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Question: Hi, Im pretty hot and heavy for a couple months with a beautiful woman of the same age.(37) She has thrown the "M" word out there. I responded accordingly. I haven't asked her yet. BEcause she enjoys the woo of dating. She keeps telling me to slow down and take it slow.But I am very marriage minded and am anxious to marry her. I'm 37 and never been married and I have had alot of oportunities.
My Question is,she desires to be married also,so why would she suddenly push me away and ask me to slow down?She initiated most of our feelings and our togetherness. I have asked her how serious she feels she wants to be with me and I share my feelings openly. I've asked every feasible question thats revelent. I do know the human nature cat and mouse game of most girls. Show them too much love/attention,they will run. Does this scare them? Why would she bring a man into her life,into her kids lives,and cook for him every day,and invite him over,and them push him away when things are at the peak?
Answers: Hi, Im pretty hot and heavy for a couple months with a beautiful woman of the same age.(37) She has thrown the "M" word out there. I responded accordingly. I haven't asked her yet. BEcause she enjoys the woo of dating. She keeps telling me to slow down and take it slow.But I am very marriage minded and am anxious to marry her. I'm 37 and never been married and I have had alot of oportunities.
My Question is,she desires to be married also,so why would she suddenly push me away and ask me to slow down?She initiated most of our feelings and our togetherness. I have asked her how serious she feels she wants to be with me and I share my feelings openly. I've asked every feasible question thats revelent. I do know the human nature cat and mouse game of most girls. Show them too much love/attention,they will run. Does this scare them? Why would she bring a man into her life,into her kids lives,and cook for him every day,and invite him over,and them push him away when things are at the peak?
Dude, she's a lucky lady to have a guy like you. Her life is complicated ... with the "ex", the kids, the career, etc.
Though my advice may be "cracker-barrel-logic" in nature, I'll risk the humiliation of exposing it to you (and all readers, here):
Give her time. Men and women think on different wavelengths. (ours is better but don't tell anyone I said that. deal?) Their wavelength is as complicated but more intra-human-emotional than our own. If I were you, I'd not DARE rush this if it meant, perhaps, the slamming shut of a Golden Window of opportunity.
Just keep things as they are. Tell a few more "jokes-per-hour" as it were, respond to her uncertainty (or even 'coldness') with an added jostling of the younger of the kids and never, ever add pressure to the balloon. She's got herself enough.
All the best!
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My thoughts are is that you actually have a good woman instead of a horrendous vapid slut parading as such. Whether or not you are the one for her, if she is considering marriage to the degree of seriousness that it should be considered, she is just being careful. First thing you need to know is that it needs to happen in a romantic way and in its own time. Just because you both agree that you want to get married, it doesn't mean that that is the next logical step in the relationship. Take it as it comes. If it's going to happen, it will.
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You just need to give her time to think about it...this is a serious matter and she might be scared maybe from her past experiences and especially if she has kids from a former relationship...trust me i did my husband the same way pushed him away whenever he talked about marriage but things worked out for the best...just tell her how you feel about it !!!
Just relax.. please. You are 37 and have never been married, that puts up a red flag, now she could be concerned that you have intimacy issues... So just play cool. Listen to your heart but you must allow her to be wary and have utmost respect for her as well......... It's okay to share your feelings, actually that's realllly sweet of you! But going overboard with gifts and stuff if your asking to commit would put her radar up even more so keep it on the level ...... okay well, good luck = ]
Its probably too soon for her. Its only been a couple of months after all. Maybe she wants to make sure she's making the right choice. Most people are in this "honeymoon" phase early in a relationship and rush into a commitment too soon. Just slow down and take time getting to know each other more and focus on developing a strong relationship with each other. No need to rush into marriage and then realize a year ot two down the road that it was all a mistake.
listen up;
remember the key thing to lasting relationships is COMMUNICATION
ask her why she suddenly wants things slow
if she mentioned the m word i guess then there you go
or maybe she isnt ready.
i dont know you're wife so i don't know what she likes or doesnt like.
follow your gut. that's all i can say.
Uh... date of BIRTHS, please?
Yeah, birth dates would be nice.
But in the meantime, how much in love with her do you think you really are if you can already envision yourself with someone else?