Scorpio/cancer?!
Question: he (the scorpio) called me (the cancer) "emotionally unstable." he called himself "emotionally volatile." what exactly does this mean? it hurt my feelings a little. is this what he really thinks of me? i guess it makes me think he could never be serious and totally commit to someone he thinks this of. what guy would want to be with a girl he thought was unstable? we are crazy about each other and there definitely is compatibility and attraction - on all levels. it's almost too good to be true. i mean, we are obsessed with each other. does this sound like the beginning of an unhealthy relationship? we are always getting on each other's nerves by sarcastic comments and joking around. in a sick way, making up is soo sweet and i fall for him all over again. we never really argue over anything serious. it's like we enjoy disagreeing with each other! it brings us closer. is scorpio and cancer a match made in heaven or a disaster waiting to happen?
Answers: he (the scorpio) called me (the cancer) "emotionally unstable." he called himself "emotionally volatile." what exactly does this mean? it hurt my feelings a little. is this what he really thinks of me? i guess it makes me think he could never be serious and totally commit to someone he thinks this of. what guy would want to be with a girl he thought was unstable? we are crazy about each other and there definitely is compatibility and attraction - on all levels. it's almost too good to be true. i mean, we are obsessed with each other. does this sound like the beginning of an unhealthy relationship? we are always getting on each other's nerves by sarcastic comments and joking around. in a sick way, making up is soo sweet and i fall for him all over again. we never really argue over anything serious. it's like we enjoy disagreeing with each other! it brings us closer. is scorpio and cancer a match made in heaven or a disaster waiting to happen?
A couple of you people have given some very petty, gossip-minded answers. You've read 1 small paragraph about their relationship... So how the hell do you condescend to know if they're "right" or "wrong" for each other, or make judgements on who they are (especially him... all you've gotten is a small amount of hear-say). Ugh!
Anyway... Scorpio and Cancer are generally a good match, and have one of the most intense connections in the entire Zodiac (if not THE most intense connection). That said, there are also problems... Cancers are often emotionally manipulative to protect themselves/get control and often play the "martry" role to do so, and Scorpios are often temperamental and over-react by yelling/becoming vengeful when they feel their feelings aren't being given the consideration they deserve... and it creates a vicious cycle. Likewise, people often under-estimate how sensitive Scorpios are, but Scorpios rarely under-estimate how sensitive (or insensitive) others are. Likewise, there's much more than a Sun sign for compatibility.
That said... a Scorpio calling someone "emotionally unstable" isn't necessarily an insult. It may be said as an insult, but... most Scorpios (myself included) actually admire it. And before anyone jumps in and says "Scorpios are evil and like to see other people hurt", let me say WHY we admire it... Because we hate indifference. We hate coldness. We hate lukewarm feelings. We like passion and intensity, and compassion and empathy. Anyone who could have such mood shifts (ie: emotionally unstable) obviously isn't indifferent, cold, or lukewarm. They're very compassionate, passionate, and empathetic individuals. And we RESPECT that. That said... the way someone acts in their unstable state, and the way a specific Scorpio responds... it can either be a warm and beautiful connection, or a constant emotional war. It depends on the dynamic of both parties... not just one or the other. Remember... a relationship is mutual.
Scorpios and Cancers tend to have a very intense connection, but they also often have unrealistic expectations of that connection (and of each other). It depends on what you expect of each other... whether you simply admire and love each other, or if you expect some grand fairy tale-like understanding of each other. Scorpios and Cancers understand each other better than most any sign understands any other sign... but neither feels that level of understanding is enough. So, in good relationships, they constantly explore each other and further understand each other in romantic and somewhat playful way. In a bad relationship, they rip each other apart to try to get even more out of each other.
So, probably the best connection ever, but with one of the most volatile clashes.
That said... calling you "emotionally unstable" isn't an insult from a Scorpio. In fact, it could very well be a disguised compliment.
