What can I do to win this guy over and make him mine? He is cancer and I am a ge!
Question: We met in Europe and had casual dates but I think after awhile I scared him off with my "being a gemini" meaning like I talk a lot. So once in awhile he would cancel on me. I started noticing it and was hurt. We spent my last day together before I moved back to the states, we had an awesome time driving around and getting lost. We had an amazing dinner and I started noticing that he was staring at me a lot so I just smile at him back. But here's the catch before he was never like that, he stares but not the way he did in that moment. As soon as I got back in the states, he messaged me on ym and told me that he missed me as soon as he dropped me off at the airport. I was shocked. I have to admit I did not expect that. The problem is now, I am back here and he is still in Europe. He still tells me that he likes me and sometimes when we talk he gets very obnoxious and it confuses the hell out of me. All I want is for him to make me his but we are so different from each other. pleasehelpme
Answers: We met in Europe and had casual dates but I think after awhile I scared him off with my "being a gemini" meaning like I talk a lot. So once in awhile he would cancel on me. I started noticing it and was hurt. We spent my last day together before I moved back to the states, we had an awesome time driving around and getting lost. We had an amazing dinner and I started noticing that he was staring at me a lot so I just smile at him back. But here's the catch before he was never like that, he stares but not the way he did in that moment. As soon as I got back in the states, he messaged me on ym and told me that he missed me as soon as he dropped me off at the airport. I was shocked. I have to admit I did not expect that. The problem is now, I am back here and he is still in Europe. He still tells me that he likes me and sometimes when we talk he gets very obnoxious and it confuses the hell out of me. All I want is for him to make me his but we are so different from each other. pleasehelpme
hi honey, i have a lot of experience with cancer guys... i'm a gemini... i read this great thing about cancer guys to help understand him:
1 if he's sullen or sulky, he's feeling rejected
2. if he's clingy, he needs reassurance
3. if he's whining, he's feeling sorry for himself
4. if he's crabby, he's feeling unappreciated.
to be honest, they are really easy to fall in love with because they are so cute, but they can be big pain in the *sses in the long run. they are extremely high maintenance and sometimes a little selfish because sometimes it is all about their needs and not about yours. on the other hand they are really warm and cuddly people and they truly care for people. one big draw for them is that they expect total committment before they give themselves to you, which can be difficult because you want to know them better before you give yourself... so this is a problem.
I am super super sorry....but....I HIGHLY DISAGREE about the whole "sign" thing...that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how you mix with people....hell, if I was worried about all that superstitious crap I'd be lonely....dont worry about all that Gemini Cancer stuff, sorry to burst your bubble and all but that truly has nothing to do with interpersonal and social bonding....otherwise we'd have a fat *** horoscope sign on our forehead....just talk to him....figure him out with questions, dont play hard to get or anything, be yourself......getting to know somebody takes a million questions, so use them all....
Dont start to assume anything about a person, you hardly know him on a personal level.....take it one step at a time, if its meant to be it'll be handed to you, if not then you'll definitely know for sure
Good Luck
Cancerians are vulnerable—to praise as well as criticism. Let them know directly and forthrightly how much you admire them. Nothing will draw Cancerians out of their shells more readily than the warmth of approval. Pick out a quality that you can, in all sincerity, compliment them on. Do you like what he's wearing? Her smile? Their ability to listen attentively (no one is better at this than Cancer)? Tell them so. Don't be insincere and single out some quality merely for the sake of having something complimentary to say. Cancerians can always spot the difference between the compliment that is sincere and the one meant only to cajole.
Show Cancerians the softer side of your nature. are you interested in charities? Talk about that. Or children? By all means. Or discuss a genuine personal problem that's troubling you. Then Cancerians will be able to show their best side: their empathy and ability to give constructive advice. Finances, politics, and sports are other areas that interest them greatly.
For a date, get tickets to the theater or to some art or cultural event. Cancerians respond to romantic, strongly melodic music, and are inclined to enjoy concerts and opera. A nice touch would be to pick a restaurant where there are strolling musicians.
Cancerians don't rush headlong into anything. They are essentially cautious, not to say skittish, about making a commitment. They try to avoid giving a definite yes or no. Tip: The longer they delay, the less likely that there will be a favorable outcome.
A true Cancerian sooner or later finds some cause for feeling injured. Their amazing memory dwells on the past and constantly recalls old wounds. A Cancerian who forgives and forgets is as rare as a vegetarian snake.