How do I get a cancer girl to be more femminie?!
Question: my cancer girlfriend is a total tomboy, but I want her to be a little more femminie. how do I get her to change her ways?
Answers: my cancer girlfriend is a total tomboy, but I want her to be a little more femminie. how do I get her to change her ways?
I'm a cancer and i;m not too feminine either.... i prefer a comfortable style...but i do dress up when it's needed...maybe talk 2 her ask her to at least wear more girlie things on occasions...but not on a regular basis..she needs 2 be comfortable in her own skin..i know there are so many girlie things that make ME WANT TO PUKE! but i manage to still find things that i can pull off and be comfortable in...don't change her but advise her...on occasions to dress up with you sometimes might be a fair compromise..but why don;t you suggest to change something small about yourself too then...would only be fair to both of you;-)
1-accept her for who she is
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2-move on
you cant change someone
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why would you want her to change? there are plenty of girls more feminine than she is. whatever you do... do not let your girlfriend believe you value the more feminine more than you value her.
and, instead of thinking about her as "tomboy" think of her as "modern"
Love her for who she is. You could maybe try buying her a pretty outfit or something.....as I said, try.
maybe the other signs in her make her not want to be more feminine?
You can't force her to change, cause she'll either get mad or just not want too. Tell her she'd look good in something not tomboyish and see what she says.
Talk to her about it. If you can't talk about this there's more 'wrong' with you/your relationship than you admit/realise.
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You didn't say your age. Why do you want to change her, except her for who she is. What attracted you in first place? If you can't except who she is, move on and let someone else love her for who she is and except her the way she is.I can't understand people who want to change people. If she is young she may become a little bit more feminine in her own time, if she is in her 20's she is who she is. I have an aunt that looks male, I had a friend with me when I stopped talking to my aunt my friend said to me I tell your husband that you have been talking to a another man, I smiled and said that was my aunty the look on that persons face was priceless
the "feminine" signs tend to be more tom-boyish, believe it or not. And guys with lots of "feminine" signs in their chart, tend to be really macho. I kid you not.
You have to accept her as she is, or else go find someone with more "masculine" signs. They tend to dress very provocatively, be hollywoodish-style queens, etc.
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Give her the option of cooking you a meal or having your baby. That should shock her.
beat her
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Buy her something feminine. And when she rolls her eyes and says what the hek is this and u know I don't wear or act this way, say but I would like it if u did a little bit, or just this once..and act very excited and hopeful (or u really may be!) and if she still says no then just accept it. At the very least, you bought her something, and what girl doesn't like a gift? But when I do that with my boyfriend, he gets right into that suit and out of his scrungy t-shirt. Its not that you dont accept someone for who they are, it's that you should aim to make each other happy, and by golly if that means something as insignificant as throwing on a dress or a nice pair of slacks then just do it! Its a small price to pay to see the person you love smile. Good luck!
PS- LOL to the comment of "cook a meal or have my baby" LOL
buy her some dresses and dress her up , new clothes will do it, some nice accessories take her shopping , she may actually enjoy it , but be real into it like say try this and see how it looks and then really compliment her on it and say oh you are so pretty and i really love that on you, stuff like that, maybe she is shy and doesnt want men gawking at her, cause i used to have that problem when i was young, i didnt want that kind of attention and be bothered,by jerks.but now that im older i dont care anymore i dress up all the time, still get hit on , but whatever, grew out of the awkward phase,