!. It won't matter to me because I don't see those people as a use of my time!.
It's a little backwards, I know!. But it's true!.
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Moon in Taurus
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If it's someone that I don't know all that well I'll just ignore them or I will tell them that they hurt my feelings because if I'm not close to them then I don't have to deal with them as much so I don't care if they know that they made me sad or disappointed or whatever the emotion is!. It won't matter to me because I don't see those people as a use of my time!.
It's a little backwards, I know!. But it's true!.
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Moon in Taurus
Sun in SagittariusWww@Enter-QA@Com
If people hurt you I think you should let them know because sometimes they don't even realize that their actions are hurting you- so it is important to point them out!.
And if you feel that people don't appreciate you, dont make an effort to be nice to them- put that effort in doing something nice for yourself instead
Sometimes when you are too good to people, they don't value you!. Then you have to be mean to them to get them in line!. It's counterintuitive, but it works every timeWww@Enter-QA@Com
And if you feel that people don't appreciate you, dont make an effort to be nice to them- put that effort in doing something nice for yourself instead
Sometimes when you are too good to people, they don't value you!. Then you have to be mean to them to get them in line!. It's counterintuitive, but it works every timeWww@Enter-QA@Com
I don't want to sound like an advocate for retaliation but in my experience in the past it worked best to put the person in the same situation they put you in or make them hurt the way you did because you can talk and try to get someone to understand where you are coming from!. They will say they understand but they really don't until you show them!. Now I just try to talk to them and really explain my point of view and my reason for feeling the way I do!. And I ask them "well what do you want me to do" as to say well what the hell would you do if it happened to you or if I did it to you!. It really hurts when you know you've made an effort to step outside of yourself to show someone else and they still try to make you feel as though you don't put fourth an effort!. Then I just feel like forget if you want to say I'm something that I'm not or i act a certain way that i don't agree with then I'll just act that way to give you a real reason to say!. Then see what you think about that!!
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cancer moon
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I usually just go into my shell and ignore them!. I'm the expert when it comes to concealing my feelings and bottling them up!. I hate confrontations with my loved ones because even if they hurt me their feelings still matter to me!. I can easily cuss out someone I don't give a damn about and tell them about themselves but not someone that I love!. So the process usually goes like this!. If I'm hurt I retreat into my own private space!. The person that hurt me will ask me what's wrong and I'll be all quiet and seething on the inside!. That's because at that point I feel like exploding and if I open my mouth a lot of other hurtful words will tumble out so I stay quiet till I can control myself!. When I calm down and am able to think logically and without my emotions, I talk things out and try to get over things!. If a person means a lot to me I'll hold onto them tooth and nail!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes! I'm extremely open about that, and my close relatives are used to that!. If my mom says something that upsets me, I'll flat out say "Why did you say that!? That hurts my feelings!." Haha, it sounds strange, but my mom isn't great with taking hints and reading between the lines so I have to be straightforward!. Most of the time people can't tell when you're offended, maybe it is someone's nature to be blunt or whatever, they aren't mind readers!. If you don't say what's on your mind they will never know they hurt your feelings!. You end up burying your emotions inside and you may hold resentful feelings towards that person, that's not healthy!.
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I don't let anyone know even my closest friends until they keep acting rude towards me!. I never mention it until they are continually agressive towards me!. I kinda have the tendency to bring up old skeletons in the closet about things to people who act like they didn't do anything to me!. But my cancer friend isn't like that!. He tells me if I did say something mean or stuff like that to him!. He tells me everything! I can't even lie without him guessing I am! He's all "Don't lie to me!."
