I thought that Scoprios and Tauruses get along?!
Question: I thought that Scoprios and Tauruses get along!?
My mom is a Taurus and she's been driving me crazy lately!. She's just so stubborn and so annoyed with me, I just don't know how to keep her happy anymore!. I don't know her time of birth but her birthday is 04/30/61!.
I'm working my butt off to finish school and she tries to make me feel bad because I don't have time to spend with her!. Now she's already decided that I'll move in with her after graduation without even asking me and if I tell her no, she'll cry and call me the worst daughter in the world!. I just don't how to get along with her, we always fought like cats and dogs!.
I know this sounds kind of pathetic, but I just want to know what I do, so she doesn't feel like I'm a total failure!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I'm working my butt off to finish school and she tries to make me feel bad because I don't have time to spend with her!. Now she's already decided that I'll move in with her after graduation without even asking me and if I tell her no, she'll cry and call me the worst daughter in the world!. I just don't how to get along with her, we always fought like cats and dogs!.
I know this sounds kind of pathetic, but I just want to know what I do, so she doesn't feel like I'm a total failure!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Answers:
Hi Devochka!
I hope you are feeling better this am!.
Your mother is younger than I am -
Let me try to explain this from a mother w/ a Sagittarius sun's point of view!. You being her only daughter and one person with whom she can communicate puts you in the dual position of being a very special person as well as having tremendous emotional responsibility!.
She doesn't like the idea of losing the one person in her life that brings her peace, comfort and a sense of security!. She is clinging to a fantasy that it will never end!. Most mothers who have dedicated their lives to their children and face the day when their children leave to start their own lives go through "the empty nest syndrome!." It is nothing to dismiss as trivial - it is a very painful time!. The feeling is similar to someone breaking up with you that you love!.
If you sit down with her and reflect on her emotional state as you discuss the subject of you leaving the nest, it will bring her down from the confrontational state!. Tell her that it is hard for you too to leave the comfort of the nest but it is the natural order of things!. Reassure her that you will always love her and be there for her!. Tell her how important she is and always will be in your life!. Tell her that you know that who you are today is the result of her and that you will always need her support!.
If you take a contrary position with her, you will continue to get a fight - the last thing you need right now when you are trying to finish school and start a new life!. This is a period of high-stress for you!. She can't fight with you if you give her nothing to fight against!. Soften the blows with love and understanding and eventually you will get her support!.
I know this situation is especially tough when it invovles aTaurus!. They can be so darn stubborn!. Generally, the two signs (Scorpio & Taurus) are compatible, but there are so many other natal factors to consider!. For example, I believe that your mercury is in Sag!. A Taurus sun & Sag mercury can have some real problems when it comes to certain issues of values!.
One final note: You are not alone!. It is very natural and common for children and parents to argue during this time!. It is nature's way of encouraging the separation!. If children were comfortable and happy & parents were comfortable and happy, parents wouldn't let go and children wouldn't go!.
I wish you the best!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I hope you are feeling better this am!.
Your mother is younger than I am -
Let me try to explain this from a mother w/ a Sagittarius sun's point of view!. You being her only daughter and one person with whom she can communicate puts you in the dual position of being a very special person as well as having tremendous emotional responsibility!.
She doesn't like the idea of losing the one person in her life that brings her peace, comfort and a sense of security!. She is clinging to a fantasy that it will never end!. Most mothers who have dedicated their lives to their children and face the day when their children leave to start their own lives go through "the empty nest syndrome!." It is nothing to dismiss as trivial - it is a very painful time!. The feeling is similar to someone breaking up with you that you love!.
If you sit down with her and reflect on her emotional state as you discuss the subject of you leaving the nest, it will bring her down from the confrontational state!. Tell her that it is hard for you too to leave the comfort of the nest but it is the natural order of things!. Reassure her that you will always love her and be there for her!. Tell her how important she is and always will be in your life!. Tell her that you know that who you are today is the result of her and that you will always need her support!.
If you take a contrary position with her, you will continue to get a fight - the last thing you need right now when you are trying to finish school and start a new life!. This is a period of high-stress for you!. She can't fight with you if you give her nothing to fight against!. Soften the blows with love and understanding and eventually you will get her support!.
