I'm involved with a cancer man?!
Question: I'm involved with a cancer man!?
okay I've been talking to this cancer man and we've been talking for a year now off and on and he keeps delaying an answer on if he wants to be in a relationship or not!.!.!.he keeps telling me that he wants to be with me and every time i ask him then why aren't we together then he always tell me that he gotten hurt before or he don't want a girlfriend so when i finally try to move on then here he is back at my feet like he don't want any one else to have me but then he don't want to be in a relationship with me!.!.he's confusing!.!.and he is extremely jealous but he pretends that he doesn't care if he feels that he revealed himself as being the jealous type <lol> he just cracks me up at times!.!.!.and when we go to group events he'll be with his crowd of friends and I'll be with my crowd of friends and while he's with his friends he'll just be staring at me trying to see what I'm doing and monitoring every move i make and where ever i move and what ever i do he's still watching!.!.!.!.!.what does this mean<<!?!?>>!.!.
is he scared he's going to lose me or I'm going to hurt him or he don't want to be with me nor does he want any one else to be with me<<!?!?>>Www@Enter-QA@Com
is he scared he's going to lose me or I'm going to hurt him or he don't want to be with me nor does he want any one else to be with me<<!?!?>>Www@Enter-QA@Com
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I'm involved with a Cancer man too and I know exactly what you are going through!.
Cancers are sensitive and they don't want to reveal their true feelings until they feel that they can trust you enough!. They want you to be COMPLETELY open but it takes them a while for them to open up to you!. They feel comfortable knowing your true inner most feelings for them!. They want you to understand them without them saying a word meaning since you been with them for a certain amount of time you should know them by now!.
I don't believe he's a stalker, he's just extremely jealous but please note that he will never admit he is!. Ways that I found out that my Cancer is very jealous is by his actions such as ignoring me for a while and doing activies that involves him not showing his face to me!. There was a time when we were out with all my friends and when my co workers were complementing me on my clothes, he just dropped himself out of the conversation and just keeped his head down for the rest of the night!. He wanted to ignore me for the rest of the night but he didn't want me to know that he was jealous so he didn't talk to me that much for the rest of the night!. Cancer men are very clingy and have a fear of being alone which is why he doesn't want to let you go!. But he doesn't want to become serious because he's afraid of getting hurt by another female and that would be too much of a responsibility!. Most Cancer men I know including mine doesn't like to go out much and don't like to spend money that much either so taking care of their women is like a big responsibility for them!. also it could be that he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that he doesn't want to be with you!. They simply don't want to let people go!.
It also depends on the person they are dealing with too!. If you are one of those girls who rush them, like to party 24/7, and not into home, family & children trust me you are not for them!. They don't mind having fun but they feeling most comfortable when they are home!. They don't like drama queens, people who talk too much or people who don't give them their space!. When they are moody you must leave them alone for them to take care of their problems themseleves cause they don't like people solving their problems for them because that's a sign of weakness!. Have you ever said anything that upset him to the point where he left you alone for a long time!? Cancers never forget and that could be another turn off for them!. Do not say things that would hurt them because deep down inside that tough exterior they are very soft inside!.
In December me and my Cancer will make a year that we been dating and we had been through a lot!. Yes we had our ups and downs and isolated from each other for a while but what I learned is that when dealing with a Cancer man you got to have alot of patience, especially if they are going through alot of problems in their life!. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person to open up about your feelings and they will slowly open up to you but you have to take everything slow!. Don't ever push them because they will retreat! You got to show them that you are trust worthy and not going to slip away once you are theirs!. I agree with one of the posters above, since it has been a year ask him where do you stand with him cause at this point you do have the right to know!. If he still doesn't want to be with you, you got to let him go!. If he really want to be with you he will do so and they will do whatever it takes!. Isolate yourself from him for a while!. Cut all contact with him and see if he cares by reaching out to you!. Give it a week!. If he doesn't contact you than you know where you stand without him saying anything to you!. My Cancer tried his hardest when he saw that I didn't want to be bothered!.
