Just wondering why my ex has returned to me after what he did?!


Question: Last year my ex broke it off with me. He then went on to meet a disgusting excuse for a human being via the internet who was interstate.
He went on to tell my cousin how great this 44 year old woman is even though she has five kids and is a grandmother of one. Then went on praising her efforts at being a recovering herion addict etc.

Then she dumped him a few days after xmas and he has since January been cosying up to me and last night he slept with me (we had protection) first time in a year. I no he has shown some remorse for his actions with this other woman.

Why is he returning to me? I had been with him for two years prior to breaking up and he returned to our home town after three weeks with this woman. We still hung around each other even though he was "with" her.

Ever since the dumping by his grandma whore he has been acting towards me like as if nothing happened between us.
Why is this?

His date is 08 March 1974 and my date is 30 January 1984?


Answers: Last year my ex broke it off with me. He then went on to meet a disgusting excuse for a human being via the internet who was interstate.
He went on to tell my cousin how great this 44 year old woman is even though she has five kids and is a grandmother of one. Then went on praising her efforts at being a recovering herion addict etc.

Then she dumped him a few days after xmas and he has since January been cosying up to me and last night he slept with me (we had protection) first time in a year. I no he has shown some remorse for his actions with this other woman.

Why is he returning to me? I had been with him for two years prior to breaking up and he returned to our home town after three weeks with this woman. We still hung around each other even though he was "with" her.

Ever since the dumping by his grandma whore he has been acting towards me like as if nothing happened between us.
Why is this?

His date is 08 March 1974 and my date is 30 January 1984?

Like many of my generation, natally he has Uranus in Libra. So he could be regarded as having a somewhat unusual (Uranus) philosophy on personal relationships (Libra), especially as his Jupiter is trine (giving it something of a boost).

Uranus was in Libra from October 1968 to 1975 (approximately). It was this transit that did much to bring about equal rights with regard to sexual orientation and gender, and divorce became more acceptable, so don't knock it! (?)

http://www.myastrologybook.com/Uranus-in...


Trine his Uranus he has Mercury-conjunct-Jupiter, so he should be able (trine) to discuss (Mercury) this generously (Jupiter), though not necessarily with you (I see your Mercurys are not in compatible positions).

Bear in mind that although you are an Aquarian, your Mercury, Moon (emotions) and Venus (love) are in 'business-like' 'practical' 'down-to-earth' Capricorn. Mercury represents intellect (thought) and communication.

Plus his Juno (attitude towards 'spouse' and ability to compromise in long-term close relationships) is in Aquarius (which is ruled by Uranus), whilst yours is square to it in 'conventional' 'slow-to-change', 'reliable', 'loyal' Taurus. The thing to note about square aspects is that they can allow for compromise (especially once we know they're there!).


"disgusting excuse for a human being" is not a phrase I would ever expect to hear from a sensitive, person-oriented, peaceful (hippy!) Pisces, which is at this core (Sun). No wonder he didn't make love to you for a long time? I'm not saying you're wrong to be harsh or prejudiced; I love astrology because it shows that/why we are all different in some ways.

I see you haven't asked about your compatibility, or what to do, or how to feel, but you have asked for insight into his attitude; remember it may well be similar to mine :

Personally, I believe that if a childless couple don't copulate for six months (and there's isn't a medical reason for the abstinence) they should split up or cease being monogamous, assuming they earlier agreed to be monogamous. His brief encounter is perhaps a symptom of you being unable to communicate well before. A stitch in time saves nine?

I figure that if one really loves someone (or humanity in general - peace maaaan) you would be able to accept/respect his alleged traits and 'failings' and be determined to enjoy each other, let bygones be bygones, live and learn. Life is short! Love is all? But isn't that why you stayed friends and are now back together?

IF you're suffering yet try to force the relationship to continue, you're being a martyr? It's your choice and you are entitled to your own philosophy, provided you've conciously formed one. I say this as I see you have no planets in Libra, so you may not have yet formed your OWN philosophy regards relationships. Perhaps recent events are the trigger for that. There is an indication of some difficulties for you that department, because your Juno is square (indicates conflict/dischord/challenge) your Sun.


It might be worth you realising that since about January 2006 Uranus has been conjunct his Sun, so he will have been (and still is) 'finding himself', finding it "extremely difficult to continue in a daily activity that is tedious, boring, or simply unexciting", he could "receive unexpected help from someone older".
http://www.cafeastrology.com/uranustrans...


