My Cancer husband is acting weird ......?!


Question: Ok, so I'm a scorpio, my husband is a Cancer. We have a very compatible marriage and relationship, he is my best friend, and when we first started dating, we could not keep our hands off each other. Fast forward 4 years later, we have a 2 year old and I am now 7 months pregnant with our second child. While everything in our marriage is still going great, his interest in having sex with me since I gave birth to our first child has pretty much vanished. He's still flirty and loving, but when it comes right down to it, he makes no moves and acts tired. We usually do it once a month, if that, which is TOTALLY not cool with me as I like it to be at least 3-4 times a week. I'm wondering if it may be that he's sparing my feelings and is just not attracted to me now that my body has changed after having a child. He says I'm still sexy, and I think I still look pretty good, but like I said, sex is gone. He still looks at porn, doesn't want to talk about it, and I'm afraid he's cheating.


Answers: Ok, so I'm a scorpio, my husband is a Cancer. We have a very compatible marriage and relationship, he is my best friend, and when we first started dating, we could not keep our hands off each other. Fast forward 4 years later, we have a 2 year old and I am now 7 months pregnant with our second child. While everything in our marriage is still going great, his interest in having sex with me since I gave birth to our first child has pretty much vanished. He's still flirty and loving, but when it comes right down to it, he makes no moves and acts tired. We usually do it once a month, if that, which is TOTALLY not cool with me as I like it to be at least 3-4 times a week. I'm wondering if it may be that he's sparing my feelings and is just not attracted to me now that my body has changed after having a child. He says I'm still sexy, and I think I still look pretty good, but like I said, sex is gone. He still looks at porn, doesn't want to talk about it, and I'm afraid he's cheating.

It could be anything... you know him, we don't.

That said, Cancers often have a bit of a mother complex... It's THE maternal sign, afterall. If he sees you as a mother, then that can diminish him seeing you in a romantic/sexual context, and he may actually feel *guilty* if he treats you in such a way.

Also, Cancers often get very jealous of attention not given to them... they're compassionate and loving, and undoubtedly he loves the the new child even before it's born... but he may feel pushed out by the attention you're undoubtedly giving to the pregnancy, or dreading that you'll be taking even MORE attention away from him once the baby is born (memories of the last coming back and haunting him...). Basically, even though Cancers know better and know that something/someone else needs to attention more, they still mourn the loss of attention on themselves. Cancers love their tragedies, and expect everyone to baby them. That said, they're also very loving themselves, and very nurturing... so they *understand* and support, it's just tough for them to accept... which I think is why they don't address the issue/say anything about it, because they'd feel like a***oles if they did.

Or, it may just be cold feet... 1 child is tough, 2 is a bit of a nightmare, especially when they're that close to each other (note: the first one is just barely past being a baby... still very young). In which case many men have this problem (as do many women)... it's not really sign specific.

Or, it could be anything else. It's your relationship... you know it, you know him... so you're best qualified to figure it out.

You might want to putit to the test and find out. Remember we women with our INSTINCTS are mostly right. So if you have this gut feeling of him cheating then investigate it and proof it.

WELL MY HUSBAND IS A CANCER AND I'M A SCORPIO AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH.I'M HOPING AND PRAYING THAT WE CAN STAY TOGETHER.BECAUSE I'VE LET HIM DOWN AND I HOPE HE CAN FORGIVE ME AND JUST BE THERE FOR ME AND LOVE.BECAUSE THE MISTAKE I MADE I WAS HURT BY IT ALTO.I JUST WANT THING TO WORK OUT FOR US.BECAUSE HE DOES LOVE ME.THANK YOU

us cancers are hard to read..(back to my shell)

I don,t believe in all that astrology stuff but what ever floats your boat rite. but i,ve lived long enough to seen enough heard this one to many times i think he just might be cheating he watches porn then his mind is not on you and i don,t think it has to do with what you look like i,m sure your just fine Hun but this same scenario is all to often talked about and more than not it turns out that they are cheating it,s a hitting him he,s got a kid and one on the way responsibility has just hit him and he is feeling over whelmed with it and cheating is an escape for him sorry hope things get better for you p.s i,m not telling you to leave him or any thing like that good luck p.s.s. if my husband watched porn that would be enough for me to feel cheated on ! but the next time he watches it go turn it off and say lets make our own show. might work !

Listen to your intuition....you're a Scorpio, excellent at getting to the bottom of a situation! Be advised though that us Crabs are very hard to read and are almost as secretive if not downright sneaky as you are. If he doesn't want to make love, something is wrong. We Cancer's value lovemaking at the top of our list because it is how we feel most connected to our partners. That connection is broken and you've got to figure out why. Do some investigating and find out if there is someone else. There is no room for porn in marriage----you should be the ONLY woman getting your husband off!

i don't think he's cheating. it's a gut feeling, but i really don't think so.
i've been through a situation like this. no kids involved, but had a workaholic man who was just too plain exhausted/stressed and worried that his own performance was inadequate.
you're not supposed to be having sex right now anyways....so now's a good time to explore other weird things to do in the bedroom besides that.
why don't you surprise him and pop in a porn on your own and watch it together?
the sex will come back if you believe it will--don't force it.

If you feel like as if he's someone else, go check it out. There's nothing much Astrology can do if that matters.

Otherwise...

Cancers like Scorpios seducing them. And you need to tell him what and how you feel cos Cancers sometimes don't mind whenever a Scorpio just keeps his/her secrets to his/herself. Let him know. Let him ponder. Let him make a decision to set things right.

well rhonda be careful because as a cancer myself i know we can tend to hide our feelings and be fisty you guys really need to talk its not cool that he looks at porn what does he have you for thats disgusting try acting like you could care less about him and see if he notices i mean please of coarse your body is going through changes you are pushing a baby out of you take it easy and relax dont stess out it's not good for the baby

Sorry to hear that. Maybe it is a side effect of the chemo?



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