Dealing with a Cancer can be very difficult and they know this, but if you really care about them and love them you would deal with it!. And they appreciate this very much!. I guess that's why we are still together!. But I guess it's also because I understand people very well!.
Good luck and I hope this helps!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Cancers are sensitive and they don't want to reveal their true feelings until they feel that they can trust you enough!. They want you to be COMPLETELY open but it takes them a while for them to open up to you!. They feel comfortable knowing your true inner most feelings for them!. They want you to understand them without them saying a word meaning since you been with them for a certain amount of time you should know them by now!.
I don't believe he's a stalker, he's just extremely jealous but please note that he will never admit he is!. Ways that I found out that my Cancer is very jealous is by his actions such as ignoring me for a while and doing activies that involves him not showing his face to me!. There was a time when we were out with all my friends and when my co workers were complementing me on my clothes, he just dropped himself out of the conversation and just keeped his head down for the rest of the night!. He wanted to ignore me for the rest of the night but he didn't want me to know that he was jealous so he didn't talk to me that much for the rest of the night!. Cancer men are very clingy and have a fear of being alone which is why he doesn't want to let you go!. But he doesn't want to become serious because he's afraid of getting hurt by another female and that would be too much of a responsibility!. Most Cancer men I know including mine doesn't like to go out much and don't like to spend money that much either so taking care of their women is like a big responsibility for them!. also it could be that he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that he doesn't want to be with you!. They simply don't want to let people go!.
It also depends on the person they are dealing with too!. If you are one of those girls who rush them, like to party 24/7, and not into home, family & children trust me you are not for them!. They don't mind having fun but they feeling most comfortable when they are home!. They don't like drama queens, people who talk too much or people who don't give them their space!. When they are moody you must leave them alone for them to take care of their problems themseleves cause they don't like people solving their problems for them because that's a sign of weakness!. Have you ever said anything that upset him to the point where he left you alone for a long time!? Cancers never forget and that could be another turn off for them!. Do not say things that would hurt them because deep down inside that tough exterior they are very soft inside!.
In December me and my Cancer will make a year that we been dating and we had been through a lot!. Yes we had our ups and downs and isolated from each other for a while but what I learned is that when dealing with a Cancer man you got to have alot of patience, especially if they are going through alot of problems in their life!. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person to open up about your feelings and they will slowly open up to you but you have to take everything slow!. Don't ever push them because they will retreat! You got to show them that you are trust worthy and not going to slip away once you are theirs!. I agree with one of the posters above, since it has been a year ask him where do you stand with him cause at this point you do have the right to know!. If he still doesn't want to be with you, you got to let him go!. If he really want to be with you he will do so and they will do whatever it takes!. Isolate yourself from him for a while!. Cut all contact with him and see if he cares by reaching out to you!. Give it a week!. If he doesn't contact you than you know where you stand without him saying anything to you!. My Cancer tried his hardest when he saw that I didn't want to be bothered!.
Dealing with a Cancer can be very difficult and they know this, but if you really care about them and love them you would deal with it!. And they appreciate this very much!. I guess that's why we are still together!. But I guess it's also because I understand people very well!.
Good luck and I hope this helps!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
RUN this is a stalker and sounds like an abuser the best thing you can do is get as far away as possible!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Because it an off and on thing!.
maybe he feels that this relationship will become serious and hes scared that he will mess up and break up and go back again and then break up again!.
i'm a Cancer and i do the same thing he does to this one "guy"
But i say
friends will be best, so that way you two can know each other more and maybe date in the future!.
you have a lot of time, don't jump into the "boyfriend and girlfriend" stage too quickly enjoy the relationship you have with him now! it seems like you both are really fun together!Www@Enter-QA@Com
maybe he feels that this relationship will become serious and hes scared that he will mess up and break up and go back again and then break up again!.
i'm a Cancer and i do the same thing he does to this one "guy"
But i say
friends will be best, so that way you two can know each other more and maybe date in the future!.
you have a lot of time, don't jump into the "boyfriend and girlfriend" stage too quickly enjoy the relationship you have with him now! it seems like you both are really fun together!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I would get as far as way from this guy as possible!. He sounds like a stalker and a weirdo, to be blunt!. If a guy wants to be with you, he'll be with you!. If he doesn't, he won't!. And even though you say it's confusing, this guy obviously doesn't want to be with you!. Guys don't pretend they don't care!. If it seems like they don't care, they don't!.
