Do you ever get tired of Pleasing people while you put yourself 2nd?!


Question: Do you ever get tired of Pleasing people while you put yourself 2nd!?
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I'm not a people pleaser anymore!. I was in my teenage years, and in my twenties, but I am not anymore!. When everyone around you is happy and you're left holding the bag, or when your kindness and favors go unappreciated you get tired!. I looked around and saw everyone else content and happy, while I was running on empty!. This had to be helped, and I was the only one who could do it!. I don't automatically say "yes" anymore to someone in need---I wait and see if someone else will step up!. If I see someone go under twice, i will come along and rescue them before they drown, but for my own sanity and emotional health I need to hang back and let people in my life fend for themselves!.

Cancer, Scorpio Moon, Pisces risingWww@Enter-QA@Com

I never always put myself second!. Sometimes I put myself first and sometimes second!. But mostly 2nd yep!. Yes I do get disappointed and sometimes angry at myself!. I think one should at certain point be a bit selfish!. If you try to please someone too hard they won't realize the value of what you are doing!. To make them appreciate what they are getting, it is alright to once in a while put yourself first! I like to please but not being submissive and weak!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

Hey Tril!.!.!.

It's time to put yourself FIRST!. I'm not sure what's going on but if you're feeling like you put other people before you you're life is going to be about pleasing others instead of yourself!. And eventually, that's going to suck!.

I KNOW, I'm that way too!!! I can't help it, but I know I put others especially my family before myself!. But now that I've been thinking about everything lately, I have to put myself first for once!. I know it's hard, but it has to be done, in order to feel happy or rather!.!.!. fulfilled!.

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I understand that completely!. I was with an Aries for 5 years before I met my husband and it was so very hard to compromise!. I always thought of others and he always thought of himself!. Needless to say none of my needs were met!. Sad that I kept myself in the relationship as long as I did!.
I do get upset when others think of themselves when I always think of the other person!. However, I have tried my hardest to stop!. I needed to understand that I have a choice!. I can be like them (which really didn't make me happy)!. Or continue to be like me!. So I am a giver, not a taker!. However, I have learned my limits as well!. I'm defiantly not going to bend over backwards for someone who doesn't care to help themself!. It's just a waste of time!. Just say true to yourself Tril! In your heart you know what you should do!. Hope I've helped!. Good luck!Www@Enter-QA@Com

I used to when I was still in my early to mid twenties, but with age that all changed!. I rarely put myself second anymore unless I see a need to do that in order to help someone!. This doesn't happen very often!.


Edit - I wanted to add that a big change came when I finally realized that a lot of problem was me allowing it to happen!. That was a hard realization, and I still have to be aware of it from time to time!.

LibraWww@Enter-QA@Com

yep, all the time and its not good!.

Like when I'm in a relationship, I give my all to my partner forgetting to care about my own needs, then at the end it really affects me!. My previous partners have taken advantage of that because they knew that I won't say a thing (not good)!. So he was happy when I wasn't!. So it became sour to the point I couldn't take it anymore!. Instead of treating me like a decent girlfriend who has feelings, they all have treated me like a wife who had no say!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

if you are talking about kids - well, yeah!. sometimes it would be nice to put myself first, but i don't because they are my kids and they are my #1 priority!.

if you are talking about just people in general - i don't try to please people!. i just do what i do!. if they like it and are pleased - yay! if not, whatever!. i really don't care!. i guess i don't think about where my place is and i just do my thing!.

geminiWww@Enter-QA@Com

I did that almost all my life,and i just got fed up with it and quit doing it,because it seems like your never appreciated by anyone!.

i have done this in my past relationships and all i got was nothing back,but iv'e learned and thats why i put myself first definitely!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

Sorta!.!.!.

I have a habit of doing things for people that they didn't need me to do in the first place!. It's more about Virgo wanting to be helpful but maybe not understanding what others think is important and unimportant!. Then feeling unappriciate when it was entirely my fault in the first place!. weird!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

check it out! I'm an Aries!. I always spend my money on everyone else! Really go out of my way too help others! I enjoy seeing people happy! being around happy people!. love too laugh, do crazy things, for fun!. never hurt anyone!. When one : back stabs me!. their on their own!. Never put yourself, on the back burner! Don't walk around this world as if your first either! have a balance!! sometimes trying too please other, is an never ending story! just know who your friends are! Don't be any-ones door mat!! rock n roll !!! :)Www@Enter-QA@Com

Hey Tril!.!.!.!.!.!.:-)

Whassup !.!.!.!!

Totally agree with that statement although I will never settle for 2nd best which is why I am self-employed!. I will lay back to let others get their glory but not at my expense and I can go off if someone insults my intelligence subito presto!.!.!.!.

I do have my limits!.!.!.!.

Libra

Edit!.!.!.!.Sand!.!.!.!.!.!. luv that new look!.!.!.!.seXy!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

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AHAHA :)
i'm an aries !.!. i'm always the first!.
i never try to do something only to make others feel good!. ok!.!. i am nice to people and treat them with respect but i say no when i want to!.
pleasing others just to make them see how nice you are destroys your self confidence babe!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

the opposite! i make my family wait on me-i need to put my self second,so they dont always have to please me! libra princess-but trying to be more mature!problem is,cancer hubby is glad to put my needs above his-its that cancer "caretaker" behaviour!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

I'm the type of person where I ultimately feel like I have to make myself happy!. I rarely feel that it's my job to please someone!. Or to kiss up to someone, or to break my back for the sake of someone else's happiness!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

No Leo's have given an answer yet so here goes
I have always put my girls before me!. You have to learn to say no!! And mean it even if they look at you like your their last friend!. I still care about my kids but they are older and now I put myself 1st moreWww@Enter-QA@Com

Then don't put yourself second anymore!. If you don't like it, don't do it!.

I prefer myself over others, why would I put myself second!?

LibraWww@Enter-QA@Com

Yes!.!.!.I tell myself I'll never do it again!.!.!.then tomorrow I'll be right back at it!. Such is the life of a Cancer native!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

yeah well story of my life!.!.!.!.!.!.not always 2nd though!.!.!.sometimes 3rd!.!.!.!.!.a few times 4th!.!.!.!.!.!.worst time I am off the top ten list!.!.!.!.

Right now I am putting myself 2nd !.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

yes,very much so!.!.!.I tell myself to quit,but I will always help someone,even too much,if they say they need me to!.!.!.

I'm a CancerWww@Enter-QA@Com

Yes!

AquariusWww@Enter-QA@Com

Yes, that's why I don't do it anymore!. Who cares what other people think!?Www@Enter-QA@Com

I am an Aries and I always put myself FIRST!

and that's the way uh huh uh huh I like it!Www@Enter-QA@Com

never put yourself 1st or second make where if your okay and you feel like helping help but if you dont want to DONT!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

Yes, especially if I'm getting nothing out of it; I'm a Libra sun!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

yes very much all the time i do it i never put y self 1stWww@Enter-QA@Com

Yeah I ALWAYS do that and end up with nothing!.!.!. :(

GeminiWww@Enter-QA@Com

yes that's why sometimes i'm very moody with everyone!.!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com

Oh yes, sometimes i feel a bout of that!.

capricorn here :)Www@Enter-QA@Com



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