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Hi Kristy B, =)!.!. cute halloween avatar!.!.!.lol
Aww, I feel the same way!. Having Cancer moon, I expect too much out of people!. I tried to be nice to them and if I don't get the same love and respect in return or like you said didn't think that they appreciated enough, I'll get all sensitive and gets hurt: (
But yes, I do let them know!. Afterall, they are the people that are close me and I associated with them the most!. I like to resolve my problems in very straightforward manners!. (Lol, Taurus here)!. I like to express myself and let them know how I truly feel inside!. Or else, I will feel sadness and my sensitivity linger on and it will be more hurtful as days goes by!. So, it is best to just tell them without holding anything back!. =)
Aquarius Mars
Cancer Moon
Taurus Sun
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Aww, I feel the same way!. Having Cancer moon, I expect too much out of people!. I tried to be nice to them and if I don't get the same love and respect in return or like you said didn't think that they appreciated enough, I'll get all sensitive and gets hurt: (
But yes, I do let them know!. Afterall, they are the people that are close me and I associated with them the most!. I like to resolve my problems in very straightforward manners!. (Lol, Taurus here)!. I like to express myself and let them know how I truly feel inside!. Or else, I will feel sadness and my sensitivity linger on and it will be more hurtful as days goes by!. So, it is best to just tell them without holding anything back!. =)
Aquarius Mars
Cancer Moon
Taurus Sun
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For starters, I am a taurus!.!.!. which generally means I am emotional and super sensitive to things that I shouldnt be!.
And yes,!.!.!. 80% of the time I will let the person know!.!.
the other 20% I will let my actions show them I am hurt, by either mistreating them or seeking petty revenge!.
I know its dumb, its probably my biggest charachter defect,
but I love hard, so when someone offends me I take it VERY personally, and sometimes it gets the best of me!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
And yes,!.!.!. 80% of the time I will let the person know!.!.
the other 20% I will let my actions show them I am hurt, by either mistreating them or seeking petty revenge!.
I know its dumb, its probably my biggest charachter defect,
but I love hard, so when someone offends me I take it VERY personally, and sometimes it gets the best of me!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
YES!! You do tell them as maybe they are unaware that they are hurting you!. If they are hurting you on purpose, and think you are ignorant, let them know that you are aware, they do have a concience, make them feel it!.
Honesty is the best policy and they should respect and trust you more if you are honest!.
Sun in Cancer,Mars in Cancer, Moon in Capricorn!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Honesty is the best policy and they should respect and trust you more if you are honest!.
Sun in Cancer,Mars in Cancer, Moon in Capricorn!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
if friends or a family member hurt me, i'll punch them so that they'll know they've hurt me, for girls i'll just pinch them, for kids, i'll pinch their cheeks!.!.!. lol (not that hard though) if i cant do that, i'll just say "f*ck off"!.!.!.or just tell them straight so that they wont hurt me again, coz i cant afford to hurt by them again, if you wont tell them that you've hurt, there's a good chance that it will happen again, i cant afford to be hurt again, so better say it than regret it!.!.!.
i wont care if they dont appreciate me being nice to them im being nice because i want to be nice, they dont have to return the favor!.!.!. besides if im sick being nice, i'll just stop and be mean to them, lol
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i wont care if they dont appreciate me being nice to them im being nice because i want to be nice, they dont have to return the favor!.!.!. besides if im sick being nice, i'll just stop and be mean to them, lol
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Hi Kristy, - love the avatar btw! ;)
People know when I am upset, disappointed and/or angry - I don't even try to hide it anymore - LOL - It doesn't do me any good to try to hide it! It's written all over my face - lol!
If it is something 'small' - I try to blow it off or turn it into a joke and laugh it off!.!.!.!.if I am really offended I will go so far as to ask the person about it just to be sure - I am bad for jumping to conclusions! LOL! But I do let people know how I feel - they won't know if you don't let them know!
If I make an effort to be nice and it goes unappreciated or unreciprocated - I let them know that too! Nothing worse then feeling stupid for trying to be nice and people don't appreciate the attempt! It has to work both ways or it doesn't work at all - I have no problems with letting people know how I feel - If I let it build up because I am trying to mask and/or hide my feelings they just tend to get worse! I let it out - though I do try to be as tactful as I can about it! LOL - hard work for a Sagittarius - lol!
