Asking a serious question to the Adults here! please help?!
Question: Asking a serious question to the Adults here! please help!?
first off, please be nice; and if you can't, please take off!! [THIS ONLY GOES TO PEOPLE WHO CAN'T ANSWER QUESTIONS]
i'm an 18 year old teen, with a lot of problems in life!. i had been a good student all my life; only 9th grade screwed me up badly!. i have both parents that are very caring; only a little TOO caring, perhaps!. i don't know how to word my question, but i'll try my best!. i hope someone's reading!.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT; I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF I WANT SOMETHING!. I DON'T KNOW WHAT MY FUTURE IS; I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THERE IS A FUTURE FOR ME!. I DESPAIRED LONG TIME AGO, I JUST DON'T LET IT SHOW!.!.!.SOMEHOW I KEEP LYING TO MYSELF THAT EVERY THING'S RIGHT, WHEN NOTHING IS! EVERY NIGHT I ASK MYSELF, WHAT IS MY PURPOSE; WHAT IS THE PURPOSE BEHIND MY LIFE!. I DON'T FIND AN ANSWER!. I'VE STOPPED PUTTING EFFORTS, BECAUSE THEY DON'T REALLY PAY BACK!. I'M TIRED OF TRYING TO IMPRESS MY PARENTS AND OTHERS THAT I'M PERFECT, BUT I'M NOT!! WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO!?! HOW DO I GET BACK ON TRACK!? CAN I DO ANYTHING TO HEAL MY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!? CAN I BE A NORMAL PERSON LIKE I WAS BEFORE!? CAN YOU RELATE TO IT!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
i'm an 18 year old teen, with a lot of problems in life!. i had been a good student all my life; only 9th grade screwed me up badly!. i have both parents that are very caring; only a little TOO caring, perhaps!. i don't know how to word my question, but i'll try my best!. i hope someone's reading!.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT; I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF I WANT SOMETHING!. I DON'T KNOW WHAT MY FUTURE IS; I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THERE IS A FUTURE FOR ME!. I DESPAIRED LONG TIME AGO, I JUST DON'T LET IT SHOW!.!.!.SOMEHOW I KEEP LYING TO MYSELF THAT EVERY THING'S RIGHT, WHEN NOTHING IS! EVERY NIGHT I ASK MYSELF, WHAT IS MY PURPOSE; WHAT IS THE PURPOSE BEHIND MY LIFE!. I DON'T FIND AN ANSWER!. I'VE STOPPED PUTTING EFFORTS, BECAUSE THEY DON'T REALLY PAY BACK!. I'M TIRED OF TRYING TO IMPRESS MY PARENTS AND OTHERS THAT I'M PERFECT, BUT I'M NOT!! WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO!?! HOW DO I GET BACK ON TRACK!? CAN I DO ANYTHING TO HEAL MY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!? CAN I BE A NORMAL PERSON LIKE I WAS BEFORE!? CAN YOU RELATE TO IT!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
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I'm not bothered that it's in the horoscope section or not, you deserve a decent answer!.
First of all your life is in turmoil!. You are leaving high school where everything was routine and the routine determined by someone else-the school board, principle, guidance counselors, teachers etc!. You have never had a choice in that routine!. Now you will (or soon will) have a say in your daily life!. Of course there is work and/or school that will dictate certain things, but still the choices are yours!. It's scary to all of a sudden be given the choices!. You have little experience in controlling yor own life!. What if you make the wrong choice!? What if you choose work over college-could that be a mistake!? Or even the vice-versa!. There's no one to blame but yourself!. Show me someone who doesn't think that's scary!. One thing I didn't learn until I was fifty!. You're not going to totally impress everyone, including your parents!. You won't impress teacher's with good grades!. We of course like students who study hard and participate!. But do it for yourself!. In ten years they'll be memories and not much else!. You and you alone will reap the benefits of the study and hard work!. Please yourself!. Do things to make yourself better in your eyes!. The boss likes hard workers, but in ten or twenty years he'll be retired and just a memory!. How will you feel about yourself for the job you did!. Do you feel you were the best mechanic/teacher/doctor or whatever!. You want to find your way, but remember in many cases the way finds you!. If when I was sixteen and went to a fortune teller and she told me exactly how my life would pan out, I would have her arrested for fraud!. 20 years in the Navy!? No way lady, Teaching!? My father was a teacher, I want nothing to do with it!. But I did those things!. I admit I was the best sailor in the world, but I was pretty good!. I'm proud of what I did!. I'm a long way from being the best teacher, but I helped a few people change their lives for the better!. Certainly not everybody that sat in my classroom, but a few is not bad!. I'm proud of what I do and you know what!? I'm good at it!. Stick in there, you will survive this!. It will take determination on your part!. Tilt at some windmills along the way!. Learn, adjust, relearn and live-Good Luck to you!. Remember me when you're rich and famous!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