I know this situation is especially tough when it invovles aTaurus!. They can be so darn stubborn!. Generally, the two signs (Scorpio & Taurus) are compatible, but there are so many other natal factors to consider!. For example, I believe that your mercury is in Sag!. A Taurus sun & Sag mercury can have some real problems when it comes to certain issues of values!.
One final note: You are not alone!. It is very natural and common for children and parents to argue during this time!. It is nature's way of encouraging the separation!. If children were comfortable and happy & parents were comfortable and happy, parents wouldn't let go and children wouldn't go!.
I wish you the best!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
who said they get along!? this could be the best or the worst match, but doesnt mean they get along!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
You should get a composite chart done!. Unfortunately I don't really do them anymore but you said you didn't know her time of birth so her chart can't be made anyway :(
I would say some transits could be making things uneasy here but if things have always been rough, I'm thinking the moon and mars!. But this is just a guess!. The chart would tell more!.
edit: find her time of birth and I'll do a composite for you two!. Deal!?
edit: was thinking of saying deal or no deal although I can't stand that show lol!. Wow she must have something in the 4th house like the moon or sun!. But I see what you're saying, I'm afraid my mom will be the same way when I'm done with college!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
I would say some transits could be making things uneasy here but if things have always been rough, I'm thinking the moon and mars!. But this is just a guess!. The chart would tell more!.
edit: find her time of birth and I'll do a composite for you two!. Deal!?
edit: was thinking of saying deal or no deal although I can't stand that show lol!. Wow she must have something in the 4th house like the moon or sun!. But I see what you're saying, I'm afraid my mom will be the same way when I'm done with college!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
wheres dad in all of this!?
anyways!.!.!. mothers are losing one her baby's its normal for her to get alittle clingy i suppose when its time for her baby girl to leave the nest!? she knows your leaving and just want time with you!.!.!.
best problem solution is talking!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
anyways!.!.!. mothers are losing one her baby's its normal for her to get alittle clingy i suppose when its time for her baby girl to leave the nest!? she knows your leaving and just want time with you!.!.!.
best problem solution is talking!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Taurus are very stubborn and think they are always right!.
They usually don't give in, but they are also very reliable, when you need help!.
I am Pisces and married to a Taurus and we drive each other crazy!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
They usually don't give in, but they are also very reliable, when you need help!.
I am Pisces and married to a Taurus and we drive each other crazy!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Boy oh boy, you're dealing with a very hard sign to get along with!. It's always best to let a Taurus have their way, or at least let them think they are having their way!. They are stubborn and control freaks, and they'll make you feel any way they can to make you give in!. With you being a Scorpio, you are also very very strong minded and passionate about what you want!. So you guys will bump heads a lot!. Sometimes it's ok to let a Taurus know that you appreciate them and you will always take their feelings and advice into consideration, but you have to be your own person!. It'll be hard at first, but eventually she'll learn to respect you for it!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
was reading some of the answers !.!.!. a tad harsh guys!. im a taurus and im more like you than the mother really!. im sure there are stubborn and annoying tauruses out there but its not all!.
with the whole moving in with her after graduation, stand your ground tell her that you dont want to do that and if she crys has a hissifit and calls you the worst daughter in the world!. i advise to turn a cold shoulder and walk away from her!. its harsh i know but she needs to know that she needs to grow up and by the sound of things your grown up and independant and you need your own space!.
if she still doesnt want to let you go than make a comprimise with her!.!.!.!. call her every now and then (not everyday - but you can if you want)!.
you just need to stand up for what you want, dont worry about what she wants that much , its your life not hers!.
GUYS!!! be nice!!! jeezz not all taureans are like the crap you describing us as !!!!!Www@Enter-QA@Com
with the whole moving in with her after graduation, stand your ground tell her that you dont want to do that and if she crys has a hissifit and calls you the worst daughter in the world!. i advise to turn a cold shoulder and walk away from her!. its harsh i know but she needs to know that she needs to grow up and by the sound of things your grown up and independant and you need your own space!.
if she still doesnt want to let you go than make a comprimise with her!.!.!.!. call her every now and then (not everyday - but you can if you want)!.
you just need to stand up for what you want, dont worry about what she wants that much , its your life not hers!.
