How Well Do You Cope With Loss?!


Question: What is your sun (ascendant and moon sign if you know them) and how do you cope with personal loss? Examples are loss of loved one to death, loss of job, loss of friendship, loss of a love that you don't feel you can live without, etc. Are you quick to get back on your feet, or do you allow the pain to take over for a little while in order to heal?

I'm Cancer, moon in Scorpio, Pisces rising....death rattles me to the core because I can not deal with extremes such as NEVER. Knowing I will NEVER physically see the person again in this realm cripples me for quite a while. Usually, I am not quick to get on my feet after any substantial loss. I'm just curious as to how other signs cope?


Answers: What is your sun (ascendant and moon sign if you know them) and how do you cope with personal loss? Examples are loss of loved one to death, loss of job, loss of friendship, loss of a love that you don't feel you can live without, etc. Are you quick to get back on your feet, or do you allow the pain to take over for a little while in order to heal?

I'm Cancer, moon in Scorpio, Pisces rising....death rattles me to the core because I can not deal with extremes such as NEVER. Knowing I will NEVER physically see the person again in this realm cripples me for quite a while. Usually, I am not quick to get on my feet after any substantial loss. I'm just curious as to how other signs cope?

I'm a triple Libra ... sun, moon, ascendant all in Libra, with other planets in Libra as well.

My method of coping has always been to first go into a shock or forcefield like barrier when tragedy or loss happens. This is not something that I make happen, it just happens and seems to help me function somewhat.

After the reality sinks in, I go through days of depression and crying. At my lowest point I usually think I am losing my mind.

I pray a lot, and I look back on what helped me in the past, and what I've done to survive other times of desolation. After a while, I usually want a change so badly that I make my own changes.

I wish you comfort with what you are going through. With the signs you mentioned, I think you probably feel everything deeply. I'm sure that you are supportive of others too. With regard to loss of a loved one, I don't think we ever get over this? I think we accept a little each day. My heart truly goes out to you.

Scorpio Sun and Moon (conjunct) and Aquarius Rising...

A friend of mine from high school had been on the heart transplant wait list since he was nine. At 23 he died suddenly while walking across a parking lot. That one didn't bother me....he had been living on borrowed time so to speak. I know that he wanted to go just that way - almost instantly.

Another good friend from high school called me right before she committed suicide - and that didn't bother me much either - she had been haunted by plenty of demons, and I don't think anyone is ever able to recover after being shattered in that way - she wanted to go, and there was no deterring her...she died on her own terms and she isn't suffering. So I'm alright with it....

I've lost people to drugs and alcohol - and its tragic, but you deal with it by knowing that there is no other way that things could have been.

But its when I lose friends who are still walking and talking - Wow - that's what hurts. My best friend of 20+ years got engaged last year, and he stopped talking to me because our friendship bothered his fiance, among other things.

I haven't talked to him in almost a year - and I miss him everyday.

Its the "what could have beens" that are possible that really hurt.

I deal pretty well with the loss of a relationship. I'll listen to sad songs for a few days until I run out of tears to cry. Then I cheer myself up by thinking about what the future may hold and the possibility of meeting someone new.

Death is another story and I take that hard if it's someone that's close to me or even if it's someone that's close to someone that I love. When my brother's friend died last year of cancer I couldn't see through my tears at the funeral and I wasn't close to him at all. I just knew of him through my brother. I also was a mess when one of my friend's dad died of valley fever. All I kept thinking was that could be my dad in that coffin and I felt SO bad for her. She actually handled it better than me though. She was extremely strong. I probably would have broke down if that was my pops. Although I believe in the afterlife, it's just something about death that seems so sad and final.

The loss of a great friendship is just as bad because good friends are always hard to come by. You can meet dozens of acquaintances in a day but it takes time to build and establish a true friendship and once that's gone, it's hard to replace it with another one. There are some friendships that I still mourn to this day.....

You grieve and learn to live with it. That is what happen when I lost my daughter 18 years ago,Trace was 6 weeks off being 17 years.Their is no magic cure only time, but you don't forget.

awww. hi little miss water, i know you feel.

last time i was in this situation is that when i was at the airport, i was a mess throughout the whole flight haha, or other times when my friends need to leave, i cant stand it, just the thought of that someone in your life was missing and wouldnt be there again, i do get depressed ussualy. even just some chick ive met and weve been hanging around for a week, it doesnt feel good at all, i either make a scene and be dramatic or i just need some time alone by myself and think things through, because i know that void in my life would never be filled by that same person again

but in all of that ruckus, i do manage to move on 2 or 3 days after, and treat that day as a brand new day, that is after i drained all the fluids in my body

I'm a Virgo with moon in Pisces and Virgo rising. I deal with the loss of loved ones (morbid to some) very well. We are born to die so I don't fear it. What I do is ensure I enjoy that the people I love know they are loved while they are living. Nothing angers me more than when someone dies and people do ridiculous theatrics at the funeral such as trying to toss themselves in the casket or screaming and crying hysterically, especially if they could care less when the person was living. It has to be the logical Virgo in me that makes me feel this way and that my belief in God. The only death that bothered me was my cousin that was more like my sister. She was my only cousin that was my age and her death bothered me because I did not speak to her before she died. I kept calling her for three months and was told she was tired, got upset and stopped calling. The next thing I know, I get a call saying she was dead. If I had spoken to her before she died, I would have not felt so badly because I felt like I had gave in to my anger and given up.

I am pretty quick to get back on my feet after any loss. When it initially happens, depending on the severity, I have a good cry alone or I talk about it with friends. Once I've talked about it, I'm fine and move along to the next thing. I believe everything happens for a reason, good or bad and it's up to you to decide if you are going to let it affect you in a positive or negative manner. For me, I need resolution or closure, a reason, (that's that damn Virgo in me!) and then I'm fine. I don't believe in dwelling on things. Life is too short.



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