First of all your life is in turmoil!. You are leaving high school where everything was routine and the routine determined by someone else-the school board, principle, guidance counselors, teachers etc!. You have never had a choice in that routine!. Now you will (or soon will) have a say in your daily life!. Of course there is work and/or school that will dictate certain things, but still the choices are yours!. It's scary to all of a sudden be given the choices!. You have little experience in controlling yor own life!. What if you make the wrong choice!? What if you choose work over college-could that be a mistake!? Or even the vice-versa!. There's no one to blame but yourself!. Show me someone who doesn't think that's scary!. One thing I didn't learn until I was fifty!. You're not going to totally impress everyone, including your parents!. You won't impress teacher's with good grades!. We of course like students who study hard and participate!. But do it for yourself!. In ten years they'll be memories and not much else!. You and you alone will reap the benefits of the study and hard work!. Please yourself!. Do things to make yourself better in your eyes!. The boss likes hard workers, but in ten or twenty years he'll be retired and just a memory!. How will you feel about yourself for the job you did!. Do you feel you were the best mechanic/teacher/doctor or whatever!. You want to find your way, but remember in many cases the way finds you!. If when I was sixteen and went to a fortune teller and she told me exactly how my life would pan out, I would have her arrested for fraud!. 20 years in the Navy!? No way lady, Teaching!? My father was a teacher, I want nothing to do with it!. But I did those things!. I admit I was the best sailor in the world, but I was pretty good!. I'm proud of what I did!. I'm a long way from being the best teacher, but I helped a few people change their lives for the better!. Certainly not everybody that sat in my classroom, but a few is not bad!. I'm proud of what I do and you know what!? I'm good at it!. Stick in there, you will survive this!. It will take determination on your part!. Tilt at some windmills along the way!. Learn, adjust, relearn and live-Good Luck to you!. Remember me when you're rich and famous!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think you are getting smarter about the world and aren't liking what you see!. It's a spiritual path, and you are right on track and you are OK!. Don't worry so much!.
No one can see the future, so why try!? Just enjoy the day, WATCH WHAT HAPPENS NEXT!. Life is full of surprises if nothing else!. :-)Www@Enter-QA@Com
No one can see the future, so why try!? Just enjoy the day, WATCH WHAT HAPPENS NEXT!. Life is full of surprises if nothing else!. :-)Www@Enter-QA@Com
Just stop and look sometimes!. You'll see it!.
Then build it!. Do it right, and it'll seem as if you're being helped along the way !. Always be courteous of others(rich or poor) and don't discriminate!. Just do it right and be straightforward!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Then build it!. Do it right, and it'll seem as if you're being helped along the way !. Always be courteous of others(rich or poor) and don't discriminate!. Just do it right and be straightforward!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Listen to some Linkin Park or something!?Www@Enter-QA@Com
This is the Horoscopes section!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Chill out, smoke a bowlWww@Enter-QA@Com
u know what you need to get back to loving u!. i think u have lost that along the way!. good luck!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
dear you seem to be quite mature for your age!. u have figured out the weakness u have in u!.!.!.only few at age 18 can do it!. most of those teenies spend time wondering whether they should have sex or not!. u should be proud that u think differently!. honestly speaking, maybe u r depressed right now, but it wont stay the same!. i dont know why, but i feel somehow you are competing against yourself and this is what is making you think all this!. its not that you are trying to impress your parents, but yourself!. there is something called luck which at the moment is not with you, but if u keep trying u will turn out to be triumphant!.!.!.!.the way you have described your problem only proves that you are actually quite an efficient person whose sight has been temporary blinded, but it will show up again!.