GUYS!!! be nice!!! jeezz not all taureans are like the crap you describing us as !!!!!Www@Enter-QA@Com
You can go get your birthchart done and then hers!. Taurus and Scorpios are opposite signs and can either be the best match ever or the worst!. Because Taureans are greedy and Scorpios are easily jealous!. They are both stubborn and un-forgiving!.
But if they get along, this could be a very friendly relationship!. You can talk to your mom and tell her that you're no longer a child and need time alone!. You will still visit her from time to time but won't have time to be with her 24/7!.
I'm an Aquarius and my mom's a Taurus!.!.!.I can tell you that me and her may be worst than you and your mom!. :[ I understand how you say she won't let you go out on your own!. They are always suspicious and thinks you're going to do something bad which usually gets on my last nerves!. :-/
P!.S!. You can get your birthchart done here:
http://www!.alabe!.com/freechart
Good Luck From an Aquarius!.
?C!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
But if they get along, this could be a very friendly relationship!. You can talk to your mom and tell her that you're no longer a child and need time alone!. You will still visit her from time to time but won't have time to be with her 24/7!.
I'm an Aquarius and my mom's a Taurus!.!.!.I can tell you that me and her may be worst than you and your mom!. :[ I understand how you say she won't let you go out on your own!. They are always suspicious and thinks you're going to do something bad which usually gets on my last nerves!. :-/
P!.S!. You can get your birthchart done here:
http://www!.alabe!.com/freechart
Good Luck From an Aquarius!.
?C!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
she doesnt think you are a total failure hon, just that she is a mother and mother has trouble letting their kid go live their life when they have grown up!. And mother, just like the moon itself, is good at emotional blackmailing ;) !. If you dont wanna move in with her, tell her that you have got a job where you live and reassure her that you'd come visit or you 2 will keep in contact frequently!. Or if you thinking of moving to where she is living ( which I dont think you do, but just saying it here ) , make a deal with her, tell her that you are gonna live by yourself !.!.!.!.Either way , you should let her know that you still love her and she has got nothing to worry about such as losing a daughter , but u need to live your own life!. Mother is like that, they have a hard time letting it go!. I am no mother but I am a cancer, ruled by the motherly planet, i can ralate to the " hard to let the past go " feeling!.
But to ask this, you are a very decent daughter !.!.!.:) Mom and daughter fight all the time hey , thats no difference in the case of my friend and her mom , but then in the end, you'd always want to have someone to fight forever!. :) It only strengthens the bond ya know!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
But to ask this, you are a very decent daughter !.!.!.:) Mom and daughter fight all the time hey , thats no difference in the case of my friend and her mom , but then in the end, you'd always want to have someone to fight forever!. :) It only strengthens the bond ya know!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Scorpio and Taurus are opposed on the zodiac!. So there's always a push pull sort of ego action!. But astrology aside your mother has to get her own life happening when you graduate!. Just because she's single and you're an only child doesn't mean that you're glued to her hip!.
Dig it, my third born son, who is 32, went through a bad patch!. Got a divorce and is now starting over!. So he moved in with me!. He and I have a GREAT compatibility!. We like the same movies, we laugh at each other's jokes, he loves my cooking and I love having him at the dinner table to talk to!. His Gemini Sun is conjunct my Gemini Moon!. My Mars in Cancer is conjunct both is Venus and Saturn in Cancer!.
He and his younger brother are talking about how they are going to make sure that I'm ok in my old age!. But we get along, you see!?
My relationship with my mother is much like you with yours!. She'd love to call me to complain about something every day but I don't put up with it!. My older sister calls her from across country EVERY NIGHT!. That creeps me out, big time!. My older sister and my mother have a great astrological compatibility!. I do not!. So even though my mother lives in the same city I do I don't call her every day!. The last time she called to complain about something I told her "If it's really that bad, Mom, I'll come move in with you and take care of you in your old age!." I've not heard from her in months after that comment!.
If your mother is making you stressed out and you're not living with her then there's no way you should move back in with her after graduation!. Not unless you absolutely have to!.
If she cries and calls you the worst daughter remind her that a parent's duty is to prepare their children to go out into the world to be autonomous adults!. She did her job and you're thanking her for it!. But draw the line in the sand and stand your ground!. Her pulling a guilt trip on you is abuse!. Pure and simple!. It's emotional manipulation and it's up to you to know your boundaries!.
