well it depends on how long you were with that person
its not really does anyone know how long it is its just how long you let it be you have to try to move on as quickly as possible but yes i have dated someone that i used to date and its going pretty well all of my feelings came back to me and right now we are engaged to be married and i have never been more happier with him then i ever was before
The issue is "attachment". How attached are you to the results, or the effects, you produce in life? How attached are you to people, to memories, to feelings? The less attached you are, the faster it is to "get over" something. But that idea of "getting over" something really isn't accurate. It's not about getting over anything, which sounds like crossing a river, getting over an obstacle. Once again, it's the "charge" -- the energy you've given the thing, the power you've given someone or something to hold over you...and it's all wrapped up in the idea of attachment.
Never "dump" people, always break-up if you feel the need to end a relationship.
How long it takes to move on will vary...such things as depth of feeling, duration of relationship, etc will likely have a bearing on whether or not someome thinks 'bummer' and goes about their life, or is heartbroken and spends months trying to heal.
If it takes someone years to move on, I'd say they may have had an unhealthy dependence on their former lover. That's a lot of time to waste over a situation ya probably can't change.
No, haven't yet dated a previous lover a 2nd time. Thus far when things have been over, they were over for good (whether it was his choice or mine).
No, I'm a Libran, and I have gone back to old friends, but I have learned not to do that. I wouldn't want to get reunited with ex-boyfriends because when it's over, it's over. I once read that it takes a person 6 months to get over an ex, but I believe it depends on the person. I believe in not looking back. Just shut that door and thank your lucky stars for your freedom.
I am a Virgo and it depended on the feelings I had for the person how long it took me to get over them, but it never took years and I don't dwell on the past either. I have never and would never get back with an ex either. If it didn't work the first time, why go for seconds? I don't believe in going backwards in life.
I am dating a Capricorn and he has never been single in his life since divorcing his wife. He has gone from one relationship to the next. The divorce rocked him to the core and although it has been over 15 years, he still has not recovered. I can tell because when he speaks about her, I still hear the venom in his voice. He says he wants to get married again and that he has been looking, but then there is always something wrong with the woman. I believe because he has not healed from his ex-wife and he lost everything in the divorce, he is afraid of getting hurt again, he won't allow himself to really let go and be happy. He has also gone back with ex-girlfriends because it makes him feel good that they want him back, but they want him back only after they have went out and dated other men. He's afraid of being alone and wants to be loved so badly, but is also afraid of letting someone get too close to him. With me, I tell him to take his time and enjoy me and us together. Let's not talk about marriage or even tomorrow; let's bask in the joy of today and see where it leads.
I think we have a good chance of making it. We are both earth signs and have much in common personality wise, so although he is older than me, I am teaching him to love again and be happy.