yes, i can relate to this problem!. at least u have caring parents by your side, i didn't even have that! i was a good student like u, but in grade 9 i went through a serious thing that became a trauma for me and this really put me into depression!. i got no support from my parents!.!.!.!.although i started having below average grades i didnt lose the dream i saw for myself and today i am on my way to fulfillinf it!. just remember that after every night there is a day!.!.!.!.and when u r out of orbit u r the only one who can come back to it!. i actually learned to lead life independly after being betrayed by my own parents!. and i think being little selfish can get u a lot in life!. just my two cents!Www@Enter-QA@Com
yes, i can relate to this problem!. at least u have caring parents by your side, i didn't even have that! i was a good student like u, but in grade 9 i went through a serious thing that became a trauma for me and this really put me into depression!. i got no support from my parents!.!.!.!.although i started having below average grades i didnt lose the dream i saw for myself and today i am on my way to fulfillinf it!. just remember that after every night there is a day!.!.!.!.and when u r out of orbit u r the only one who can come back to it!. i actually learned to lead life independly after being betrayed by my own parents!. and i think being little selfish can get u a lot in life!. just my two cents!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Just hang in there!. You're still young and have a lot of living to do!. I mean!.!.!.I'm 40 and I still haven't found a purpose!. You just have to keep plugging away and eventually you'll find something that you like to do!. Don't worry about what other people tell you or expect out of you,because in the end you are the only person that has to live with you!. And as caring and loving as your parents are, they woun't be around forever!.
Just keep learnig from everything you do!. And don't forget the lessons life teaches you because you never know when you'll get a pop quiz! Life has a way of testing you every step of the way!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Just keep learnig from everything you do!. And don't forget the lessons life teaches you because you never know when you'll get a pop quiz! Life has a way of testing you every step of the way!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
thats quite common 4 your age dear!.
I think you need a break from your daily routine!.Tour some nice places with your friends and come back!.Give yourself some physical activity everyday(Say tennis)!.If possible meditate!.Listen to a wide range of songs everyday!.
Think of a nice job or imagine yourself as an MD of a company or something else!. dream about it day and night!.Then analyze how to become one!.chase it!
You don't have to impress anybody!.Be yourself!.They will be automatically impressed!. good luck buddy!Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think you need a break from your daily routine!.Tour some nice places with your friends and come back!.Give yourself some physical activity everyday(Say tennis)!.If possible meditate!.Listen to a wide range of songs everyday!.
Think of a nice job or imagine yourself as an MD of a company or something else!. dream about it day and night!.Then analyze how to become one!.chase it!
You don't have to impress anybody!.Be yourself!.They will be automatically impressed!. good luck buddy!Www@Enter-QA@Com
First of all, I want to say that no one is perfect and it sounds like you expect too much of yourself!.
It sounds to me like you need a change in your life, and you are the only person who can make that change!.
Do you have any interests in a future career!? Are you aware that you have talent for writing!?
I just posted in another section of Yahoo to a young person who feels she is not happy with herself and not pretty enough!. I suggested to her to do some volunteer work perhaps at a hospital!. I do volunteer work for children with terminal cancer, and it has changed my life and put my goals into perspective!.
I am reading your words, and I care!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
It sounds to me like you need a change in your life, and you are the only person who can make that change!.
Do you have any interests in a future career!? Are you aware that you have talent for writing!?
I just posted in another section of Yahoo to a young person who feels she is not happy with herself and not pretty enough!. I suggested to her to do some volunteer work perhaps at a hospital!. I do volunteer work for children with terminal cancer, and it has changed my life and put my goals into perspective!.
I am reading your words, and I care!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
this is kind of normal for your age so dont worry kiddo!.
i would recommend reading (boring, i kno i kno!.!.!.but it really works)"excuse me your life is waiting" by lynn grabhorn and "awaken the giant within" by tony robbins!.
you could also read "your best life now" and "7 steps to becoming a better you" both by joel osteen!. in fact!.!.!.read these before the top two!.!.!.they are awesome!. if you like joel osteens then you can read one called "the purpose driven life" by rick warren!. all three of these (especially joel osteen) will help you to learn to overcome your negative thoughts, get on track and stay on track!.
im sure reading is the last thing you want to do!.!.!.but think of it this way!.!.!.!.when you read a book by one of these great authors!.!.!.!.itls like your spending 5-10 hrs with them personally and they are literally just giving you the best advice and recommendations that money could buy!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
i would recommend reading (boring, i kno i kno!.!.!.but it really works)"excuse me your life is waiting" by lynn grabhorn and "awaken the giant within" by tony robbins!.
you could also read "your best life now" and "7 steps to becoming a better you" both by joel osteen!. in fact!.!.!.read these before the top two!.!.!.they are awesome!. if you like joel osteens then you can read one called "the purpose driven life" by rick warren!. all three of these (especially joel osteen) will help you to learn to overcome your negative thoughts, get on track and stay on track!.