So... it's your relationship. You know him, he knows you. None of us know either you based on 1 paragraph. We're all completely strangers. So have enough respect for yourself, him, and your relationship together to not listen to what ignorant/petty/uninformed people say about you (only idiots give advice about relationships they don't really know about). You know all the specifics of the situation and know what the relationship is like through and through. If it feels "unhealthy", then it probably is... and you need to decide what to do from there. Here, we can only give some GENERAL insight into the ways signs interact with each other. We can't really give advice on a specific relationship consisting of two strangers who are also individuals.
Also, both Cancers and Scorpios tend to like some amount of romantic drama (the most emotional signs in the entire zodiac). They generally feel like they can express their true selves better around each other, and their true selves are, frankly, a bit volatile. So it makes sense the relationship always has a bit of an over-emotional edge, which seems odd to people looking in. It's just a matter of how well you're WILLING to understand and accept each other. You can have the emotion-fest in a warm and playful way (ideal), or a fierce and "violent" (though not physically... neither sign is particularly physically violent) way (not so ideal).
MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN.... seriously... Perfect!!! I can tell you this from experience... Me (cancer) and have had several (Scorpio) boyfriends... VERY compatible and TONS of chemistry.... HOT... HOT... HOT!!!
If things COULD work between a Scorpio and a Cancer I wouldn't be so miserable.
Scorpio and Cancer are the best lovers and friends but because you are both so similar, the things that draw you together could also tear you apart.
It is a perfect match in astrological terms, but if there are other distractions or differences it could get unsettling for you both.
Emotionally volatile is a Scorpion's way of saying he/she is very passionate to the extreme, whereas an emotionally unstable Cancer means you can be uncertain about your feelings for certain things. So Scorpios can lead you in the right emotional path.
Stick with this guy and accept that bad times come and go, but you will be loved forever by this Scorpio.
There are more variables involved in the health of a relationship than astrological signs. The fact the this person displayed his disrespect for you is the independent variable to me. Yes, cancerians can be emotional, but they are also tough. Scorpios really, and I say this strongly, have a tough time being emotionally honest. Whatever produces feelings of insecurity in them, they will attack. Most of the time the hostility is displayed in an acceptable behavior. They will ignore a person, or will not participate in an activity if which they fear being bested. They can be ambitious, and present a really attractive sexual aura, determined, but for me, I would not be in a relationship with one.
Ah yes.....Been here b4. Scorpios, sometimes i love to love them other times i love to hate them. The attraction of us cancers and scorpios I believe is magnetically too strong. Tell ya what, try looking up full natal charts for a more thorough understanding. Factors such as moon, rising, venus etc. will tell you more then just sun sign interpretations.
Woah baby, lets back up and learn a little about yourself. Cancers are ruled by the moon. The moon brings up emotions. You Cancers cry over anything and are highly sensitive. Scorpios are very deep signs. Just like when they sting you with there scorpion tail it burns deep. Geminis are the ones to be known for being unstable. He probably just mean that you are emotional and he doesn't understand that is just in your nature. Here is some of what the Cancer Scorpio relationship would go:
Cancer and Scorpio are both water signs, which means they can swim through the emotional depths of a relationship together like enchanted water nymphs. The tides of Cancer's feelings changes like the tides of the ocean, but Cancer and Scorpio are both able to go with the flow. On the surface, it seems like Cancer's emotions are more up and down than Scorpio's. While there is less turmoil on Scorpio's exterior, though, there are powerful and intense passions stewing beneath the surface. A relationship between a Cancer and a Scorpio will never be just a casual fling.
As a Scorpio I dont think you should take it so serious... I think you are taking it too far (reading into it too much) and we are not abusive like some are suggesting or say is what's going on within us, if you are uncomfortable then break up w him, find someone who you feel comfortable w and do both of you a favor (as in not wasting time), geez whats the deal?
I am a scorpio woman - my ex-husband was a Scorpio. I have a close friend who is a Libra married to a Scorpio -- and let's say, the Scorpio men are nothing like Scorpio women. I find them to be sneaky and underhanded and this is based not only what I went through with my ex, but hearing other women talk about their experiences with Scorpio men. Although Cancer and Scorpio is supposed to be a match made in heaven.
You are both water signs. Scorpio is self-centered and a ruthless jerk. I would dump him if I was you. You sound like you are too sweet to be with a Scorpio.