Is it possible to be unable to move on and heal?!
Question: Is it possible to be unable to move on and heal!?
I find myself making insipid remarks and asking an insipid question in Polls section today!.!.!.anything to try to distract myself!. There is a woman I deeply care for (who lives in another state) !.!.!. and I am trying to play it cool and be the friend she wants!. Why the hell can't I just control my heart as easily as my mind and just heal and be friends!.
I am an adult and have NEVER been like this before!. I just don't get it and I just don't know how to do (e!.g!. not feel what I do) what I need to do!? I am a Gemini sun, leo moon, and cancer venus!. Does this explain my problem with healing over this woman!? This is totally messed up!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I am an adult and have NEVER been like this before!. I just don't get it and I just don't know how to do (e!.g!. not feel what I do) what I need to do!? I am a Gemini sun, leo moon, and cancer venus!. Does this explain my problem with healing over this woman!? This is totally messed up!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
It's possible if you won't allow yourself to grieve, heal and move on!. How about taking some classes, joining a gym, volunteering, etc!. Anything to keep your mind off the relationship!. Why is this relationship over!? Why can't you guys work it out!? I'm sorry to hear you're having a difficult time!. It'd be great to know her sign!. Keep writing here and expressing yourself, it may help you!.
Signed,
Sag sun, Leo moon and Scorpio ascendant
Pss--Thought I'd add something that has helped me in the past!.
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime!.
When you figure out which one it is,
You will know what to do for each person!.
When someone is in your life for a Reason !. !. !.
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed!.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
To provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually!.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be!.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end!.
Sometimes they die!.
Sometimes they walk away!.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand!.
What we must realise is that our need has been met,
Our desire fulfilled, their work is done!.
The prayer you sent up has been answered!.
And now it is time to move on!.
When people come into your life for a Season!. !. !.
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn!.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh!.
They may teach you something you have never done!.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy!.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season!.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Things you must build upon in order
To have a solid emotional foundation!.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
And put what you have learned
To use in all other relationships and areas of your life!.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Signed,
Sag sun, Leo moon and Scorpio ascendant
Pss--Thought I'd add something that has helped me in the past!.
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime!.
When you figure out which one it is,
You will know what to do for each person!.
When someone is in your life for a Reason !. !. !.
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed!.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
To provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually!.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be!.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end!.
Sometimes they die!.
Sometimes they walk away!.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand!.
What we must realise is that our need has been met,
Our desire fulfilled, their work is done!.
The prayer you sent up has been answered!.
And now it is time to move on!.
When people come into your life for a Season!. !. !.
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn!.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh!.
They may teach you something you have never done!.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy!.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season!.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Things you must build upon in order
To have a solid emotional foundation!.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
And put what you have learned
To use in all other relationships and areas of your life!.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
There is no doubt that you fall in love with this woman!.!.!.
All I can do is to pray for you - O lord, save this man!. aameenWww@Enter-QA@Com
All I can do is to pray for you - O lord, save this man!. aameenWww@Enter-QA@Com
I think we sometimes get to a place of deep sorrow in our lives and it clouds our reality and judgment making it hard to see past the pain and despair!. I do however think if we give ourselves time to go through the grieving process and feel the wide range of emotions that come with healing,the good,bad,ups and downs that in time we find bit by bit and piece by piece along the journey the strength and will to overcome!.To be able to maybe not forget but the ability to look back and remember some good times but the realization that it was not meant to be!. You need to keep pulling forward and in time you will find your way! Best of luck and best wishes!!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Awwwww I am so sorry you are hurting right now :-/
It might help to take a break from talking to her - just until you are a little stronger!. You are not where she is and you need more time to get there!.
Do you know what your mars sign is and do you know her moon, venus and mars signs!? That may shed some light on the depth of the connection!.
In either case!.!.!.you can move on and heal but it will be at your own pace which no one can say how long that will be!. What we can do is give you some suggestions that might help you along!. Keeping REALLY busy helps! Exercise: walking, running, swimming, racquetball/tennis, yoga--just do as much healthy things as you can!. Spend time with your friends and fam!.!.!.go out more!. Grow you---maybe set a few short term goals etc!.
It helps that you don't have to see her everyday!.!.!.that's good!.
You're heartbroken and you will have to respect your hearts timetable to heal!. Don't feed /fuel the heart or you will impede the progress!.
good luck!!!
Me:
Sun: Sadge
Moon: Leo
Ascendant: Gemini
I understand--going through something with my Gemini BFF right now too!. Thing is your heart is precious and should be treated with the utmost of care!! Friendships should not be painful :-/ I agree that you should not throw away your friendship, it just might be better at least at the time being, that it is not as close as it is right now!. It isn't healthy for you! Plus it doesn't allow your heart to be free if another special lady enters your life!. You can't give your heart to someone else if it isn't available to give!Www@Enter-QA@Com
It might help to take a break from talking to her - just until you are a little stronger!. You are not where she is and you need more time to get there!.
Do you know what your mars sign is and do you know her moon, venus and mars signs!? That may shed some light on the depth of the connection!.
In either case!.!.!.you can move on and heal but it will be at your own pace which no one can say how long that will be!. What we can do is give you some suggestions that might help you along!. Keeping REALLY busy helps! Exercise: walking, running, swimming, racquetball/tennis, yoga--just do as much healthy things as you can!. Spend time with your friends and fam!.!.!.go out more!. Grow you---maybe set a few short term goals etc!.
It helps that you don't have to see her everyday!.!.!.that's good!.
You're heartbroken and you will have to respect your hearts timetable to heal!. Don't feed /fuel the heart or you will impede the progress!.
good luck!!!
Me:
Sun: Sadge
Moon: Leo
Ascendant: Gemini
I understand--going through something with my Gemini BFF right now too!. Thing is your heart is precious and should be treated with the utmost of care!! Friendships should not be painful :-/ I agree that you should not throw away your friendship, it just might be better at least at the time being, that it is not as close as it is right now!. It isn't healthy for you! Plus it doesn't allow your heart to be free if another special lady enters your life!. You can't give your heart to someone else if it isn't available to give!Www@Enter-QA@Com