You deserve a guy who wants to be with you, who isn't so jealous that he could be jealous when you're not even in a relationship with him, and that doesn't "watch" you and monitor your every move!. That isn't romantic or anything close, it's just creepy!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
You deserve a guy who wants to be with you, who isn't so jealous that he could be jealous when you're not even in a relationship with him, and that doesn't "watch" you and monitor your every move!. That isn't romantic or anything close, it's just creepy!. Www@Enter-QA@Com
Aww!.!.!. your story is so sweet:) Here's what I think: I think that he's afraid to get with you because he's afraid that you will see how difficult it is to take care of him, be there for him, cope for him all because of his sickness!. He might also be afraid that once you get with him there is always that chance that you might lose him!. Ok, so for the sickness part he's afraid to be a burden onto you and for you to not have him anymore!. Here's what I would do if I were you; I would (since you seriously love this guy) tell him and assure him that no matter what you will be there for him sickness or no sickness and that his cancer will not take a toll on your relationship like he thinks it will!. And that if he's scared you'll not have him any longer when you get together, tell him that you love him for the present not the future!. That you'll be there for him when he's there for you, you exist for each others happiness!. yay:) Good Luck!. & Tell him you love him no matter what!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I have dated a cancer man!. They stay true to their sign!. They have deep emotions!. and only act like they are "tough" on the outside!.!.!.truly, at heart, they are very suspicous and insecure!. They always assume the worst and if they to think that your doing something wrong, they will have it imbedded in their brain, and now they wont trust you!. The cancer man is very fragile with his emotions!. I would believe that he has been hurt before, but cancer or not, he has to s h i t or get of the pot!. You are going to have to be upfront with him, afterall your time IS valuable and if he cant recognize that, you must move on, if you continue to beat a dead horse, you just may pass up prince charming!. This is how I would put it to him
"Look here, I have never done anything to lose your trust or give you any reason to question!. You know how I feel about you!. I am tired of waiting for you to make up your mind!. I mean it, if you don't know what you want now, you will never know!. But just know that I do care about you and I have always only had nothing but the best of intentions!. But I have got to move on with my life!. I'm sorry but I'm done with waiting around for you!. I mean it, so take it how you want, but I am moving on!. We can always be friends!.!.!.maybe I'll talk to you later!.!.!.ok!.!.!.!.
(He basically wants his cake and to eat it too!. He watches your every move because he is jealous and there is some attraction, but not enough to call you his woman, and thats not fair to you!. )
put it to him BLUNTLY just make sure that you somewhat stroke his ego and make sure to tell him you are an innocent angel who just wanted to be his everything!. (figuratively speaking)!.!.!.!.
AND the most important thing of all, STICK WITH IT, sometimes a cancer has to be told NO, to realise what he has lost!. If he truly cares and its meant to be, he will seek you out and make the commitment!.!.!.
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"Look here, I have never done anything to lose your trust or give you any reason to question!. You know how I feel about you!. I am tired of waiting for you to make up your mind!. I mean it, if you don't know what you want now, you will never know!. But just know that I do care about you and I have always only had nothing but the best of intentions!. But I have got to move on with my life!. I'm sorry but I'm done with waiting around for you!. I mean it, so take it how you want, but I am moving on!. We can always be friends!.!.!.maybe I'll talk to you later!.!.!.ok!.!.!.!.
(He basically wants his cake and to eat it too!. He watches your every move because he is jealous and there is some attraction, but not enough to call you his woman, and thats not fair to you!. )
put it to him BLUNTLY just make sure that you somewhat stroke his ego and make sure to tell him you are an innocent angel who just wanted to be his everything!. (figuratively speaking)!.!.!.!.
AND the most important thing of all, STICK WITH IT, sometimes a cancer has to be told NO, to realise what he has lost!. If he truly cares and its meant to be, he will seek you out and make the commitment!.!.!.
take careWww@Enter-QA@Com