Ladies with conflicting Moon needs & Venus energies in the chart, do you find th!
Question: Do you find that you have to compromise a lot between your Moon needs and Venus behavior while growing up?
Like getting all attracted to one type and knowing in your heart of hearts that he isn't good for you... do you eventually receive a wake-up call and focus on what ultimately works for you in the long run i.e. your Moon needs?
i think this is one of the indicators for someone not willing to risk marriage, at least not too early in life. What're your experiences?
Ok, question is not restricted to ladies...guys feel free to answer as well too!
Answers: Do you find that you have to compromise a lot between your Moon needs and Venus behavior while growing up?
Like getting all attracted to one type and knowing in your heart of hearts that he isn't good for you... do you eventually receive a wake-up call and focus on what ultimately works for you in the long run i.e. your Moon needs?
i think this is one of the indicators for someone not willing to risk marriage, at least not too early in life. What're your experiences?
Ok, question is not restricted to ladies...guys feel free to answer as well too!
Well, the thing is that my Venus placement isn't just conflicting with my moon placement, it conflicts with practically all of the rest of my chart. Venus is in disharmony (by sign if not by aspect) with:
Sun
Moon
Mars
Jupiter
Saturn
Uranus
Neptune
Pluto
Asc/desc axis
Venus is somewhat in harmony with (by sign and *almost* by aspect):
Mercury
IC/MC axis.
astro.com says that my venus and MC are trine (consequently making IC/Mercury sextile), but they're 6 deg. away from being a real trine....a bit too much of an allowance IMO. Anyhow, if not exactly in aspect, they are harmonious, so have that much to be happy about:) I do notice the effects of Venus in Capricorn most beneficially in creativity (5th house) pertaining to work (MC in Taurus)...this venus placement IMO makes me very attentive to detail musically. Not a bad placement to have for someone who's clasically trained as a musician, and is now training others in the same tradition. From my perspective, anyhow...students might argue with that when I start nagging, haha:) At least piano teachers don't slap their student's knuckles with a ruler when they play wrong notes anymore...I'd have some students with really red hands! Funny thing is that the two students who give me the hardest time with this both have their birthdays the day after mine...and while as a teacher I may be anal retentive about some things as a student I was not so much until later in my musical career...karma. It's like teaching me...need to remember to apologize to my former teachers one of these days:-p
Tightest aspects Venus makes are squares to Mars and Uranus (both within a degree), so if it's basic incompatibility with Aqua moon isn't enough....
Basically, Venus says that I need stability and conventionality in a relationship. Most everything else says that I do not. Stability within a relationship is a bit of a joke to me, quite frankly.
Independent Sag sun, detached Aqua moon, etc...I think gives people the impression that I'm a lot "looser" (for lack of a better word) and non-commital about relationships than I really am. Or the opposite side of the coin...can surprise and shock people who see me as being conservative within relationships when they find out that I'm really not. What I need is a bit of both, but always seem to find one or the other. Am still looking for both. Have no interest whatsoever in marriage, though. Don't believe it's healthy. That being said, just because I don't feel the need to sign my life away to someone else contractually through marriage, doesn't mean that I don't want commitment within a relationship. I just don't believe in the paperwork. won't say that I will never get married. Will say that it's highly unlikely, though.
Growing up, my sun/moon/mars/etc...nature was frowned upon. It's not how I was raised, quite simply. I was raised to be Venus in Cap, but it's working against type for me. It's an aspect of my personality, but only one among many, and not even the most dominant one at that. More like a pesky little annoying one which is constantly "gumming up the works" so to speak. In regards to moon needs/venus energies as a child...I'd say that my aqua moon need for equality and independence was at odds somewhat with my venus in cap in the 5th with cap on 6th house cusp desire to be the perfect little girl. Again which I was not, really. But I can and did put on a pretty convincing front of the same, though. Still spend a good deal of time inadvertantly shocking people, though, once they figure out what I'm really all about:-p
Think that the venus placement sends out "doormat" vibes to the wrong people. Is not the case at all.
And yes, I have found myself attracted to the wrong type of men completely....too young, or too immature (not neccessarily both at once, but always one or the other). Or just out for a free ride of one sort or another, most likely due to being too young or too immature. Still looking for mommy sometimes:-p. Or salvation through a "good woman", lol! Whatever. I still do it. Have been pretty good for the past year or so, though in regards to that. Maybe I'm learning:) Not looking to save anyone from themselves. Have a hard enough time saving myself. Am further not interested in becoming nothing more than a "domestic goddess" in any way shape or form, even though I have the capacity within me to be that. I need more than that. So yeah, it's taken a while, but I think Aqua moon's taking over as far as my priorities in a relationship go.
