My Virgo bf... what could he mean by his behavior?!
Question: Ok so I've been with a Virgo for almost three years now... I love him dearly and he is the sweetest guy but he does get in his moods and is on one now. I know him and I am used to it, I ussually give him his space and we're all good in a few weeks but this time its different. He "hasn't been himself" in more than a week now, and he has seen he has been acting different towards me too. Yet when I ask him what he wants if he still wants to be with me he says I dont know im sorry. It just tears me apart. I can hear the "hatred" in his voice and I dont know why. He is going through some things I know but it seems he is taking it out on me. It seems he's pushing me away then pulls me back, Hes distancing himself from me. I dont mind it once in a while(since i know how he really is) because I get moody too when i need my space, but this is too much already! I dont want to end things, I love him dearly but what should I do. I decided to give him more time to deal with his problems. Im cancer.
Answers: Ok so I've been with a Virgo for almost three years now... I love him dearly and he is the sweetest guy but he does get in his moods and is on one now. I know him and I am used to it, I ussually give him his space and we're all good in a few weeks but this time its different. He "hasn't been himself" in more than a week now, and he has seen he has been acting different towards me too. Yet when I ask him what he wants if he still wants to be with me he says I dont know im sorry. It just tears me apart. I can hear the "hatred" in his voice and I dont know why. He is going through some things I know but it seems he is taking it out on me. It seems he's pushing me away then pulls me back, Hes distancing himself from me. I dont mind it once in a while(since i know how he really is) because I get moody too when i need my space, but this is too much already! I dont want to end things, I love him dearly but what should I do. I decided to give him more time to deal with his problems. Im cancer.
Sounds like he's going through a rough patch in his life right now...does he happen to be in his late twenties to early thirties right now? If so, then this is the infamous Saturn Return period, when everyone must undergo some sort of major crisis in his/her life and be transformed.
Being a Virgo, which is a quiet, passive earth sign, he's probably unconfrontational as wehn, even when faced with pressure. A lot is probably going through his mind right now, since Virgos love to take everything apart and analyse everything. Also, this sign does not handle chaos very well and everything in his world usually has to be well-organized to a certain extent for him to be able to function effectively. He's also big on worrying (some of it can be paranoia) and this can drive the people around him crazy.
Being an earth sign myself, I would suggest that you give him his space and need to be alone (don't take it as he's deliberately pushing you away..that's how we figure things out better) and make him feel appreciated whenever he can. Take him out to nature or give him a sensual bodily massage to ease his tension and anxiety. Do not ever push him over his limits by being too clingy or emotional/sensitive (being a Cancerian and all). It will irritate the hell out of him.
HE IS ON DRUGS
Don't read so much into your astrological signs, but more into the signs he is giving you. He has told you that he's not sure if he wants to be with you which may seem harsh but is very honest and you need to discuss this with him. I wouldn't sit back because it doesn't sound like this is just a mood he is in.
Forget about your horoscopes! His "moods" last for a few weeks, so you give him his space?!! He is telling you by his actions and his words, that he "doesn't know" if he wants to be with you. I've had my share of relationships, and all I can give you is my advice. When someone tells you he's not even sure if he wants to be with you, and speaks to you with "hatred in his voice", he's telling you all you need to know. I know, he's a great guy except for when he's in one of his moods, but that seems to be a LOT! Why would you put up with that?
He's probably waiting for the "Big Fight", so he can break it off with you. He doesn't want you, but he wants you. You probably make it easy for him, with all of your waiting around for him to be in a good mood again! Why try and figure out what his deal is? What do YOU want!
He's distancing himself from you, and because you are the homebody, family type person (that you probably are), you are patient waaaaay beyond what a normal person would be.
Sounds like he's just not that into you anymore, but doesn't have the guts to just end it, so he's waiting for you to do it. There's more than one way to ask for what you want, and he's doing it. Listen to him girl! Why sit around waiting for him to make the decision about your life. You decide what's enough, and how you want to be treated.
Good Luck,