im sure reading is the last thing you want to do!.!.!.but think of it this way!.!.!.!.when you read a book by one of these great authors!.!.!.!.itls like your spending 5-10 hrs with them personally and they are literally just giving you the best advice and recommendations that money could buy!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
first off i will say every one can relate to this in one way or another if that gives you any comfort!.
a lot of people go through depression and confusion in their life and it always is the same we think that whatever this current issue in our life is the only thing that matters that its so huge things will never be the same, well to that i say THANK GOD! welcome change and adversities in your life and know they will test you and shape your character and bring you where you need to be in the future!.
man if i knew then what i know now is some of the most popular words said by people because in hindsight everything looks different in the light!. embrace change and welcome it as the gift it is!. you are getting older and getting to that point where your expected to have all the answers on what direction you want your life to take but its not the case, so relax!.
millions of people have changed their major in college because they grew out of the direction they thought they wanted and its ok!. so you shouldnt expect yourself to have all the answers now!. the best thing you can do is to be true to yourself thats all that matters, do what you want, and find your own path because at the end of the day your going to be the one to have to live with your own choices!. your parents are just pushing you because they want to see the best for you perhaps its time to let them know that their way of helping you is actually hurting you and as a good parent they will back down and take another approach!.
i wish you the best and i want you to know the problems you are worrying about today will seem so insignificant in the future so take comfort in knowing every one goes through this and you are by no means alone!.
welcome to adulthood!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
a lot of people go through depression and confusion in their life and it always is the same we think that whatever this current issue in our life is the only thing that matters that its so huge things will never be the same, well to that i say THANK GOD! welcome change and adversities in your life and know they will test you and shape your character and bring you where you need to be in the future!.
man if i knew then what i know now is some of the most popular words said by people because in hindsight everything looks different in the light!. embrace change and welcome it as the gift it is!. you are getting older and getting to that point where your expected to have all the answers on what direction you want your life to take but its not the case, so relax!.
millions of people have changed their major in college because they grew out of the direction they thought they wanted and its ok!. so you shouldnt expect yourself to have all the answers now!. the best thing you can do is to be true to yourself thats all that matters, do what you want, and find your own path because at the end of the day your going to be the one to have to live with your own choices!. your parents are just pushing you because they want to see the best for you perhaps its time to let them know that their way of helping you is actually hurting you and as a good parent they will back down and take another approach!.
i wish you the best and i want you to know the problems you are worrying about today will seem so insignificant in the future so take comfort in knowing every one goes through this and you are by no means alone!.
welcome to adulthood!.!.!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Many have had these same feelings-like me!. People were always asking me what I wanted to be!. This bugs! I never knew!. How can a kid know what's involved in a job or career at your age!?
I just suffered through one job after another!.
I finally went with my hobby, rockhounding and jewelrymaking!. I was much happier not being bothered with bosses and employees that were always stabbing me in the back-some even stabbed in the front!
Patience will help you more than anything!. My faith helped me too, I am a Baptist, and there was always people at church who were willing to help!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I just suffered through one job after another!.
I finally went with my hobby, rockhounding and jewelrymaking!. I was much happier not being bothered with bosses and employees that were always stabbing me in the back-some even stabbed in the front!
Patience will help you more than anything!. My faith helped me too, I am a Baptist, and there was always people at church who were willing to help!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I have had these feelings!. What brings me back to center, to what is important in my life is focusing on my own creativity and my own spirituality!. Journaling helps too!. Sounds like you are growing and changing, which never feels good at first!. You will go through this process of letting go of what no longer works for you or feels true or meaningful to you, and then gradually put your time, mind, and energy into what matters to you and what is meaningful to you!. Slow down, breathe, hang in there, and get quiet!. The answers will come!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Yes I can relate, I was lost as a teen and for a long time there after!. the only thing that started to give my life direction was when I had kids (And no I'm not condoning teen pregnancy) but I do know that thinking of someone else helped me!. Not that I needed anyones approval but that they needed me!. It is a wonder feeling to be needed!. have you thought of doing any charity work of torturing or mentoring any younger children!? And try to take some some time to do some things for yourself, and to be happy with who you are!. I learned along time ago you can't be everything to everyone and in the end you have to be happy with who you are!. If you are true to yourself you will shine!. And as a parent I know your parents would love you no matter what your grades are!. Teen years can be tough and trying, but you will get through and you will be fine, and you will find a purpose!. And you Are Normal!!! very normal!.Www@Enter-QA@Com