That's it, I think. Will be back to add more if I think of anything else.
Great question!
Id really like to help but i dont have this aspect and im not a lady lol
heres a star though :)
What is great about this horoscope section is that it really makes you think about things:
Venus & Moon are squared in my chart. I didn't marry until I was 32 years old. Prior to marriage, dating was always so challenging for one reason or another - a lot of disappointments.
Marriage was and is a great compromise. I don't really think about emotional fulfillment anymore. I take the good with the bad and make the best of it.
Wow, I didn't think answering this question would be so difficult......
i have moon/pluto/asc/mars square venus/sun/mercury... so you can definitely see that i've always had trouble with this matter... and if it was more lopsided (like one side tilting stronger), it'd be easier, but as you can see, my important planets just happen to be divided relatively equally, making this matter complicated for me... it's just a tug of war that never ends.
i'm not 100% sure as to exactly how this affected my love life (or... most likely, lack thereof), and i don't think it helps that they're both in fixed signs (moon conjunction group in scorpio vs. sun conjunction group in aquarius)... so most of the time, i tend to not know what my heart desires and vice versa. even now, if someone asked me what "my desired type" was, i wouldn't be able to tell them... because honestly i don't know and haven't put too much thought into it.
most of the time, i don't compromise in that, i don't follow my moon's needs. i hate emotional intensity, and i rather observe such thing through human behavior (and make judgments based on it), or through movies and things... where i don't have to participate (and even then, i don't enjoy watching people get hurt emotionally) and usually that's enough for me. i have to say, i've never met anyone who had both emotional intensity and intelligence that i sought (and i'm also a little vain, in that i don't really go for ugly guys).
and because i haven't found a guy "worthy of my intelligence level (whatever that may mean) and emotional needs", and even if i found a guy who was at my level of intelligence, something else about him wouldn't attract me... ah, i'm blabbing.
the point i'm trying to make (i think), is that although i enjoy having relationships, it's usually only at a friendly level (superficial) and nothing more (and even when it's not at superficial level, it's usually not me who's pushing it to be deeper), and while my parents are already talking about grandchildren (which isn't remotely possible seeing i don't even have a boyfriend), i'm trying to push such thing off as far as humanely possible. and it's true; i agree that i couldn't dare just "risk it all" in a marriage, and often look at my friends who are getting married at such young age (... 22... which isn't that young in this society) with both wonder and amazement, especially since i've not even had one boyfriend or fallen in love once yet... ^^;;;
i have to say, i haven't gotten my "wake up call", and honestly, i doubt i'll get one... but we'll see if i wake up... oh, within 10 years? if i don't, i win $1000 from my mom (who's definitely sure i'll be married before i'm 30).
moon in pisces and venus/mars in libra, emotions and logic. i'm not sure if there's a conflict. but i know now never to underestimate the instinct of my moon sign.
What an interesting question! As an older Virgo, I have an even balance of my Venus and Moon needs, but when I was younger, it was a constant battle. My moon is in Pisces, so I found it hard to let go of relationships that I knew were not good for me. Prior to the relationship I am in now, I always attracted and was attracted to Geminis. All the relationships ended terribly, including a marriage. My Venus is critical of those I truly care about and love because I want what is best, especially when they are causing unnecessary chaos in their life. My Moon is romantic and will try to uplift the relationship even when it is in dire straits because I see the good in people. This was very confusing to my mates and they always ran for the border, hell, it was confusing to me. I couldn't balance out my emotional state with my logic and reason. How can someone so critical, analytical and downright harsh at times be so attuned to someone wants and needs? Someone with a big heart who is too realistic and too logical. I was never critical in the aspect of putting anyone down, but I made it known if they made foolhardy decisions that were not in our best interest. I was always made to feel like I didn't care about anything, but I did care about everything which is why I hung in the relationships longer than I should have.
I now have a harmonious balance between the two, but I must admit I am very skeptical of marriage now. I am not so quick with my tongue and take care with how and what I say. I didn't do that before, which is why my partners feelings were always hurt. It mattered not if what I said was true, it was how I said it that made all the difference. I take each day as it comes and I no longer have imagined ideals of what could become of a relationship.