Mars - Sagittarius
Moon - Scorpio
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People know when I am upset, disappointed and/or angry - I don't even try to hide it anymore - LOL - It doesn't do me any good to try to hide it! It's written all over my face - lol!
If it is something 'small' - I try to blow it off or turn it into a joke and laugh it off!.!.!.!.if I am really offended I will go so far as to ask the person about it just to be sure - I am bad for jumping to conclusions! LOL! But I do let people know how I feel - they won't know if you don't let them know!
If I make an effort to be nice and it goes unappreciated or unreciprocated - I let them know that too! Nothing worse then feeling stupid for trying to be nice and people don't appreciate the attempt! It has to work both ways or it doesn't work at all - I have no problems with letting people know how I feel - If I let it build up because I am trying to mask and/or hide my feelings they just tend to get worse! I let it out - though I do try to be as tactful as I can about it! LOL - hard work for a Sagittarius - lol!
Mars - Sagittarius
Moon - Scorpio
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I let them know by mistreating them or just treating them the same way 'give them a taste of their own medicine'!. ;D
I barely get hurt!.
I also don't get close to people!.!.I don't trust anyone but myself,so I don't give others the chance to get really close to me,to the level of me telling them about my private life!.
Getting hurt is not easy for me,it's actually pretty hard!.
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Sag moon
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I barely get hurt!.
I also don't get close to people!.!.I don't trust anyone but myself,so I don't give others the chance to get really close to me,to the level of me telling them about my private life!.
Getting hurt is not easy for me,it's actually pretty hard!.
Leo sun
Sag moon
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No one can hurt me again bec now im so carefull about my life !.!.!.
Now a day`s is so hard for me to believe anyone !.!.!.
i not let anyone to be my more close bec i very easyly believe ppl !.!.!.
so better to not let anyone more close !.!.!.
I feel good to be alone !.!.!. better to alone life :)
My sign is !.!.!.
Sun Leo
Moon Leo
Mercury Leo
Jupiter Leo
Rising Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Cancer
Ascendant Leo
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Well when someone hurts me my virgo kicks in and I analyze and think over and over until its too late sometimes to tell the other person but then most of the time i do let them know either by my actions which is stupid or verbally!. Verbally is better because you get the point across faster since some are slow and not as perceptive!. I'm pretty perceptive and can pick up on vibes and attitudes lol but really ill confront people but in a nice fair manner not mean and I don't like to play games i try to avoid that as much as a possible!.!.!.when your dealing with close relationships its nice to take care of them and be protective cuz i now its not worth breaking close ties off with friends and family<3Www@Enter-QA@Com
when it comes to boyfriends and ex!.!.!. no!. i keep it to myself and i pretend like i'm alright until i'm actually alright!.
i don't see any point of fighting about something in the past!.
but when it comes to close friends and families, since i'm assuming they'll be around forever, i'd tell them exactly why i'm pissed off and what they should do to make up for it!.
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gemini moon
sagitarius marsWww@Enter-QA@Com
i don't see any point of fighting about something in the past!.
but when it comes to close friends and families, since i'm assuming they'll be around forever, i'd tell them exactly why i'm pissed off and what they should do to make up for it!.
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gemini moon
sagitarius marsWww@Enter-QA@Com
Hi Kristy :D
Well, I never really let people who are very close to me hurt me in anyway [that easily at least]!.Like if someone is trying to be "honest" with me, trying to put me down, or not treating me right!.
I usually go off the handle and get 10x more blunt and loud than usual!.
I hate it when someone is trying to tell me [or do] something I am already aware of esp!. if it is going to hurt my feelings in the process!.
So with that said I simply don't let them!.!.!.I shoot them down and close myself off to it!.
It's like I go into attack mode!.!.!.!.I usually win too XD!.!.!.lol
Idk!.!.!.!.I simply get it out there!!
I don't lolly jag around when someone close to me crosses me!.!.!.!.I don't allow it and I keep my feelings out of it!.!.!.!.no point in mixing them in esp!. if it is just a small thing!.!.!.then I forget about it :D
Forgive & forget
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Mars Gemini
Moon LeoWww@Enter-QA@Com
Well, I never really let people who are very close to me hurt me in anyway [that easily at least]!.Like if someone is trying to be "honest" with me, trying to put me down, or not treating me right!.