There's nothing you can do to please her so don't worry about it!. It's not important for your mother to think you're a success or a failure, that's up to you to decide!. You are the only one looking back at you from the bathroom mirror when you brush your teeth!.
I know I'm going on and on about this but this struck a chord with me!. I was always the "crazy daughter" the "Beatnic daughter", the "Fat one", etc!. It took my older sister and me until we were almost 30 to get over the "fat, stupid, and ugly" programming my mother instilled in us!. Our Saturn return helped us get over that!. But years of feeling bad about ourselves had to be endured until we toyed with the idea that mom was full of crap and frankly crazy!.
Sweetie, go live your life!. When your mother tries to guilt trip you hold your ground!. You can't change her!. You can only change how you deal with her predictable behavior, ok!?
If you're curious as to what are the interchart compatibilities between the two of you go to this free site!.!.!.
http://www!.configurationhunter!.com/astro!.!.!.
Put in your birth data and hers!. Aunty bets you points that there are oppositions and squares between the two of you!.
If you need an understanding ear and a virtual hand to hold email me!. I feel your pain!. I've been there and survived!. BIG HUGS!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Dig it, my third born son, who is 32, went through a bad patch!. Got a divorce and is now starting over!. So he moved in with me!. He and I have a GREAT compatibility!. We like the same movies, we laugh at each other's jokes, he loves my cooking and I love having him at the dinner table to talk to!. His Gemini Sun is conjunct my Gemini Moon!. My Mars in Cancer is conjunct both is Venus and Saturn in Cancer!.
He and his younger brother are talking about how they are going to make sure that I'm ok in my old age!. But we get along, you see!?
My relationship with my mother is much like you with yours!. She'd love to call me to complain about something every day but I don't put up with it!. My older sister calls her from across country EVERY NIGHT!. That creeps me out, big time!. My older sister and my mother have a great astrological compatibility!. I do not!. So even though my mother lives in the same city I do I don't call her every day!. The last time she called to complain about something I told her "If it's really that bad, Mom, I'll come move in with you and take care of you in your old age!." I've not heard from her in months after that comment!.
If your mother is making you stressed out and you're not living with her then there's no way you should move back in with her after graduation!. Not unless you absolutely have to!.
If she cries and calls you the worst daughter remind her that a parent's duty is to prepare their children to go out into the world to be autonomous adults!. She did her job and you're thanking her for it!. But draw the line in the sand and stand your ground!. Her pulling a guilt trip on you is abuse!. Pure and simple!. It's emotional manipulation and it's up to you to know your boundaries!.
There's nothing you can do to please her so don't worry about it!. It's not important for your mother to think you're a success or a failure, that's up to you to decide!. You are the only one looking back at you from the bathroom mirror when you brush your teeth!.
I know I'm going on and on about this but this struck a chord with me!. I was always the "crazy daughter" the "Beatnic daughter", the "Fat one", etc!. It took my older sister and me until we were almost 30 to get over the "fat, stupid, and ugly" programming my mother instilled in us!. Our Saturn return helped us get over that!. But years of feeling bad about ourselves had to be endured until we toyed with the idea that mom was full of crap and frankly crazy!.
Sweetie, go live your life!. When your mother tries to guilt trip you hold your ground!. You can't change her!. You can only change how you deal with her predictable behavior, ok!?
If you're curious as to what are the interchart compatibilities between the two of you go to this free site!.!.!.
http://www!.configurationhunter!.com/astro!.!.!.
Put in your birth data and hers!. Aunty bets you points that there are oppositions and squares between the two of you!.
