If the parents are really stict to their children what do you think the children!
Question:
If the parents are really stict to their children what do you think the children will think about?
Just a thought, I see on tv sometimes how parents beats their child for nothing and alos the parents don't give their children freedom they have to clean or do other things for them before anything else. Have you all seen wife swap where one of these family had their children sign a pass to get to the bathroom,and they can't do anything fun unless they have finished HW, dishes, laundry and so many more. If they did something wrong the parents would have to auction one of there things to the other siblings. Don't you think that is kind of wrong, especially using the bathroom you had to sign in and out when using it...
Answers: Well, for a "talking ***", he seems to know what he is talking about and makes a good point. I, too, was brought up the same way. While we didn't sign for the bathroom we signed for the family room. The purpose of this was to teach responsibility and accountability. If a mess was found in the family room, my parents looked for the sign in sheet and the last person to sign was responsible for cleaning up the mess. It made no difference if we had friends in there that made the mess. Bottom line, the person who signed for it was held accountable. This was a lesson that helped me later on when I had jobs where I had to sign for valuable equipment or money.
Sadly today, it seems as if these lessons aren't taught anymore. I see children in public who are loud, rude, and have a "Don't worry about it" attitude when they break or mess up something. The sad thing is, a lot of them have parents who act the same way.
My parents believed in "spare the rod, spoil the child". Because of this upbringing I am polite, punctual, and responsible. I know how to prioritize (do what has to be done before having fun). I know that there are consequences for wrongdoing. Before I got married, I was able to cook, clean, and do laundry. I still do these things in my home today. It is my hope that the children of strict parents will become all of these things and much more. homework is above all.... i do believe because the education of you child really does lead to what your child will become. i do believe however that a child is a child and deserves to be a kid....have fun, play....
really really strict paremts need to change some things and be more lineant with others I'm a mean mom. I make my kids clean their room, pick up after themselves, and do their homework before watching TV. Sure, I get upset when they do stuff they know they shouldn't (such as hitting each other, lying), etc. I don't agree with some people's methods of parenting but who am I to judge someone else? (Although I think that your example of signing in/out to use the bathroom is just plain cruel.) The only thing I didn't like about the family is the children not being able to act like regular "kids" and enjoy their life. It would be a shame to look back on your life and you really didn't have any fun. some parents are like that if their parents treated them in the same way.. so they will copy the attitudes that their parents had on them, i think most parents that are strict do it for their childs own sake... to teach them dicaplin and make them better people, but some do go over the top. i think a child should have a reasonable amount of freedom so that they can learn independantly. i mean home shouldnt be like a prison and homework is important but it is also important that a child should do other things in their own time, things that are fun, otherwise they will get so bored of working that they may give up on school altogether and grow to hate it.
when i was younger, my parents wasn't strict at all and they never nagged me to do homework or anything and i think because of that i did it as my own choice because it felt like it was my decision and i didn't feel pressured and i like to think that if i ever had any children of my own, i would treat them the same way that my parents treated me.
other things like housework, i never got told to do any of that, i still choose to help my mum out though.. i actually enjoyed doing it because it was my choice and was a good way of spending time with my mum. it never really felt like a chore, more of an activity. and even though i didn't have any rules.. that didn't make me grow up with an attitude, i was always polite and helped people when i could. i think its to do with the way parents treat their kids.. like if they act like teachers towards them, its no wonder that they will rebel, if you give them responsibilty then they will grow up to learn that they should do things the right way. obviously, the parents should teach them right from wrong but that doesnt mean shouting or been strict.
i do however agree with you, i think some parents need to be a little less strict with their children, but at the end of the day its no ones elses decision than the parents.