I usually go off the handle and get 10x more blunt and loud than usual!.
I hate it when someone is trying to tell me [or do] something I am already aware of esp!. if it is going to hurt my feelings in the process!.
So with that said I simply don't let them!.!.!.I shoot them down and close myself off to it!.
It's like I go into attack mode!.!.!.!.I usually win too XD!.!.!.lol
Idk!.!.!.!.I simply get it out there!!
I don't lolly jag around when someone close to me crosses me!.!.!.!.I don't allow it and I keep my feelings out of it!.!.!.!.no point in mixing them in esp!. if it is just a small thing!.!.!.then I forget about it :D
Forgive & forget
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Mars Gemini
Moon LeoWww@Enter-QA@Com
im gemini
when i try being nice to people and they dont appreciate it i just ignore them!.!. it does hurt my feelings but say what!? all you have to do is ignored them!.!. i do it vice versa if they're trying to tell me something i would let it go into one ear and come out the other ear!.!. wtf they should do unto others like they want you to do unto them!.!.!. i know that two wrongs dont make a right but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!.!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
when i try being nice to people and they dont appreciate it i just ignore them!.!. it does hurt my feelings but say what!? all you have to do is ignored them!.!. i do it vice versa if they're trying to tell me something i would let it go into one ear and come out the other ear!.!. wtf they should do unto others like they want you to do unto them!.!.!. i know that two wrongs dont make a right but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!.!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
I definetly let someone know if they're hurting me!.
I've been hurt by my fake a** "friends" before and even when I was nice to those bit**es they still hurt me in those same ways!.
I'm an extremely sensitive person as well, and it just hurts to know that even "friends" will try to hurt you!.
But I just usally get rid of the skanks and hang with my real friends!.
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Moon Scorpio
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I've been hurt by my fake a** "friends" before and even when I was nice to those bit**es they still hurt me in those same ways!.
I'm an extremely sensitive person as well, and it just hurts to know that even "friends" will try to hurt you!.
But I just usally get rid of the skanks and hang with my real friends!.
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Moon Scorpio
Mars AriesWww@Enter-QA@Com
I treat people the way I would like to be treated!. If they hurt me I would let them know!. This guy hurt me very much and he does not want to listen to me and get a chance to know me better!. If he would get to know me better he would like me!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
if someone close hurts me i usually make them figure it out for themselves
and if someone doesnt seem to appreciate me being nice to them, i would either
keep being nice to them anyways or just not make as much effort!.
scorpio sun
saggitarius moon
cancer mars
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and if someone doesnt seem to appreciate me being nice to them, i would either
keep being nice to them anyways or just not make as much effort!.
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saggitarius moon
cancer mars
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yes, i am very honest when people hurt me! i don't care who they are family,husband,son(lol)he is only 2!.anyone! I DON'T KNOW WHY IS NOT EASY FOR ME to understand why people hurt me!. but thta is the way life works!
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Aries!.
It depends, but usually I back down rather than confront!. If I try to be nice and they don't appreciate, I just leave them be!. I don't pursue!.
Mars - Aquarius
Moon - Capricorn
Sun - Aries
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It depends, but usually I back down rather than confront!. If I try to be nice and they don't appreciate, I just leave them be!. I don't pursue!.
Mars - Aquarius
Moon - Capricorn
Sun - Aries
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I do!. I give them the stare that looks like a mix between -_- and =\!. It's a look of disappointment!. No words!.
Aries Mars!. Virgo Moon!. Pisces Sun!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
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I'll disappoint them by laughing it away!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I let them know how i feel and if they treat me very badly then i do the same thing like Eden have said!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yea, when i'm mad someone i ignore them and stay away as much as possibleWww@Enter-QA@Com
Not always, you have to ignore some of the crap, people come up with!.Www@Enter-QA@Com