Thankyou for raising the subject and sharing your situation with us. I'm currently going through a divorce, and discussing this here has helped me think more clearly about my attitude to relationships, and has given me an opportunity to hear other perspectives.

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I think the better question is why would you take him back? He seems selfish and disrespectful to you and you shouldnt let yourself be treated that way! He returned to you because he clearly cannot be alone, and my guess is he will do it all to you again if you let him! Hope that helps

i doubt this actually happened but it made me laugh. lol @ "grandma whore"

stay away from him. hes only gonna hurt you. His drug whore isint giving it up, so hes coming to you! do yourself a favor and stop making yourself available!

bc he knew that u would take him in...i wouldnt of taken him back...who knows what he has eeew

cuz he thinks you were the lucky Mega Million winner ? ?

This is typical behavior in the trailer parks of the world. You need not worry.

Hello Goodnight

I was in a similar suitation like yours and it took me 4 years to realise that the only reason they come back, is because we allow them to and they know that we would take them back.
Maybe he realise what he did was wrong but then again if he acting like nothing ever happen. sorry to say this "he is going to do it again, and then come back when things don't work out. and you would take him back. He knows how much you love him and he knows that you want him more than he wants you. Because he wanted you in the first place he would not of treated you the way he did and to add insult to injury. He told your cousin about this woman fully aware that your cousin would tell you. Let me tell you my situation... My son father was cheating on me with 45 year woman. I found out through one of my co-workers. I asked him about it, I cried my heart out to him he denied it. So I did some inverstigating, got her number called her up, went to her house asked her, she said ask him. Other occassion saw his car parked in front her house 4am in the morning, checked phone bill calls all hours in the early morning. Buttom line I had all the proof. Asked him and he said that I am crazy.. Showed him and he said that we cannot be together anymore because I don't trust him and he cannot be with someone who don't trust him.
I cried and cried and begged him, my son was only three weeks old when he left. He would come look for his son, he would call and i would ask when you coming to see your son and he would say, when i learn to trust him... Okay to make a long story short. After a while say 2 months he calls wants to see his son and he came. He told me that he was so so sorry for leaving us and i pushed him away and still denied being with her. I took him back and guess what he left again. and i took him back again. until i found out that his lady was pregnant, 45 year old pregnant. what the f.... i lost it. and he denied it still. I said enough, enough I started to pray and evenually everything fall into place. My son will be three years tomorrow and my son father only told me 3 weeks ago that he have a son with the same lady. Bottom line he now wants to get back with me and be in his son life. Then I lost it an curse his sorry a.. out. I am sorry to bore you with my response. But you shouldn't allow him to play with your emotions. He is only returning because he has no way else to go. He knows you would take him back and he a fix

You're an Aquarius and you let this guy play you like that?!?! You MUST have other contrasting signs in your chart because we don't put up with sh*t like that. Get some self esteem girl. Who cares why he came back to you. The real questions is why would you give yourself to someone after they treated you like that?

Oh My! What the hell is this??

What you should do NOW (I mean NOW) is to immediately dump him and never allow him to come back and step in your life again.

He sounds like he just wants sex this way? that way? anywhere else!

No more whys.

Start to think how to make your life goes on w/o this @sshole.

Sorry if I am being too mean. You don't even deserve asking such question!

i cannot comment on this but the bottomline is that did you choose a right partner?

This same thing kind of happened to me!!!! He divorced me and i did not put up a fuss. So we were apart a yr and now he is back and wanting to marry me again which i said HELL NO!!! I think part of the reason is that they feel comfortable with us...............we were married for 12 yrs. and we do know each other well. Anyway, i took him back only bc he had 2 back surgeries and i am helping him? BUT it does say in the bible to love ur neighbors, don't hate on these people, pray for them!!! So i feel i did the right thing for now. It's by no means easy but it does feel right and good at times!!! Good luck hon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You asked, "Why is he returning to me?"....so I'll tell you. He's a Pisces with a bruised ego because he was "dumped" by junkie and he has nowhere else to go....except back to his "momma" (you) because he knows you can be so easily manipulated. If you don't kick his butt out, then lay back and reap the rewards of this pathetic 33 year-old self-serving piece of ____ Fill in the blank, you already know the answer......



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