If you need an understanding ear and a virtual hand to hold email me!. I feel your pain!. I've been there and survived!. BIG HUGS!Www@Enter-QA@Com
Hello love, My name is Zaria Storm, and I am a spiritual adviser!. Love, the reason your mother is feeling this way is because your are growing up!. You are in a position that you no longer are depending on her as much as you used to!. she has no one else in her life that she feels that is going to need her the same way you did in your younger years!. This is not only making her feel that you are no longer her"BABY BOO", but it is also telling her that she is not getting any younger!.!.!. Love, there is a couple of ways you can handle this!. First, You could make her a really nice dinner, and let her know that by you graduating, you are going to have a boat load of new opportunities, and that she, and yourself are going to set up times that you can spend plenty of time together!. Be firm, but yet loving!. I personally would choice this next answer!. Take her out to a nice "Mothers day" brunch!.(or if you don't feel comfortable talking to her on mothers day, take her out on a nice Sunday afternoon!. After you eat ,and you are about to be served desert, tell your mom that you need to talk to her!. Ask her to just listen!. Tell your mom that it is time for her to understand that you will always stand by her side, but you are about to graduate!. You are going to need to be able to go at a whelm, that is the reason you are going to need to get an apartment on your own so you won't be disturbing her!. Let her know that it is not about what she wants now, it is about the responsibility that she has installed in you so that you can continue to grow as the women that she could for see when she got you!!!. Love, you are going to have to be firm with her because your mom is the type of woman that will pull any type of act to get her way, and as much sympathy she can pull out of the situation!.Your mother needs to get a hobby!. she depends on you entirely too much!!. You are going to have to puff out your chest when she starts with that crying stuff, and let her know that you really do love her, but it is time for you to to get YOUR LIFE started!.!.!. let her know that she WILL NOT make you feel like a failure for trying to be a successful asset to society,( the way she raised you to be), and that no amount of tears will make you decide that the best move for YOUR LIFE, is the one that she wants to dictate to you!. Love, I know what you are feeling, and going through with!. Please, DON'T allow your mom to make YOU feel that you are a failure because you aren't allowing her to run your life anymore OK love!.!.!.!. please, if you need some one to talk to, please email me at "zariastorm11@yahoo!.com!.!.!.!. blessings to you, and the best of luck/Www@Enter-QA@Com
I think it's more something between mother and daughter than it is between Taurus and Scorpio!.
Really, it sounds like my mother and myself when I read it; and my mother is a Scorpio! (and so am I)!. Besides, you're definitely NOT a failure, she's definitely stubborn (but then, isn't that a Taurus *and* a Scorpio trait!?) and I suspect she simply wants to see things *her* way, not yours!. Now, my mother has learned this very early - you have to let your daughter live *her* life, not yours!. I really hope your mother will come around to that epiphany as well!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Really, it sounds like my mother and myself when I read it; and my mother is a Scorpio! (and so am I)!. Besides, you're definitely NOT a failure, she's definitely stubborn (but then, isn't that a Taurus *and* a Scorpio trait!?) and I suspect she simply wants to see things *her* way, not yours!. Now, my mother has learned this very early - you have to let your daughter live *her* life, not yours!. I really hope your mother will come around to that epiphany as well!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
You two are in opposition! Each of you lack the trait the other one has and want it!Www@Enter-QA@Com
That's some dilemma !.!.!.!.!. and even if astrology helps or shows different solutions through these times, their is always free Will!. Unfortunately, this is what changes events to go into a different direction!.
Later down the road, you end up back at that fork in the road because you have chosen to take a detour!.
Taurus must be careful to keep faith with you, or the house will fall down without warning!. Now to explain her this is another story!.Taurus are stubborn and very possessive and so is Scorpio!. On the other hand, you cannot force a Taurus to decide and you should realize, that any decisions has to come from him even if you influenced it!.
Taurus is slow to change and you will need patience!.
Probably Saturn is transiting your 4th house which is typical when people relocate!. When Saturn moves through this house, it usually indicates that one may have to take care of someone older such as a parent or there is a seriousness within the family unit!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
Later down the road, you end up back at that fork in the road because you have chosen to take a detour!.
Taurus must be careful to keep faith with you, or the house will fall down without warning!. Now to explain her this is another story!.Taurus are stubborn and very possessive and so is Scorpio!. On the other hand, you cannot force a Taurus to decide and you should realize, that any decisions has to come from him even if you influenced it!.
Taurus is slow to change and you will need patience!.
Probably Saturn is transiting your 4th house which is typical when people relocate!. When Saturn moves through this house, it usually indicates that one may have to take care of someone older such as a parent or there is a seriousness within the family unit!.Www@Enter-QA@Com
This should prove to you that astrology is bullshit!.Www@Enter-QA@Com